really need help now with potty training

Louise - posted on 08/15/2009 ( 15 moms have responded )

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need help with potty training this is my fourth time of trying my daughter will be three in dec and starts playgroup in september. She just will not use have just spent a week clearing up wee and pooh my partner just says put nappies back on her but i have got this far in i want to keep going, dont know what to do. Plus i am a childminder and have a baby starting with me in october so wanted to do it before then as she might get jealous and i will be in a worse position.HELP!!!!

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Darci - posted on 08/24/2009

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My daughter (oldest) is very independent. I started potty training her July 2008; she was 2 1/2 years old. I took a break when I had morning sickness with my 3rd pregnancy from about September to December. We got busy again in January... I cleaned up a lot of messes. Then, in March/April, I just resigned myself to the fact that she wouldn't be potty trained until after the baby arrived (and I'd have 3 in diapaers)... she wore pull-ups because I was tired of cleaning up messes and I HOPED that she'd use the potty and pull-ups gave her the opportunity to do it on her own. AND, she trained herself in late-April before baby #3 arrived on May 13th. She is even potty trained at night too! Totally in character for her to do it "by herself". It's been a HUGE blessing in our house. Very few accidents, and the new baby didn't disrupt her world or her potty training success at all. Not sure if this helps, but it's our story.



One things I did do was tell her that if she went poop or pee in her underwear... she wouldn't get to wear clothes all day... I think we had about 3 "naked" days, and we had a potty chair nearby at all times. She was at the age that she liked to wear clothes. So this also motivated her a little. I cleaned up a few messes on the floor, but she did know when she was going potty and she quickly learned how to recognize that feeling.

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Laura - posted on 08/28/2009

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My oldest son is 2 1/2 and is potty trained. We had him watch us (my husband and I) go to the bathroom all the time, talked about what we were doing and why (we like to feel dry), and had the practice potty in the living room. We let him pick candy at the store that he got whenever he peed or pooped in the potty. Within a week, he was potty trained. Now he goes by himself and we no longer use the candy. Good luck...hope this helps.

Nichole - posted on 08/28/2009

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i started taking my 2yr old with me every time i had to go and let her sit on it. them her older sister whos 4 started taking her with her when she had to go and if she went she got a treat and we cheered for her after 1 month no more accidents she still needs the diapers at night but not for naptime. with my first kid i put a potty in the kitchen and every 5 mins i took her to the potty it took her a month then she was on her own and outta diapers for good

April - posted on 08/28/2009

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I have been trying to train my daughter since she was 18 months. At first she would sit, but would not do anything. Then she would scream hysterically at the sight of the potty. We tried pull-ups, but she treated them more like diapers. She didn't care if she was wet. A month before she turned 4, I told her that starting on her birthday that she would only be in panties. We've had a few accidents, but she has improved. Now if we can get the "poopy" .....It may also be important to note that she we placed her in daycare with hopes of seeing other children may encourage her to use the potty. I truly believe this helped her get over some of the fear.

Deidre - posted on 08/28/2009

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All of the above works. One thing I haven't heard is not to give them liquids after 6 or 7 pm. This was the key for me cause it was the through the night stuff that was driving me crazy... I took him to the potty every 2 hrs and he did "pee pee on the potty". I made up a song as what i do for most everything and it is priceless! 3 weeks of pure consistency and PRESTO" DARIUS is now fully potty trained.

Kourtney_payne2 - posted on 08/26/2009

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i have not potty trained yet as my daughter is only one, but the above advice sounds great. Here is what i am going to try: right now we have the potty in the living roon and she plays with it almost everyday, just to get her use to it and when she is old enough i will sit her on the potty and give her a book...Its proven if a child has something to do while on the potty or such they will stay longer

Della - posted on 08/26/2009

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Have you thought about a reward chart? Give your daughter a sticker for every successful potty she has and let her put the sticker on the chart. Always make a big fuss when she is successful but don't get upset when she has an accident. Let her know that it will get better with practice and definately give her LOTS of love and encouragement. All this helped with my daughter....Best of Luck!

Amanda - posted on 08/26/2009

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I'm toilet training my son who's just turned 3. The advice I got and followed was to set the oven timer every 20-30 minutes, every time the timer goes off you take her to the potty. When she wees reward her with a sticker on a sticker chart, let her put the sticker on herself, give hi5's, cuddles and kisses, and at the end of the week give her a new toy or jocks, or take her somewhere special for a treat if theres some stickers on the chart. And praise them for sitting on the potty and trying even if they dont do anything. Be patient...thats not always easy. I was also told to put jocks on under the nappies so they feel when they wet themselves. I had some horribly frustrating days, but now my boy has started taking himself to the potty, I just keep reminding him every now and then that if he wants to wee to use the potty. No doubt there'll be lots of accidents to come but I'm just happy I'm finally getting somewhere.

Good luck hope this helps.

Jaimie - posted on 08/25/2009

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i have only potty trained my boy, but this is what worked for us. we set the timer one day to go off every 15 min that way we knew he would finally actually GO in the potty and once he did he got a ppiece of candy or a dollar store toy. then we would set it for every half hour to 45 mins. once he got the hang of going to the potty and he knew he would get a prize he did it more often. now the night time training OMG i though he would never get to that point. i tried everything to keep him dry at night and he just couldn't do it. finally i would get him up and walk him to the bathroom 2 times before i went to bed the last time would be at midnight and when i did that he stayed dry. well i broke my ankel so i could not wake him up anymore so i was thinkg we wills ee how this goes and amazingly he woke himself up crying cause he needed to go potty and i did'nt wake him up, now he gets him self up and goes. i did the waking him up and taking him potty for about 3 weeks. hope this helps

Sandy - posted on 08/25/2009

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I have two boys, so I don't know how much different it is with girls...but I used Dr. Phil's "Potty Training in One Day" method and it worked like a charm both times! You can find a link on the home page of his website! Good luck!!

Crystal - posted on 08/24/2009

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Best recommendations:

1. do not give in to diapers

2. let child play with potty to get familiar, i know it sounds gross just keep it clean really made a difference

3. Replace wherever you keep diapers for underwear, explain the 'store' will only give us one diaper save it for beditme per day

Hope this helps, its has worked with three weeks dramatically changed and she'll be three in Oct

Jamie - posted on 08/15/2009

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in november take her diaper off and look her in the eyes and say. " im not changing your diaper anymore. you need to go to the bathroom on your own like a big girl." throw out all diapers and training pants. it worked for me.

Jen - posted on 08/15/2009

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From what I understand, boys are harder to potty train than girls... so hopefully that is good news. Unfortunately, I have only potty trained boys thus far. My girl is only 11 months old. My oldest, he is now 5, is training kind of like a puppy. He is really stubborn, so I spent a week on the kitchen timer. Every hour I put him on the toilet. (I did not use a trainer toilet, I used a trainer seat the goes on the real toilet. My best friend used one of the self toilets that sits on the floor. I didn't want to clean it out.) If her did not go in the toilet, I gave him a hug and praised him for trying. I f he did go in toilet, I gave him a sticker, or 1 m&m or something. After the first week, we continued the same idea, but not as rigid. When I spent the week so engrossed in the potty training I learned his "ques" for when he had to go. Then afterward I knew what to look for, and he knew what to expect. I have to warn you though, that week is hard, long, and, for us, emotional. However, we got potty training down in about three weeks. Hope something in here helps.

Michelle - posted on 08/15/2009

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do an award chart, or you can give her a smartie every time she goes pee and 2 every time she poo's. also get her to pick out some underware and tell her "princess's" like to stay dry so you can not pee on them. I gave my daughter toy rings, necklaces and hair stuff when she would go all on her own without me asking. right now I am training my son and he gets stickers.

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