Preschool...

Samantha - posted on 08/12/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My three year old will be starting preschool in September. It is only two days a week for two hours. He wakes up telling me he does not want to go to school. He says he will miss me, ect.... We have a open house before the first day of school so I am hopeing this calms him some. I will take any advice on how to make it easy on him, my husband and myself. He will be four in January.

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Venes - posted on 08/20/2009

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My son is now 4 and he started preschool when he was 2 1/2 yrs old. He cried for the first week. The crying decreased over the week when he started to have fun in school and I told him that I would wait outside the school and he would see me as soon as the class ended. He just wanted assurance that we would be back to bring him home. Even now, after more than a year in preschool, he will remind me to come and bring him homw after he has fun in school.

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honey i had this for a whole term, when my daughter started, she cried and screamed, said she didnt like it, i had to stay each session for the whole term, over the half term we had a chat and she decided that hey its ok, i have friends there and you do always come back, so lets give it a go, it is just a case of perseverance. i did also try bribes like Anna-Blair and to be honest still have to take a lollipop after every session, but if it works it works,

Tee - posted on 08/14/2009

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My daughter is three also and starting pre-school in the fall. We just keep telling her that she will be making new friends and learning things that i havent thought of. Just make sure to reinforce that you'll be picking him up. Thats the one question my daughter keeps asking. Will i pick her up? Hope that helps some

Andromeda - posted on 08/14/2009

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Hi Samatha, I use to be a Preschool teacher and I can tell you that the more you keep encouraging him that school is fun the more he'll get pumped up to go. Also some advice...DO NOT linger in the classroom for awhile after dropping him off. It makes the process 10x harder for the child and the teacher. I suggest you take him in, give him a kiss and hug, tell him that he'll have so much fun doing XYZ and then tell him you will be back to pick him up after he has lots of fun and plays for awhile.If the teacher is a really good teacher she will take it from there and help him ease into the classroom.It is normal if he cries and you hear him crying all the way down the hallway,but don't worry,he will be in good hands.Also, bribing is never a good idea. Let your son know that you will be so proud of him and that you love him so much and can't wait to hear of all the things he does at school and of all the friends he will make. Let those type of things be his reward when he gets home. When you show encouragement and excitement to a child that age it means the world to them,and it will also be better for them in the longrun rather than that piece of candy "if they do good at school" or the trip to the icecream place if he "listens to his teachers". Please trust me. I've dealt with parents and children who have made that transition very difficult and it took FOREVER for both of them to cope. Make it easy on yourself and the child and all will be ok. When you pick him up give him a huge hug and let him tell you right then and there what he did and let him show you around the room. This will help him understand and take pride in showing you "his" classroom.Let your actions and expressions be very dramatic and "big" when you respond to him showing you his art..."WOW! I LOVE IT! IT'S THE BEST!". Being dramatic with a young child is half the key to their world :) And lastly, I can say from experience that it may take a little longer for your child to adjust only because he would be in school for 2 days and for only 2 hours each. This means he will not have much time to let it all sink in,he might be confused for a long time since his schedule is like that. Would you consider maybe 3 days a week,at least half days each? In either case, only time will tell how long it takes him to adjust and I wish you both the best. Good Luck!

Jennifer - posted on 08/13/2009

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I would bring up the subject with his teachers at the preschool. They have probably seen this many times and can give you some ideas and tell you how they handle the situation. Make sure you make this experience a positive one and don't show him any sign that it may upset you. Most likely he will get over you leaving soon after your gone. My daughter had a friend in her class that would cry everyday when his Mom left but after she walked out the door he was fine and playing with his friends.

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When my first boy went to school, he asked me to wait outside for him. He went Monday to Friday, from 11:30-3pm. Of course I didn't, but he thought I did, and that helped him cope. When it got to be winter, I asked him if it was ok if I took his baby brother home, it was too cold out here for him, and he said OK. I think it's especially hard for kids with SAHMs, because Mom has ALWAYS been there. Has he been in daycare, or even a sitter's, to practice?

Anna-Blair - posted on 08/12/2009

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tell him that as soon as he goes and [something they might do] you will be right back to get him. he will get where he wants to go and we now use that as a bribe go to bed or you won't go to school tomorrow and he flipps out. also there is a book you can read to him Llam Llam goes to school it helps with that.

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