Potty training Trials...

Karen - posted on 02/17/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 3.5 years old and is still having trouble with potty training. When she started last April, she was AWESOME--dry every night and day. In June, she started having just a few occasional accidents. This continued well into the fall. Since Christmas, however, the problem has worsened and no matter what we try--downplaying the accidents, rewards, threats, punishment, discussions, etc.--they've all failed. Any suggestions?

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Mendy - posted on 02/18/2009

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I feel your pain! I "potty trained" our daughter & was so proud she "did it" in one day, ha ha ha. Once dad & big brother got home it was like she was saying, "Oh that was a fun game mom, but I don't want to do it any more." Everytime I took her to the potty she cried for daddy like I was torturing her. I didn't understand it since the whole day had been such a plesant experience w/very few tears.

Anyway we've moved & are settled in so it's time for me to try it again & I'm going to try something that worked for a friend, recommended by her pediatrician.

She said, put the potty chair in the kitchen & set up gates so that area can be blocked off. When she has a mistake tell her, "mommy can't clean up these kind of messes any more, your a big girl now." Then gate her in the kitchen w/the chair away from toys, tv, etc. Tell her, "If your want out you have to act like a big girl & put your _____(1 or 2) in the potty." Wait till she uses it, praise her & open the gate. When her daughter figured out messes resulted in confinement she got the picture.

Don't know if it'll work, but I'm gonna give it a try. Good luck!

Cheryl - posted on 02/18/2009

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I am exactly where you are. I cannot give any advice. My daughter will be 4 in April. We started serious potty training, meaning I put her in underwear a little after she turned 3. I thought we were done and then a few months ago, pee accidents all the time, up to 3 and 4 a day. It was around the same time she went into underwear at bedtime, too so I wondered if that was the problem, so we are back in pullups at night, unfortunately. I took her in to make sure she didn't have a UTI, twice. I am downplaying accidents, lots of praise for dry days, and having her be responsible for cleanups. She has to change herself. I have a stack of underwear and easy to put on leggings in a drawer for her. I heard it could be a growth spurt, their bodies are growing too fast for their bladder. I've also just heard these things happen the first year. I don't know what to think, anymore. It is terribly frustrating b/c I know she can do it and I have told her this too. She has been doing better lately so I hope we have turned a corner. Does your daughter always wait till the last minute? Does she get mad or just say I don't have to go if you remind her. Mine does.

Rachel - posted on 02/18/2009

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do you know what website you got this book from? i looked on amazon but didn't see it. it sounds really helpful. i have a 2 year old that i am working on potty training with...but i could definitely use some pointers!


Quoting Samantha:

I got a book online called like 3 day potty training (by the queen of potty training) It literally took me 3 days and my son was potty trained! No pull ups or training pants either, big kid undies all the way! It helps too because you reward them, it says the earlier you do it (like before 24 months) the better but i did it when he was almost 3 and it worked perfect! I hope this helps


 

Samantha - posted on 02/17/2009

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I got a book online called like 3 day potty training (by the queen of potty training) It literally took me 3 days and my son was potty trained! No pull ups or training pants either, big kid undies all the way! It helps too because you reward them, it says the earlier you do it (like before 24 months) the better but i did it when he was almost 3 and it worked perfect! I hope this helps

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Has anything happened in her life (like a new baby or moving to a new house) to change her potty training habits? If so, she may need time to adjust to the change. Is she wearing pull ups because children can't tell when they are wet. Put her in big girl underwear so that she can feel her when her accidents happen. You may also have to go back to the basics and put her on the potty every hour and see when she'll go for you. Continue with the rewards when she goes and stick with the "accidents happen and that's okay" attitude. That line comes from Elmo's Potty Time which is one of my son's favorite videos. Good luck!

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