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Angela - posted on 08/08/2016 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Hi we are in a desperate situation our daughter is unfortunately a pathological liar and she has a 12 day old baby boy who have been staying with us since day one now I'm concerned she will try n stop us seeing him out of nowhere we had her stomping around our house like a child ignoring us and took the baby up to her room?? We had a heated argument beforehand as she wanted to give her boyfriend ( who we thought by her telling us he was no good) her car ? So we weren't happy with this so then when she went to his mums house we find out through them about all the lies she's been telling us about them God knows what she's said about us this isn't the first time she's caused us problems with her boyfriends n their families she always ends up moving in with them making out were the bad guys this has been going on since she was 16 she's now nearly 21 but it's different now as she has our 1st grandson too and my husband n I have done nothing but support her over the years and tried to be there for her but she constantly hurts us and we can't understand why??? Our hearts are breaking again but more now as we think we might not see Miles !! We've been with him for nearly two weeks and I'm completely stumped in why she would want to turn us against her boyfriend and family?? We can't take anymore it's been going on for years are we right to just let her get on with it but stress to the boyfriend that we would like to still see the baby? Has anyone else been through this ? I'd understand completely if we where the worst parents in the world but we're not we love her so much but she doesn't seem to care she's cold I don't get it 😪Any advice would be appreciated as we're at a loss plus it's embarrassing admitting to the boyfriends family and him what she's like but of course she's denying it all I can't believe all this is happened again I can't emotionally and mentally deal with this anymore I don't know what to do I don't want to do what we always do forgive n forget as she's unbelievably hurt us even more now which we didn't think was possible 😪😪

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Staci - posted on 08/09/2016

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I feel your pain. I have a 22 year old who also lies. The lies usually have to do with telling us things she thinks we want to hear. It always puts her in good standing and everyone else is in the wrong - and yet it is all lies. In March of 2015, she blessed us with a beautiful granddaughter, who was born with Down syndrome and a heart condition which would need to be taken care of in the four months of her life. My daughter ran the streets through her pregnancy saying "her life was going to be nothing but taking care of the baby". Her life didn't change she continued to run the streets. When my granddaughter was seven months old, my husband and I had enough of our daughter coming and going. She was there just enough to disrupt all of our schedules. We threw her out. It was the hardest thing I ever did but I know it was the right decision We took our daughter to court and got guardianship of our granddaughter. Nine months later our daughter wanted to move back in and we let her with a lot of stipulations. We did not give guardianship back. Trust was still an issue and I wasn't ready to give her back control. We had always financially supported the granddaughter and my daughter works a job that will never allow her to afford to support her daughter. That is one of our stipulations. My suggestions would be to start documenting every lie, every times she comes and goes, sanitary pictures (diapers laying around). Grandparents have rights and it is all in documentation. I hope I helped you to know that you are not the only one with a daughter who doesn't act in the manner she was brought up in - mine daughter attended a private Catholic school. Clearly I could have spent the money a bit more wisely. My prayers go out to you and your family.

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Angela - posted on 08/15/2016

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Thank you B Parker the read did make sense and confirmed that we are doing the right thing and on the same page, we haven't seen our grandson for a week now and I can't speak to Chantelle just yet as it still hurts, she constantly sends attitude type texts to my husband as for some reason he won't block her number for now as I've had to do as we can't have all this every day, am I being harsh doing this? It gives me peace n quiet away from the abuse n attitude that I don't need and can't deal with on a daily basis 😪In still in disbelief of everything that's happened and we're getting parcels for her for Miles and I don't know what to do 😢We made a basket of gifts for them too but we don't know what to do with that either 😟😟 it's just a mess

Angela - posted on 08/11/2016

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Thanks staci, I'm sorry you've been through a lot too, it's been nearly a week now and we've only had contact from the council asking if we threw her out as she's saying she's homeless?? We had rickis sister message then phone us as she couldn't get her head around all that Chantelle has been telling her n her mum, but she saw a few snippets of Chantelles not so very nice character shall we say and she is now asking questions but unfortunately for her Chantelle told her if she spoke to us she would never see Miles again! She's stuck to her word she's manipulated her mum to the point that she's went against her own daughter and Chantelle has managed to get ricki to block his sister of any means of contact? Why is she doing this? Thankfully rickis sister did get in touch, we where nervous at first thinking she was going to have a go but she was actually sympathetic and she did say that she's not letting our daughter destroy her family and I don't blame her as Chantelles managed to turn her own mum against her and her brother? They don't really know her, when it all comes out in the open which it will one day the people that she's lied too will be utterly shocked and quite possibly appalled as rickis sister said to her mum ' somethings not right, why would her parents do all this ?' What she did tell us that Chantelle has been saying is unbelievable and very hurtful as all through her pregnancy I was a taxi for her and ricki, she made out to my husband and I that rickis mum wouldn't do anything for her wouldn't run her anywhere, would disappear upstairs when she turned up with the baby, and also said to them 'I don't want them is us, having Miles as they'll steal him?' This is totally ridiculous, we offered to watch him sat and drop him back home sun and rickis mum saw the message and suggested to her it would give them a break and then that's what she said to her, now the mum is defending her, I can't believe she's saying all these horrible things and rickis sister asked her mum why she's believeing her she said' there's no way anyone would make up such terrible lies like that so it must be true!!' So I'm totally dumbstruck, does it get any better? I darent drive into town incase I see them as she'll either cause a scene and have a go or walk past me and I couldn't bear either plus we don't know who's been told all these lies as we where always quite nervous that all her mates knew us n the car before all this carry on and now it's worse I wouldn't feel safe😕 I'm at a loss my poor husbands had to try n work from home his heads all messed up with this too thankfully his boss n colleagues are understanding only his boss knows and he's apparently lost for words!! He told his family too and again people don't know what to say but are totally shocked and upset by it too😂We where planning a surprise mini baby shower get together for Chantelle ricki n the baby bought gifts gazebo bench barbecue Peter rabbit bunting balloons etc Chantelle knew we where doing it as I asked her if it was ok just incase she didn't want fussing and loved the idea so we invited some family to surprise her, I had to cancel this and tell them why?😪 With everything that's happened we now think Chantelle had planned all this and knew she was going to do this to us and yet watched us spend money buying her n baby things, trying to get to know ricki when that was hard as all she did was give us negativitys on him, I don't know what to do with the gift hamper we made for her? I'm at a loss completely my head can't make any understanding of all this especially now when we think of how calculating she's been through her whole pregnancy to date! It's quite worrying that your own daughter can do that to you without even slipping up once all that time and not admitting anything through a conscience or guilt, nothing? She's more clever than she tries to come across to us 😕 I do hope your circumstances get better and thanks again for replying I was beginning to think people either didn't believe me or no ones been through such horrible things with their own daughter 😕 Speak soon take care n Godbless you will be in our prayers too 😊

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