pressure from family to stop breast feeding and put 6 month old on solids?

Nicole - posted on 01/01/2010 ( 147 moms have responded )

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has anyone else got tis prob and how do/would you handle this?

My mother hates the idea of breastfeeding altogether and has asked on several occasions that i move over to formula - she will use any excuse to make me think im not doing right by my son - - for egsample after his second injections she said that he was niggly cos he was hungry and my breastmilk is not nutricious enough - i MUST go down to the pharmacy and find out what ill be best for baby...??!!! ^%$#@ )(**&&^ i have asked her so many times to be supportive of my desision but i think the doctors thoroughly indoctrinated her when we were born!!

another is my mother in Law keeps pushing me to give my son solids, but everytime i do his tummy gets upset. i give his mereal like every 2nd week and i have tried veg, fruit etc and he just throws it up and i have a nice fat mess to tidy up! i dont think he feels ready for solids yet. she even tells me to put meat and bone marrow in his food. she tells me i'm going to make John sick and he will have a nutrisional deficiancy if i dont get him on solids.


please could you give me some advice on this! i really am worried that i'm doing something wrong here

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'You can't get better than a breastfed nipper' That is a saying that was posted all over the hospital where I had my children. My oldest was born 14 weeks premature and the doctors were so happy that I was going to breastfeed her, they said it was best for her. So never think you are doing wrong by breastfeeding you child. At 6 months they say the breastmilk isn't enough for the child but that you should continue breastfeeding plus solids. The longer you give your child breastmilk the more benefits they get from it. there was a chart in the NICU ward with all the benefits for the amount of time you breastfed and it went all the way up to 2 years old.



In regards to giving your son solids... have you given him baby rice cereal mixed with your milk? Does he still throw that up? That is what I gave my preemie when she was 6 months old and her body seemed to handle it fine. I gave her that for a few weeks to let her tummy get used to something other than milk. Make it quite runny so he is practically drinking it off the spoon and then thicken it up as he gets used to it. After that I started on easy fruit and veg: sweet potatoes, carrots, homemade apple and pear sauce. She loved it. I made sure it was all quite runny. Then as she got used to it I would thicken it all up. Start with only about a teaspoon, and then more as he wants it. When she got to 10 months old she wasn't interested in my milk and just wanted to eat solids.



I hope this is of some help to you.

Maura - posted on 01/03/2010

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Dear Nicole, I am so sorry that you are not only not getting the support you need but that these people close to you are trying to undermine you. Since you've already tried over and over to explain yourself, give them a pamphlet or printout from the World Health Organization, Le Leche League (sp?) and from the American Medical Association which recommends solids at 1 years old and breast feeding until 2. They obviously aren't taking your word for it, so give them expert advice. Finally, tell them directly that you are no longer willing to discuss the matter with them. And finally, rest assured that only in America and Canada are the women so ill informed and uncomfortable with breast feeding. I am an American living in Europe and was so fortunate to have 100% support, from husband, in-laws, insurance, doctors, and even all the little old ladies who would complement me for nursing my daughter. Stop defending yourself, let the experts speak for you, and draw the line that you won't talk about it anymore. Don't go into long diatribes and explanations anymore, don't defend yourself anymore, just repeat the same phrase every time they bring it up. It may take several times of saying, "I've told you I am unwilling to discuss this with you" before it ends, but I think they will stop with this method. And finally, don't give in. You are doing the absolute best for your baby!!!!!!! Good luck.

Susan - posted on 01/02/2010

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i breastfed two of my children and i even had pressure from the fathers but i didnt let that stop me mothers milk is more valuable then gold dont ever let anyone tell you any different i think you should go see a health nurse about weaning your baby and also they will weigh your son and assure you he is getting enough nutrision

Pamela - posted on 01/01/2010

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Invoke the "doctor card". Tell them you are following doctors instructions (I assume you have discussed this with his doc). I breastfed until my son was 22 months, and started solids at 6 1/2 months. Like Kunti, I started with rice cereal, but I mixed it with a bit of baby apple juice (my pediatrician said that can make it a bit more palatable). Don't overfeed at the start -- a couple of spoonfuls is fine at first. My son didn't get vegies until he was about 7-8 months, followed by fruits at 9-10 months. I never did feed baby meats (breastmilk satisfied his protein need), because by 1 year he was handling chopped up table meats just fine. Is he putting on weight and growing? That is the gold standard to see if he is getting enough. HIs doctor may suggest some vitamins, but breastmilk is a great food, and some studies have shown that breast milk babies even have higher IQs!

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I would tell your mother AND your mother in law that the quickest way to the door is to tell YOU how to raise YOUR child. Your mother has raised her children, and I am sure she has some wonderful advice for you and can be a great help to you as a new mommy.. BUT you need to be firm and let her know that her advice would be more helpful to you if she waited until you asked for it..

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That is sad that you have all the pressure to deal with, I know that must be hard. But regardless of what the "mothers" may have been taught, breastmilk is the best thing for your baby. Of course there are those that can't nurse and there is nothing wrong with that, but if you WANT to breastfeed, then by all means you should! There was a time I think where it wasn't considered "good" to nurse your baby, however that has really changed, and I believe the "breastfeeding movement" is here where more mothers choose to nurse rather then formula. God gave us this naturally so why would man made milk be better? I would say if you really are struggling see if you can go into your local WIC office and meet with someone to talk over the benefits, etc of breastfeeding. Most people/docs recommend that you start your baby on 'solids' (as in cereals, babyfoods) but at 6m you should be mostly breastfeeding. Especially if your baby gets sick on solids. I would say let him play around a little here and there with babyfood/cereal and he will get little amounts down and then get used to it. (yes its messy! :) Your WIC office will also check his iron and yours to make sure he is getting enough. But if you are eating healthy you probably are great. WIC will be free, too, and even if you don't meet the income levels they will probably still talk with you. You don't have to pressure your baby to 'grow up' believe me that happens fast enough!!!! I assume you take him to a doc, if not maybe you want to make one appt just to see a pediatrician and I'm sure he will tell you that you are doing just fine. And then you can tell your 'mothers' that the doc said things are find, they may get off your case if you offer a professional opinion... As long as your baby isn't grabbing food and screaming in hunger he is getting enough to eat/drink.... I would never give my baby meat before he was on other solids that is way to much for his little milk tummy to handle! Trust your mommy gut, it is often better then all the advice ... good luck and best wishes!

Dana - posted on 05/03/2010

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Breast is best! Its really up to the baby when he/she wants to stop. Breastfeeding is your time to bond with your baby...don't let her take that from you. When you introduce solids, try giving only 1-2 teaspoons at first, then ease into more gradually.

Jennifer - posted on 05/02/2010

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Misery loves company -- she probably feels guilty for weaning so early (even though that's what they were all told then) and wants you to do the same. Follow your instincts!

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I was so tired of being told how to raise my son, so I had some t-shirts made up.
1. Why yes, I still breastfeed my child. And yes, it is still none of your business.
2. I don't know you, please don't tell me how to raise my son.
3. God gave me breasts for a reason!

It is no ones business how YOU feed YOUR child. If the pediatrician says he is doing okay growth and nutrition wise, then why mess with it?

Krystie - posted on 05/02/2010

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oh for god sake, old wives tales and silly things,

you know your son, you KNOW breastfeeding is the prefect food for him, he will not starve, he will not get nutritional deficiancies and he doesnt not need meat and bone marrow!
if you dont feel he is ready for solids, dont offer them, he will be fine, you know this,

as for offering solids, dont spoon feed, jsut let him play with it, yes its a mess, but its a fun mess, it washes off. try mushed banana and let him play, he wont eat much , but he will have a grand old time doing it. thats how i got 5 kids on solids. my 8 month old was gumming on chicken wings and beef burgers she yanked out of daddys hand at 5 months old, s. he will eat soilds when good and ready. good luck and keep up the good work, tell the older generation they had their chance to make the choices they did, its your turn now.

Kiz

Jayme - posted on 05/01/2010

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my baby want from breast to food no bottles no baby food an everyone in my family was the same even dad when she started to get teeth i would smush some veggies an just put it in her month likepeas i would take skin off an carrots i would cook an thats what she would toke intill 20 months an when she reached for my plate of food i started feedin her an as the nex month she went to more an more table food an less breast so its up too u u the more u give the heather shell be my baby as not been nearly as sick with colds like my other 2 who i pushed on food so good luck an with u the best

Rebecca - posted on 03/23/2010

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I really don't know what to say about your mother. I don't think I've ever heard anything like it. In the end, you know what's best for your bub and as the saying goes 'Breast is Best.' My daughter was too premmie for me to be able to breast feed but if I could have I would have. It's free, on tap, and as natural as you're going to get. How can that be bad for your son? If you're getting desperate, pull out the 'following doctor's orders' line.



As for solids, have you tried rice cerial. My daughter had problems when she started eating at 6 months too. She would throw it up. One thing I have heard is great is mixing a small amount of your breast milk with rice cerial, making it quite runny, for that make everything really runny to start. Mashed veggies and fruit with added water to make it runny. It takes a while for babies to get used to the idea of food. I think it took my daughter until she was 7 1/2 months, so a good month and a half of persistance (and she still had the odd throw up/chewing issue). Babies aren't born to know how to eat, it's a learnt art and takes practice. Another thing to think about, is your son curious about food? Does he watch you eat or follow your fork? Or try and reach out to your food? This is also a good indication he is ready to eat. At 6 months, breast milk doesn't give all the nutriants in the doses your son needs which is why they reccommend a combination of both. My daughter ate and had formula (in your case breast milk) until she was 12 months old. Since then she's been on solids. I don't think you should be cutting breast feeding out, I do think you should be doing a combination of both.



Also, just to clarify, I'm Australian. I understand every country is different and they recommend here to start solids at 6 months WITH breast/formula milk and by 12 months baby should be relying mainly on solids (So by 12 months formula milk out but breastfeeding fine). I can see many posts here are American, so follow your own country reccomendations in the end.

Diana - posted on 03/23/2010

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wow everyone knows brest milk is the best way.. thats why the doctors try to ask you to as soon as the babys born!...the only thing is formula gets babys full longer, so i always fed my son both.. formula mostly at night so he can sleep longer, but i got the opposite from my mother in law.. she hated that i gave my baby formula she was sooo against it! but like i always say its my baby and i will do what i want, weather anyone likes it or not.. i know whats best for my baby, and everyone is diffrent.. doesnt make u a bad mom..so if u can just try to ignore them.. its your baby, n if u feel like its better to do things your way n if it makes your baby happy thats all that matter okay.. good luck lol

Jennifer - posted on 03/23/2010

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It sounds like maybe they not only were indoctrinated against breastfeeding, they may also feel a little guilty for not having done it. Babies need only breast milk for at least six months, until they show readiness for solids. Formula is less nutritious that breastmilk, in that it is devoid of many things breast milk has, including antibodies for germs in the environment, probiotics (beneficial bacteria), and cholesterol (which the body actually needs to make brain tissue, hormones, etc.). You are doing it all right, you can ignore your kids grandmothers on this (and probably a lot of other things). Just listen to your instincts.

See:

http://www.kellymom.com/nutrition/solids...

Tammy - posted on 02/16/2010

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Everyone is going to have opinions, take what you want & dispose of the rest. If your mom doesn't like Breast feeding, tell her to stay away while your nursing. Remind her of the benefits, such as bonding (for Mom & Baby), natural immune system boost! I loved that, ...my children were breast fed until 6 months, the pediatrician said if you could go 6 months, it really made a difference. If your child throws up when eating solids....STOP, you are the mom, his welfare is your responsibility. Just like you wouldn't let anyone give him a cheeseburger he's not ready for, don't feed cereal he's not ready for. Good Luck

Traci - posted on 02/16/2010

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If the doctor says your baby is healthy and perfectly fine, then I think that your mom and mother-in-law need to shut up!!! As long as he's healthy, who cares, and he's your baby, not theirs. Stand up for yourself now, strongly & adamantly, because they will keep telling you what to do if you don't. They might keep doing it anyway, but hopefully that will back off.

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your doing nothing wrong.. I breast fed both my boys. I stopped when they turned one and I also did not start giving them baby food until around 11months. My boys were big healthy boys and the docts all ways told me to keep doing what I was doing. So maybe print some info up for her and let her know how you feel. Its hard enough being a mother and its so helpful to have people there for support.

. So keep doing what your doing and just know that you are not alone in this fight.

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Look simple as you carried your baby for 9mths and gave birth to him. This is your son and you chose how you want to feed your child no one else, dont change that her anyone.its a bond between you and your son.a decision made best by you for him.don't let others input affect what you are doing because you are doing nothing wrong.be strong and proud of your decision to breastfeed.

Moms will have lots of advise which is understandable but you have to stand tall and be able to speak up for what you want for your son and that goes for everything in his life from breastfeeding to solids etc.

if hes throwing it back stop the solids speak to your doctor for best advise for your sons own individual needs.



best of luck it seems to me you are doing a great job just be confident as a mother.You know your son best.

Karyn - posted on 02/15/2010

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Hi Nicole,

Breastfeeding is the best thing for you and your baby. Breastfeeding gives your baby needed resistance to many illnesses and allergies. It helps the baby gain weight in a natural way. Breastfeeding creates a bond between baby and mom forever. It is healthier that formulas, which may contain additives, wheat, and artificial ingredients. Some parents dislike the idea of a mother breastfeeding because they want to help feed the baby. You might try to express some milk and bottle it so that each grandma can help feed the baby. They want to be part of the mothering. Stand firm to your convictions-you are doing the best thing.

Lori - posted on 02/15/2010

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I have a 6 1/2 month old and am still breast feeding. She doesn't always want her cereal or solids. I've had this conversation with my dr and she has encouraged to breast feed as long as it isn't a problem for me to continue. This is the thing we can give our child. You have to go with what makes you comfortable. I never thought I would breast feed let alone still have the opportunity to. My daughter rather have the boob vs a bottle or anything else.

Nicole - posted on 02/14/2010

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well girls!! were 7 months and still breastfeeding - he's gotten a bit betterwith solids - he eats pumpkin, yoghurt, and veggies from our supper that i mash up with a lil meat gravy or what ever is in the pot so thaks for all the advise! were going strong! xx

Kari - posted on 02/14/2010

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I saw that you already have a lot of advice and I am sure I'll be repeating some of it...but your son can survive just fine on breastmilk alone up to 12 months old. You don't have to push solids until he is ready to take it. You are doing the right thing and you know it. For more support on this subject and reference to show you MIL go to www.kellymom.com or http://www.kellymom.com/nutrition/solids... Good Luck mama - hold your head and stick to your guns because you are doing what's best. *hugs*

Ursula - posted on 02/13/2010

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i dont know what advice to give you but just wanna say "dont you wish people would just butt out and let us get on with been mums the way we want to be mums!!" I recently ended up with an infection where i had a caesarean and because of this my milk was in minimal supply- hence why my son was losing weight. I have to now give him formula whilst i am also trying to get my milk supply back. Lots of mums that cant breastfeed would envy you for been able to therefore i think you should mention this and stick with it!!! Your doing a great job!

Lena - posted on 02/11/2010

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Breast is best, and whatever you want to introduce to your baby, just mix in some of your breast milk he'll enjoy it better that way. Don't let anyone pressure you, I nursed mine till about a year, by then the feedings taper down to about 2 a day. Good luck it's the best bonding you can ever have.

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YOUR DOING NOTHING WRONG!!! I have had the same thing from my family and I told them that i appreciate their advice but ITS MY CHILD MY CHOICE!!!

Your baby will not be ill from being on breast milk and Midwife and health visitors will tell you to give nothing but breast milk til he is 6months old!!



LISTEN TO YOUR OWN INSTINCTS!!

AND DO NOT GIVE HIM MEAT OR BONE MARROW AT SUCH A YOUNG AGE

Elizabeth - posted on 01/16/2010

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Breast feeding is best for baby it helps with bonding, lowering of obesity in the child , guard children from infections, guards mum from breast cancer and is enough for the childs thirst and hunger. Breast feeding children have a high IQ and it can have many more benefits. Try mashed banana with expressed milk or cereal but do it at the baby's pace . Some baby's are more ready for food as are others. I fed my son until he was 16 month he went on solids before his brother and he is a smart happy teenager today. I fed my other son till he was 11 month he didn't want to stop but i did. I regret it sometimes but at least i gave him a best start in life. Babies for the six months survive on breast milk alone but can still have breast milk with food till they are at pre school age if they want. It depends on mother and child. If you need extra help contact the many breast feeding organisations, la leche league . Or ask your health visitor, they are breast feeding groups around the company. I was a breast feeding counsellor and came across your questions often. Bring your partner along and they might need to give him leaflets to help him. The dad and family members can bond with your child in other ways. I gave my partner at the time some steralised water or expressed milk if baby was thirsty but made sure he came back for feeding baby .Not too much though as baby will be full from the water only as in a emergency as you will be engorged. If you need my help don't hesitate to ask. I feed my son for 16 months and my other son for 11 months and they are both healthy and fine. The only vitamin at the time i couldnt produce was vitamin k and the mid wife gave it to my child in the droplet. liz all the best and you are doing fabx

Dawn - posted on 01/10/2010

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Come on, don't leave us in suspense - let us know what you've done and how it went;)

dxx

Lori - posted on 01/09/2010

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ok well hmmmmm, do what your mommy gut says to do for YOUR baby. I breast fed my dughter for 6 months and went back to work and pumped for the night feedings with her dad. My son on the other hand would NOT take anything but breastmilk for 11 months then finally he took to a cup. If the DR. says your child is healthy then do what your doing and ignor them. They mean well and come from the old school of child rearing. You are the best thing for YOUR child. and when your ready you will transition over to solids and all will be just fine. contact me if you ever want to talk would love a new friend...Have a great day.

Maria - posted on 01/09/2010

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You can ask your baby's pediatrician for guidelines on feeding solids, but he does need to be starting solids now. It took my daughter a while to get the hang of it. It's a learning process for them, as they have to figure out how to swallow. My daughter's pediatrician told me that it can take over 20 times for a baby to accept a food they're offered, so you've got to try a lot.



On the breastfeeding question, just tell your mother that she gives lots of good advice in many areas (if that's true), but you are going to breastfeed as you seem fit, and to never speak to you on the subject of breastfeeding again.

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Don't listen! Breast milk is the best thing for baby! Even introducing solids, they still need the breast milk for the majority of their nutrition. Solids at 6 months are mainly to introduce new flavors and textures. I would take a look at La Leche League's website. They have tons of info that maybe you could have your mom look at.

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First and for-most, only you know what is best for your baby. Last time I looked the American Academy of Pediatricians suggested that you nurse for two years. The earliest you are supposed to start solids is six months. There is a Pediatrician approved list of what order to give solids to your child. I would check with your doctor, not your mother or mother-in law about what is right for you and your son as things have changed alot since they were parents. If you son is throwing up foods then he is not ready and his reflexes have not matured all of the way yet or he could have an allergy to the foods you are trying.

The What to Expect Books were a big help to me also when I did not want to bother the doctor with something.

Hang in there. I know the pressure is hard. None of the women in my family had nursed also, so they did not understand. My favorite quote from my mother-in-law what that I had to let my son "just cry it out so his lungs would expand" ; which by the way is not true. They cry enough on their own without having to be left ignored. If a child is crying, it is usually for a reason.

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That's so true Tara, you have to nip naggers in the bud early, and leave no doubt in their minds who's boss in your house. I have done that with my Mother in Law and now she thinks I'm just great. Some people are like kids, they bait and bait, just waiting to be put in their place. They love it when you do. You either get their respect or their silence, either way, it's all good.

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first - breast milk is more nutritious than formula. period. if you can nurse do it. you are the parent of your child so this is your decision to make - she made her own decision with you.



second - meat and bone marrow in his food. is she serious? uh no. try one fruit (like banana) with organic oat baby cereal. it should be like liquid. if you are still breastfeeding then you are introducing your child to food. but try a little bit each day - and don't force. but keep trying.



as far as these mothers go - you need to put your foot down now that you are doing things your way. if you don't do it now - enjoy the next 20 years of them badgering you with what they THINK you should do.

Megan - posted on 01/08/2010

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Oh gawd, been there done that! Gave into parental pressure early on to supplement with formula when she actually had gained the most weight the first week when I mainly breast fed. Then it seemed the more I supplemented the more she spit up and the constant switching back and forth was just upsetting her tummy. Had planned to go a full 6mos on mainly breastmilk but this all got sabotaged when I got a really bad cold and my baby started rejecting breast. So I pushed more and more formula which only made her spit up more and then she ended up in hospital for 2 days due to failure to thrive issues as she lost over a pound cause of the feeding issues. My milk finally came back in but not to the levels it was at before and she had gotten so used to taking a bottle it just became easier for me to finally make the switch over to formula and she started doing baby food at 5 mos too. Looking back now I just wish I had trusted my own instinct and didn't supplment as often but it's hard when everyone around you acts like they know better and make you feel like you are an incompetent mother for not taking their advice. Stick to your guns as long as you can and I'm sure your pediatrician will tell you that it's a common problem as those grandparents can't get that baby fat enough.

Loralie - posted on 01/08/2010

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i stopped breastfeeding my girl when she turned one.and its up to the baby when they want to start eating

Angela - posted on 01/07/2010

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Breastmilk is the best... That is all you need to know, You are doing the bet for him... are they jealous they did not BF maybe??

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You are doing the best for your bub! I was unable with both of my older 2 to continue feeding past 3 months, for different reasons. My friend had breastfed her 2 while giving solids! Nothing wrong with that at all! Is actually better for your child!Just do what you feel is right for your bub and yourself.

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i breast fed my daughter until she was 10 months old and what i did was have her on solids and breast milk. you do what your comfortable doing... some times people give advice because they think they are being helpful but all they are really doing is making it more difficult sometimes... i commend you for breast feeding this long and all you need to do is what YOU think is best. YOU are the mother and you have your instincts.. trust yourself.

Geraldine - posted on 01/07/2010

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Hi, all my children were premmies, my oldest son was born 34 weeks and couldn't suck properly, I extracted milk for him for 4 months, but because he couldn't suck strong my milk dried up. My second son was stronger at 34 weeks and could drink, I fed him until18 months. My daughter was born at 36 weeks and drank until 11 months...I had to go out one evening and my mother put red cooldrink in formule milk to get her to drink it...well after that she didn't want my milk anymore. Now the reason for all this information is simple. My firstborn gets sick a lot more than the other two. The healthiest is the second son whom I breastfed the longest. My sister took it to the extremes and breastfed three children until the age of three - total of 9 years breastfeeding - her children is very healthy and doesn't get sick a lot. And yes they are very well adjusted kids. You can listen to other's, but make your own choice and listen to your own gut feeling. If you want to give your child the best, and you believe it is breastfeeding (which I and most docters agree) DO IT!!! - your child, your choice!!!!

Vilka - posted on 01/07/2010

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there is nothing better and healthier for a baby than breast milk. do what u feel is right for ur baby. ur mother and mother-in-law are not the ones caring for ur baby or cleaning up the mess everytime he gets sick...plus most doctors incourage u to breast feed til atleast their first birthday and introduce solids when u think the baby is ready and can handle it..

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First of all you are not doing anything wrong, so don't worry, you're the mom, you know your child.



Talk to your pediatrician and use the pediatrician as your excuse when your family are driving you nuts. Like you could say "the pediatrician says that solids are not necessary at 6 months of age" or "the pediatrician recommends breastfeeding as the best source of nutrition until the age of 12 months".



My own family was extremely annoying and my mom threatened to give formula to the baby when I was absent because she thought he wasn't gaining weight fast enough. I found that using the doctor as my excuse helped a little because people can't really argue with a professional, it's not like my mom could say she had been to medical school. :)



That being said, they are probably still gonna keep bugging you and you might just have to accept it and smile and nod a lot as though they are sharing real pearls of wisdom, even though you know what you really want to do with their "advice". :)



Hang in there, if it helps at least you know they mean well. But you're the mom, you get to decide what you want to do with your child. If it were me and my kid were puking after eating I certainly wouldn't push more solids on him, but that's me.

Katie - posted on 01/07/2010

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I would say ignore whoever is telling you to stop. Breastfeeding IS the best food for your baby. I can't even understand why in the world you would put meat or bone marrow in your infant's food. I'm not sure where you are, but it's completely normal here in the US to start feeding your baby cereal, just 2 tablespoons at a time, very watery, then getting more thick, then when he gets the hang of that you can feed him baby foods. I have heard from WIC and doctors that you can feed your baby only breastmilk until they are a year old if it works for you and the baby. Good luck!

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I keep my kids on the breast until they where 9mts. Now that's been 12 years ago but they hardly ever get sick. The breast milk well help them in the long run and its not up to your family its up to you. Your the Mom not them!! I can tell you that sometimes it does hurt when the teen start to come in that's when you make the final choice to keep it up or to stop. Nothing wrong with what you are doing now!

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ok i look at it like this.... its your baby and its your choice if you want to keep breastfeeding if you like to breastfeed your baby then you should keep doing it there is nothing wrong with breastfeeding, you don't need to make excuse to your family on why you are breastfeeding its your choice not there's!! you keep doing what you are doing

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Your family is either uneducated or very misinformed about breastfeeding. Breastfeeding is recommended by the Academy of Pediactrics until the age of 2 yrs. old. As for solids, babies don't actually need them for vitamins until 9 months. Even then, you can suppliment your breastmilk with vitamin drops given by your pediatrician.



Hang in there. and tell your mother and mother-in-law that you are simply following the pediatrician's orders (you don't have to say specifically which pediatrician). Just blame it on the experts. That's what I do when I have to deal with uneducated people.



I recommend the books: The Nursing Mothers Companion by Kathleen Huggins, and The Breastfeeding Book by William and Martha Sears (and anything else by Sears, a pediatrician). You can find these for a reasonable price on Amazon.com.



I hope this helps. Be firm. If family is going to be a negative influence, limit your time with them and explain why they don't get to see as much of you and your baby. This works great with my parents. They shape up quickly for a while if I don't call or visit for a while.

Melissa - posted on 01/07/2010

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Your family is either uneducated or very misinformed about breastfeeding. Breastfeeding is recommended by the Academy of Pediactrics until the age of 2 yrs. old. As for solids, babies don't actually need them for vitamins until 9 months. Even then, you can suppliment your breastmilk with vitamin drops given by your pediatrician.



Hang in there. and tell your mother and mother-in-law that you are simply following the pediatrician's orders (you don't have to say specifically which pediatrician). Just blame it on the experts. That's what I do when I have to deal with uneducated people.



I recommend the books: The Nursing Mothers Companion by Kathleen Huggins, and The Breastfeeding Book by William and Martha Sears (and anything else by Sears, a pediatrician). You can find these for a reasonable price on Amazon.com.



I hope this helps. Be firm. If family is going to be a negative influence, limit your time with them and explain why they don't get to see as much of you and your baby. This works great with my parents. They shape up quickly for a while if I don't call or visit for a while.

Holly - posted on 01/07/2010

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Nicole,

I am currently on my third breasst feeding child. And I must say I am a firm believer in a child will let you know when they are ready for things. Every child is different. All three of mine started things at different time.

A great way to tell if your son is getting enough from you is how many diapers you are changing on him a day. If it is at least 5 a day with a couple poopy ones in there you are fine. Aslo I am not sure how old your son is but my daughter is 5 months and I am dealing with a nursing strike right now. She seems more interested in whats going on around her then nursing so I nurse a lot during the day right now. Or try to find a quiet place to do it.

Another thing. Does you son sleep through the night? Is he gain weight? If so I wouldn't really worry about what others say about you nursing. This is your child and you know in your heart what is best for him. Your mother and mother in law have raised their kids the way they wanted to and you should be able to do the same.

In my opinion start with solids when you and your son are comfortable with it. That is who matters in this situation. As far as breastfeeding, that is the best thing you can possibly do for your son right now. So Great Job!!

Juliana - posted on 01/07/2010

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Breastmilk is the healthiest thing we can give our babies...that really sucks that they are being so awful to you. have you told them to butt out and either keep quiet or have less involvement in their grandchild's life!? Honestly. You absolutely do not have to try to convince them of anything...they don't like it, too bad.



i still breastfeed my 7 month old. i started him on solids at 4 months...rice cereal and banana. i would ask some advice from your doctor as to why your baby is vomiting though.



Keep up the great work and have confidence that you are providing your baby with the best possible start in life.

Dana - posted on 01/07/2010

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I have nursed all my kids until 10-11 months. I am very happy I did that. Breast milk is the best thing for them and there are sooo many studies out there that support that. Less ear infections, better hand/eye coordination, the list goes on. As for solids, if you have tried rice and your son doesn't like it, try oatmeal or mixed grains. make sure it is very soupy. They don't need any consistancy to it at all. My youngest never did like cereal, so we went right to fruits and veggies at about 7 months. You need to do what you think is best for your baby. I would say you are doing a remarkable job and keep nursing as long as your baby will do it. Just because they are nursing does not mean you can't feed them cereal and such also. Good luck to you!

Kara - posted on 01/07/2010

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Give you mom some info online or in print about the benefits of breastfeeding. You need to re-indoctrinate her to what is best!
And about the solids? Is she far enough away that you can just lie? "Yeah, sure, he loves his bone marrow and peas for lunch..."

Angela - posted on 01/07/2010

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The breast is best!!!! You are his mother not them...they need to butt out!!!!!
I gave my son cereal at a young age (2 months) because he was not getting full. I added a Tbsp. at a time to the cereal, bananas or apples or something like that until he got used to it. Small amounts will go a long way!!
Your ma and ma-in-law are the ones with the problem.....You keep up the good work and you do what YOU feel is best for YOUR son!!!

Jennifer - posted on 01/07/2010

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Don't let them tell you what's right for your baby!!!! You know your son better than anyone. If you feel that it's time to start introducing cereals, speak w/your pediatrician 1st. Always do it in small amts and at your sons pace. Do NOT under any circumstances let anyone pressure you into starting your son before he's ready. Especially with formula. If you are breastfeeding him, do so and be proud. BF is the best thing you can do for him. you get extra snuggle time too! :) When they say they know better, they don't. Between your motherly instincts and your pediatrician, you'll make the right desicion. Don't doubt yourself. Your the mommy now, be strong and be your own advocate!

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