Potty Dilema

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My 3 year old daughter has just started potty training, all was going well until she became constipated and i can't her to sit down ont the loo or potty? any ideas?


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Amber - posted on 08/27/2009




I agree with the other gals. Try giving her a reward of some sort. Also talk t her and let her know that it is ok to go. Maybe try explaining to her why it hurt that one time, and that if she does hold it in, it could hurt coming out because of holding it so long. But I would definately try giving a small rewrd for going and building it up to a big treat at the end of the week.

Karen - posted on 08/27/2009




Try using a reward system. Try making a chart with different rewards such as a piece of chocolate for the first, give yourself a time of when she can move onto the next level. Say if she goes potty 3 times in a day then give her 3 pieces of chocolate. Think of some ideas you can use as rewards such as a small toy from the dollar store, play with a friend. Do small rewards but on the 10 level then she will get a big reward such as Movie, Popcorn & Candy, Horseback riding something big. However, if she does not do it then she stays on that level. You can also use it to if they go on themselves not by accident within the 3 times on the first level then you leave there and they get no more candy that day. Also, say they are on level 3 then if they go on themselves not accidentially, or they don't want to go to the potty then they move down a level and they have to begin again at the level they were at before. In point, it becomes a game to them and they want to reach the big prize. However, you must keep the chart where the child can see it and show it to them before you start the game and after she has gone potty each time, You may even want to let her put the sticker on the chart so she can see her progress. Of course you have to use some method to keep track. Say use a sticker! By the time they reach the big prize they should be using the potty on their own and when they know they have to go. We used this method with our daughter and it worked. We tried everything else and because she could see that she was being rewarded for her efforts this gave her incentive to potty. However, Caution though. If another sibling comes along they may go into remission for just a little bit, just be patient. This will take some work on your part and hers. Good Luck! Let me know if this works for you. It did for us.

Kristina - posted on 08/27/2009




I've heard this is very typical if a child has a "tramatic" experience on the potty. It could be as little as the water splashing their rear, or, in our case, being constipated and it hurt her when she went. I would suggest to keep encouraging her to go. My daughter got stickers for going poo on the potty, and after so many stickers got a reward, such as a day at the park, a trip to mcdonalds, and so forth. good luck!

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