RESPECT!

Jennifer - posted on 01/16/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I hate to husband bash, because I have a good man and he loves us and he works hard, but...
Why can't he respect what I do at home. He walks on my kitchen floors with his boots on right after I just got done on my hands and knees scrubbing them. He takes his shirt off and throws it on the living room floor. He leaves his dirty dishes all over the living room including full cups where our 23mo. old can reach. If he gets something out of the fridge he just leaves it on the counter. When he undresses for the night, if the clothes basket is 1 foot away from where it is suppossed to be, he just throws all of his dirty clothes on the floor. He drops whatever is in his hands when he walks through the door right by the door and never puts anything away. You get the idea, he is a slob! We have three small children that I have to look after and half of my day is just picking up after him. I know his biggest problem is that his mom did everything for him when he was at home and I have tried to tell him that I am not his mom and he is a grown man and he can pick up after himself. I don't expect him to do the house work or anything like that. He works long hours (up to 16hrs a day) and hardly has time to spend with us as it is, but a little respect would be nice. I've tried just leaving the stuff there and seeing if it bothers him, but it bothers me too much and I can't handle it. I've tried explaining it to him, but he he just says you are the one that wanted to be home and it is your job to clean it. Well, he wants me home too. I had a job for a little while last year just working every other weekend and he couldn't handle it!

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Jennifer - posted on 01/16/2010

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It's not that he forgets, he just doesn't care! When he looks at the floor and sees that he is tracking dirt everywhere he just says "oh well, you'll have that" and when I say something about his dirty clothes in the living room he huffs and puffs like a 2-year-old and still doesn't pick it up. When I say something about his dirty dishes, he says he will get them later, but later never comes!

Heather - posted on 01/16/2010

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Men can get easily side tracked, i.e. leaving cups on the floor. You just need to remind him that he left his cup out. Remind him to put it away. Tell him how much you appreciate it when helps to make your job easier. Sometimes I'll pick up after my husband and other times I remind him to. He would usually rather pick up his own papers, though, because I just put them in a box and take them in his office for him to sort through later - that actually makes MORE work for him. I also remind him that what he leaves out and the kids get a hold of and lose, I am NOT responsible for. :-)

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