Postpartum anxiety after 9 months?

Tylisa - posted on 07/28/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )




Hi, FTM here. My DD was born 12 weeks early at just over a pound. In 2 days she'll be 9 months and is over 12 and a half pounds. She's doing great. In the past two months I've gone from having a job my own income and being dependant only on myself, to allowing my husband to support us. So for the first time in many years, I'm not working and I am a SAHM. Which I desperately wanted especially with my DD prematurity!

13 weeks, (first 3 months of her life) she was in the nicu. My husband and I used to fight because he swore I was going through postpartum depression. I told him there was no way, it was just weighing in me her staying in the hospital. 2 months ago we moved from a hectic life to a calm environment, which is when I became SAHM. Now my dad who hasn't seen me in four years told me last night, he thinks I could be going through ppd. I deny it, because I feel I have valid reasons for being upset when I am. But sometimes I wish my daughter slept more during the day so I could get more unpacked and cleaned. She still doesn't sit up and hates laying down. So there's not much I can do but lay her down or put her in her swing or hold her outside of feeding changing and playing. I guess my point of this long story is to ask experienced mom's opinion if my frustration of my husband's lack of help (he works two jobs though) and my lack of finishing chores could be related to postpartum depression or anxiety? I hate the idea of admitting it or bringing it up to a doctor.


Alexandra - posted on 07/29/2015




It sounds like you are going through a lot of major changes! Im happy to hear that your baby is doing well and is gaining weight. You must be doing something right...keep up the good work.
Its normal to be frustrated and tired when taking care of a 9 month old baby in the middle of trying to move, clean, and unpack. I would suggest that you give yourself a break. :) Do something nice for yourself. Take a walk, call a friend, or go get a manicure.
As far as the PPD goes, people who are not doctors or medical professionals have no business trying to diagnose you. If you feel like you might be having some problems coping, go see your doctor and tell him/her how you are feeling. Let the doctor be the one to make a diagnosis. It cant hurt. :)


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Tanya - posted on 08/01/2015




I feel like all the emotions you are going through are normal...My daughter had jaundice and was in the incubator for 2 days and I was a wreck...I can't imagine what you went through.
You moved, your life has changed...a new baby...You are defiantly going to have a rollercoaster of emotions. Sometimes people throw that word around so easily it's frustrating...especially for this who really had it. Also if your husband is like mine...they don't express themselves really well...maybe he just feels your always upset with him...who knows.

However, if you do feel you need to see a doctor please do, PPD is a real thing and many people do get it.

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