problem with number twos

Amanda - posted on 09/06/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My 3 1/2 year old daughter goes to the toilet to do wees and doesn't wear a nappy to bed and never wets but she still poos her pants even if she is near the toilet. I have tried to give her treats if she goes ( that worked once) but not again Has anyone have any ideas

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Amanda - posted on 09/10/2009

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thanks everyone its amazing how all children are different, my 7 1/2 yr old wanted a nappy on to do a poo my 6 yr old pooed for a while in her pants then got it but my 3 1/2 Im stuffed. Im just going to try all your ideas and see what happens.

Vicki - posted on 09/08/2009

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I had this very problem with my 2nd child, from the age of 2 he was potty trainned & was fine but it took him a year to start using the toilet for poo's (he would poo his pants), apparently this is very normal for children to get the sensation for the poo (a year after getting the peeing sensation) so try not to worry.



Unfortunately my son regressed after 4 months of NO accidents & we still have moments 4 years on (although very rare & it behavioural not medical) my other 2 children never had this problem.



The tips I have learned from a toilet training club which can help (depending on the child) are :

have a sticker/reward chart,

get the child to sit on toilet/potty 20 mins after eating,

when on the toilet/potty get them to blow bubbles or read them a book to keep them company so they will want to go to the toilet,

always keep wipes/nappysacks/clean clothes with you when going out,

if accidents happen keep calm when cleaning up never give eye contact or speak (as some children do it for individual attention like mine),

at home keep a pale/bucket in the bathroom to put the soiled pants in to soak & rubber gloves to clean them up,

I always made my child shower (as he loved baths so that would be a reward) & wash himself (much to his horror " that disgusting, I'm not touching it YOU DO IT" to I replied no its your mess you clean yourself (bare in mind I was speaking to a 3 going on 4 year old & was told to do this by medical professionals).



Hopefully this will be of some help.

Amanda - posted on 09/08/2009

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Thanks for your suggestions, I do not think she is afraid to go in the toilet because she has done it in there. I think it just comes out with her not sensing it. I have noticed that when she did go in the toilet she did wees too, but when she goes in her pants it is only poos. I will try your suggestion eg with the fav baby and cold water. Thanks again

Megan - posted on 09/07/2009

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I am having the same problem with my 2 1/2 year old. Her big brother held it in for a year! I had to give him medication to get him to go, so i suppose in the undies isn't as bad. LOL I am going to try the cool bath idea. Right now we are "potty training a doll" i read a book and we are going back to oround 1 with poop. Supposedly, if the child trains her fav. dolly to go in the potty it helps them get over their fear of putting it in the potty. We also picked out special Tinkerbell panties..and talk about how Tink doesn't want to be poopy. I'll let you know what happens. Good luck! (With my son, we just had to keep at it and he eventually got over his fear of pooping in the potty...after throwing him on the potty at the FIRST sign of him holding it and giving him the meds :(

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Hey Amanda!! Sounds like you have your hands FULL!! I thank GOD I don't have those problems any more!!! First, you have to remember every child learns differently, so if you have tried this or if you choose to try this don't get discouraged if it did/doesn't help... With my two boys that have potty trained, naturally peeing in the potty came easily with lots of effort on my behalf...After they got the hand of peeing in the potty(as you have done already)if they would have an accident(poopie) I would make them watch me clean the mess up. I always knew pretty quick when it happened so I would pick them up and run to the potty saying "no,no your poopie goes in the potty!!Not in your underware!!", I would empty the mess into the potty while talking to them about, what big boys do(girls in your case). My middle child didn't catch on as quickly and although some moms might not find this appealing, after cleaning up the mess in his underware, I would put him in the bath tub and with cool water(not luke warm, cool)I would clean his bottom...He did not like that and I only had to do it a few times... This is what worked for me, I hope lots more moms reply soon with their suggestions or experience... Good luck and GOD Bless!!!

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