Pregnant with second baby

Renee - posted on 05/07/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )

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I have a 10 month old and just found out I was pregnant. How do people cope with two children under 2 years old ? My husband works shift work and then has a second job that he does sometimes on his days off and my family lives 30 minutes away. I am a bit worried about how I will cope with another baby even though the pregnancy was planned. Any advice?

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Myra - posted on 05/09/2010

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Get serious with disciplining your 10 month old now (yes, it can be done). If you wait until the new baby comes along, your older child will be extremely difficult to keep under control. I had my second daughter when my first was 21 months old. It is definitely a busy life with 2 under 2, but as long as you are in control, it will make not just having the second easier, but it will also help once the terrible two's set in.

I think it also will help that you planned for the second baby. My husband and I planned both of ours, so we had a game plan set and just had to put it in place on how to deal with things. Get together with your husband, and make a plan. You can do it without your family to help. My mom is just 5 minutes down the road, but she doesn't watch our kids. She does visit once a week or so, but doesn't watch them. Personally, I don't want anyone watching our kids because I'm one of those types that I have to have the routine. Having someone watch them would completely throw me off and just make things harder. Some people need someone to help because it's just too much, but for me, it works the opposite and I get frazzled if I get help...even from my husband. He did a lot to help while I was pregnant this time around, and I was more screwed up than a drunk cat in a dryer once our 3 month old was born.

Renee - posted on 05/09/2010

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Thanks to those who had helpful advice. For the record I did think about this stuff before I got pregnant, like I said it was planned. I wanted to have my children to be close in age, I am just trying to get some advice here and I don't appreciate comments like you should have thought about that before you got pregnant- I did.

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I have three boys all under the age of four. My oldest is 3 1/2, my second is 17 months and I have newborn that is two weeks old. It's tiring at first, but you get into a schedule and things get easier. I do recommend trying to spend some one on one time with your older child once the baby is here since so much time is taken up by the baby's needs. Spending the one on one time really helps so they don't feel so overwhelmed and left out. I love that my boys are close in age.

Jena - posted on 05/08/2010

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It will all be fine!!!!!!!!! Its going to be tough there is no doubt but you will get into a routine and then you will laugh at ever doubting that you might not be able to cope!!!!!!!!! My little boy is going to be 10 months very soon and my husband and I are trying for our next one to so I know where you are coming from!!!! We worried about coping with one and now we are worrying about 2, then we are going to worry that they are passing in school, not taking drugs etc...... So much more to come and so exciting!!!! That is our job i think!!!!! Good luck and enjoy being pregnant again!

Angie - posted on 05/07/2010

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My boys are 18 months apart (the yougenst is only 6 weeks old) It is rough. My husband is gone Friday midday until Monday midday. I have been coming up to my parents on the weekends or having people come stay with me. You cant be afraid to ask for help, you will NEED the help. I had a c-secion so I had some pretty big limitaions put on me. We DID plan this, we wanted them close, we realized our ages (31 and 32) and didnt want to be on Diaper Duty for long.

Also get you 10 month old a baby doll. My son has one and it has helped a lot. He sits and gives his baby a bottle while I am giving one to his brother and the doll even gets to take a nap with us. I will say that my husband doesnt appove of the doll, but it gives me a few moments with out being mauled by a toddler.

Elyssa - posted on 05/07/2010

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I have two children that are 19 months apart, my son will be two next week. I am SO glad that I had them so close together. I'm not going to lie, it was difficult to get used to at first, but now that I have a daily rhythm down, its hard to remember life with just one! Having them so close together has made it so that there were no jealousy issues that I had to deal with, and my son is just old enough that he is such a huge helper. He wants to help with everything. He hasn't hit that point where he doesn't want to help anymore. The biggest problem I have had since I brought my daughter home is that my son just wants to smother her with hugs and kisses. If I could go back and do things differently, I wouldn't. So, don't worry too much about having 2 children under 2, it's not as hard as you may think! Take advantage of the willingness of a toddler! He will make your life much easier!

Cory - posted on 05/07/2010

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you will figure it out. However you should have thought about that before you planned on having another baby.

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