proper age 2 send kids out to play alone?

Montana - posted on 07/28/2011 ( 7 moms have responded )




I feel like I can NEVER catch up on housework. I am always cooking or cleaning n it seems like I have little time to play with the kids outside. Dont get me wrong, I DO make time to go outside with them everyday but only for an hour or 2 in the morning while I have coffee before I start my day. My son is only 1 so obviously he is always with me. I feel a little neglectful with my daughter though. My son is at the age where he clings to me so he does EVERYTHING with me. My daughter gets bored waiting around for me get my stuff done .I was wondering when you all think it is ok to let your child go outside and play by themselves. I let her go when she has her older cousins or friends over and I know if I let her go out, she will stay in the yard but she is only 4 1/2. My hubby says its ok. What do YOU think??


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Katherine - posted on 08/03/2011




I wouldn't because you don't have a fenced in yard. Maybe when she is a tad bit older?

Amber - posted on 08/03/2011




I have been letting my daughter play in the back yard by herself since she was about 18 months. I always leave the door wide open and if I am upstairs then I open the window so I can hear her. I won't let her play by herself in the front yard even though we live on a quiet street and we know all our neighbours, it is just too easy for someone to grab her and be off in their car.

Jennifer - posted on 08/02/2011




You can do what I did with my kids. I did wait until they started kindergarten, so about a year older than your daughter, and this is how I knew they should be ok. I would send them out, and watch them through a window constantly for a while. I didn't let them know I was watching, so that I could see what they did when they thought I wasn't looking. I did that for a couple days, then I went to the point where I would get up and look out every 2-3 min. I still look out about every 5 min, and make sure I keep the volume down on things so that I can hear if one yells or a car goes down the road (we live far out in the country and only have like 10 cars go down the road in a day), but I feel pretty confident in them. Sure they get into a few things they shouldn't, but they never leave the back yard or deck.

Lisa - posted on 07/29/2011




We live in the country but also have a fenced in area where the kids can play outside. They're 4 1/2 and 2 1/2.

Stifler's - posted on 07/28/2011




I started sending my kid out to play in the back yard at like 15 months. Our yard has a 6 foot fence and he can't get into anything or get out.

Tamara - posted on 07/28/2011




I think if you have a fenced and safe yard its fine. I use to keep the blinds open so I could still see them (heck they are 7 and 8 and still do lol) and let her run and enjoy the sun :)

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