punishment

Kandace - posted on 03/29/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Ok im a stay at home mom and my husband works at a boys home. im having problems when it comes to punishing our 2 year old son. he is just starting to get into his terriable 2s and were just having to actually punish him. but i feel like im the only one that ever does anything. i have him all day and anytime he does something he shouldnt i tell him to go to his room which works fine during the day when its just us but it seems like the second my husband gets home that everytime i tell him to go to his room my husband stops him and hugs him and than walks him to his room. or during bed time its always me that has to keep him in bed and he doesnt make it any easier because he has his friends over right at the same time ad im trying to lay him down and if no one comes over everytime i go to make him stop crying he tells me to sit down and let him scream. saying that all hes wanting is attention and ive tryed both was and if you let him cry he screams for two hours and if you make him stop hes up for about 30 min.

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Gabriela - posted on 03/30/2010

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it must be overwhelming...you are a strong mom to be able to handle everything that is on your plate..no not a strong mom a strong woman.

Kandace - posted on 03/29/2010

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thank you very much. i also have a 3 month old and i can count on one hand how many times hes changed his diaper. he isnt always bad about helping on the weekends he takes care of the two year olds diapers but everything else is all me cooking cleanig and serving when he has guest over. and i get upset that everything is his and nothing is mine. im just stressed out trying to take care of everything and on top of it im planning a wedding.

Gabriela - posted on 03/29/2010

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you know i know exactly how you feel. when i first had my second son, my partner did NOT help. he would come home and tell me why i haven't done anything in the house. i had a two yr old and a newborn. and i did cook. mind you the cleaning could wait for the fact that he wasn't helping with diapers or feeding or anything..

it feels very lonely and frustrating. Now, if it helps your sanity don't let him cry it out. just tell him that you are the one with your son and if he could just back you up on your decision.

now as far as his friends coming over when you are trying to sleep the baby tell him nicely to please be a bit considerate and at least keep their voices down.

this is easier said then done but its for your health. trust me this will get easier and you will learn to manage your son. My oldest son has a 'bully' issue at school (he's the bully) and i believe thats because i spoiled him emotionally for too long....

i wish you luck and if you need to vent just send me a message. i will hear you out. its hard and it feels lonely and frustrating. I hated the feeling of not having someone to talk to and not feel judged. send me a message at any time...if you just need an ear i will hear you out and if you need advice i can do my best

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