Pregnancy Fatigue & a Toddler

Sarah - posted on 10/18/2011 ( 11 moms have responded )




Hi Ladies,

I am almost 7 weeks pregnant & I have a son who just turned 2 last month. I am experiencing pregnancy symptoms (moodiness, headaches, nausea, and fatigue) A LOT earlier with this pregnancy than I did with my son.

How do you deal with these symptoms when you have a toddler running around?! I feel like I'm being the worst mom by not giving him all my attention, but I don't feel motivated to do anything but sit on my butt! These symptoms are already getting me down & I'm barely pregnant! How did you cope?


Aarin - posted on 10/21/2011




I'm right there with you, I'm 12 weeks now and dragging. My son will be 2 next month and I feel horrible some days as I'm just pooped all day. This pregnancy for me is 10x more exausting than my first! I just try and take it easy, nap when he naps (or HOPE he naps lately). Do more playing that involves sitting on my part and make myself get moving for a bit everyday.


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Lots of cuddling, reading, and tv. I was very sick at the beginning of my pregnancy. I would sleep during my daughter's nap and we both took it easy for the first few months. I would set her up with some crayons and a big piece of paper on the coffee table, so she could color while I rested on the couch.

Honestly the house went to hell during that time. I did the bare minimum which was all I had energy for. Basically laundry and dishes. If I had a good day I'd vacuum.

On really bad days, I would put on a movie for us to watch.

Christina - posted on 10/22/2011




Just find activites that he can do like coloring and puzzles. You can sit down and do them together. It is ok to sit down and let him play by himself. You don't need to be following him everywhere as long as you know what he's doing. If you can, take a nap when he does.

Kristin - posted on 10/20/2011




I know how you feel...I just reached 20 weeks and have gotten a lot of energy back but it seemed to take forever. My son just turned 1. Although he isn't walking yet, he is practicing on his legs and crawling, falling and getting into everything. On really exhausting days I make sure all the doors are closed, the baby gates are up and he has lots of toys in front of him. Then I lay on the couch and watch TV or read a book. I'm not sure if that would work with a 2 year old but I have also been looking online and found a lot lists of toddler activities...some easy things to put together for them so you can either rest or get things done. Don't worry the energy will return. I really didn't think mine would!

Lisa - posted on 10/20/2011




Just like with your first child, the first trimester is the hardest. It'll get easier and you'll get some of your energy back.

My doctor always said to me, "It's just your bodies away of preparing you for when the baby comes." Once the new baby comes, you're not going to be able to give him all your attention then. This is also the start of preparing him to become a "big brother." Talk about the baby and his role, etc. Even when you want to sit down, you can still snuggle, read books, watch a movie, color, etc.

Jill - posted on 10/20/2011




dont be so hard on yourself. there's nothing wrong with turning on the tv, reading a book or have your toddler bring toys to you to play with on the couch together. once you get past the first trimester, your energy will come back and you can make it up to your toddler. you'll do great! congrats!!!

Deborah - posted on 10/20/2011




For the first 3 months expect to be tired, you should come a lot more energetic after that. I have had 9 babies and this has been my experience. Maybe you could do some painting or reading with your toddler, and he will probably have a nap so you nap to. All the very best with your pregnancy. :)

Young - posted on 10/19/2011




I used playpan to keep him safe while I had to rest. Luckly and eventually he calm down and do his thing in it such as playing with his LeapPad, Books..He barely cries as he get used to calm himself down & entertain himself. Congratulations & good luck!

Erica - posted on 10/19/2011




I went through this exact same thing earlier in my pregnancy, I am now 30 weeks. I had a lot of sea sickness and nausea. My son was 2 1/2 at the time. For the first time in his life I had to let him watch cartoons while I layed on the couch to rest a while. If you have Netflix let your toddler watch Pingu, Kipper, or blues clues. I hated to have to do it. I tried to only do it for like 20 minutes at a time. You are not a bad mommy by turning on the tv for your toddler when you are that exhausted!

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It's okay to watch a movie together or sit down and color or read books. You could sit on your bum and play Simon Says so he works out some energy. You'll get through it, and please don't feel guilty.

Stifler's - posted on 10/18/2011




Filled up the shells with water outside and sat in my comfy deck chairs while he played :)

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