Post-natal Depression

Emma - posted on 12/21/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My mum has said she thinks that I might have Post-natal depression. If anyone has had it or knows anyone who's had it, could someone tell me what the signs are, and what it feels like?

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Melissa - posted on 12/24/2009

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I had it! I was really weepy all the time, and felt overwhelmed by everything. I never weanted to get out and do anything because i felt like i had to stay home and take care of everything, and when i did get out of the house i felt bad because i felt like i neglected things i was supposed to be doing. make sure you make time with friends, get out and go shopping, and most of all sleep when the baby sleeps, and your house doesnt have to be spotless,,, you just had a baby for crying out loud. dont be afraid to ask for help from family and friends.... if you feel like you need a nap, call someone up and ask for a favor. there is no shame in it.

Jenn - posted on 12/23/2009

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The ladies have offered you some good advice here! You are not alone, and you need to go to your doctor for help. For many people medication helps and can give you the lift you need to get back on your feet. For me, communication and exercise helped more than medication. Exercise is a natural anti-depressant, but it's hard to get started when you're already depressed and I have back problems, so sometimes I can't exercise for a while and I start to feel more depressed, but communication is a big help. Talk to someone, even if it's just someone you meet online, but don't rely too heavily on someone you've never met, especially when you're vulnerable. It's always best to talk to other moms and your man. You'd be surprised how well it works to tell your man "I need you to listen, don't offer advice, don't try to fix me, just listen and try to understand how I feel, hold me, and let me cry." Men can be so supportive if you lay it all out for them (they need detailed instructions!) and let them know that they'll be your knight in shinning armor if they just listen and try to understand. A lot of times we women don't do that because it feels unnatural to tell someone all that, but most men really don't know it unless you spell it out for them. Tell them they aren't allowed to say words like "shouldn't" or "but" (as in "you shouldn't feel that way" or "I understand, but...") because they negate and invalidate everything you're feeling and you deserve to be heard and understood and you need to be told that your feeling are valid, even if they defy logic.

Hdlb123 - posted on 12/23/2009

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Defiantly go to your doc, this is something you dont want to try and deal with alone. I have it pretty severly after my first child. I didnt want to hold her or change her, I was incredibly moody with my husband, and I was angry all the time. At everyone, even the innocent baby. Things get so much better after you get some help.

Amie-lee - posted on 12/23/2009

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You can see your local health nurse and ask to do the questionaire to check if you have depression, you will need to be completely honest with your answers though to get a true result. I have done it to check after last child as have had pnd twice already 1st time was severe, 2nd time was mild. General feelings of unhappiness, not interested in spending time with my new baby. Easily ticked off by everything and anything. Very moody. The first step is when you realize yourself that something is wrong and are prepared to ask if you have got it. Feel free to message me if just want someone to chat to always willing to lend an ear.

Carrie - posted on 12/22/2009

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well i had it with both my kids and it sucks the first time i took celexa and it helped but i didnt like taking it and then afew months later i got pregnant and had my little girl well this time i was so depressed that i didnt even want to hold my baby girl so my doctor prescribed cymbalta which really helped i took for about 3 months and now i just exercise and try to get me time when the kids go to bed but some of the signs are overwhelmed, irritable, lazy, nervous i always felt like i wasnt doing a good job and i would cry for hours while my husband was at work i would even call him and beg him to come home but when people say it will get better it really does my son is 17 months and my daughter is 5 months and i finally have a grip on things mind it does get a little overwhelming but i love every minute of it now. Good luck!!

Julie - posted on 12/22/2009

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Oh you poor honey, i have been on my anti-depressents for 3 years now as a result of PND wid my second child. iT TRULY IS A HORRIBLE FEELING AND OCCASSIONALLY I DO HAVE LIL RELAPSES BUT I GUESS KNOWING WHAT IT FEELS LIKE HELPS ME STOP it getting to bad again.....sorry i musta hit caps by mistake....

Evryone is diff and so may have differences in symptoms but for me it was a total feeling of hoplessness. I couldnt manage from day to day, all the lil things were too much. Getting out of bed seemed phyically impossible, let alone changing nappies, or making dinner. I was so physically and emotionally drained. I just couldnt ever seem to get enuf sleep. I was so angry all the time and every litle thing seemed disastrous. A spilt cup or broken plate was the end of the world.I didnt have an appetite, i didnt want to leave the house bcos it was just too hard and to add to it all i felt so terribly guilty for being (or at least i believed i was) such a terrible mother. But you may find that although your tired you cant sleep. If you feel you may be suffering PLEASE go speak to your GP, thats what they are for, they can point in the direction you need for help. DONT suffer when you dont need to and remember you are NOT alone, PND is very common and not something to be ashamed of!

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