Rude/Disrespectful father in law

Taylor - posted on 05/31/2016 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My husband and i are temporarily living with his family . My father in law has made several rude comments towards and about my 10 month old son. He has told him that whining is the most unmanly thing he could do (as if he understands what he's saying) . When my son fell and hit his head on his crib and started to cry my father in law came down towards our room and asked if "all of that crying was necessary" and at the time my son was about 6 months old . He constantly asks my son why he's whining......... i feel like I'm going to explode if i hear another stupid comment come out of his mouth . Does anybody have advice or personal experience on how to resolve without conflict?

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Gardensparrow - posted on 06/03/2016

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It's definitely challenging dealing with frustrating in-laws. And I know it's more difficult for you since you're temporarily living with your FIL. But, as far as some advice, has your husband noticed this behavior on his dad's part? Would he be willing to confront him about it? Since it's his father, it would probably be better for him to take the lead here if possible. Of course, if it truly gets to be too much, it may be time to consider some other living arrangement if it's at all possible. Setting some boundaries will be much easier in that case....

Taylor - posted on 06/02/2016

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My son has no idea whats being said so its absolutely me and my pride. Ive explained to him (since he seems totally clueless) that he is a BABY and cannot talk yet , so all the little sounds and noises that he makes are his way of communicating........... but he continues to make these stupid comments. So i think thats why I'm getting so pissed, he's been given the information and he still opens his moth and continues to make negative comments about my son . Also, he wouldn't dare make these comments in front of my mother in law, so that also irritates me . He knows better than to say it front of his wife because its not right, but he makes them when she's not around. So i almost feel like its an intentional jab .

Shannon - posted on 05/31/2016

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I would be incredibly mad too and I would hope I could maintain the level of respect that you have. I guess you need to ask yourself if it is A) actually hurting your son or if it's only hitting your pride. If it is just your pride, it could be best to just suck it up. Since it is your hubby's parents, maybe ask him to talk to them.

Taylor - posted on 05/31/2016

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maybe not, i just want to make sure I'm respectful while we are living under his roof. The problem is that I've allowed the little comments to continue and now I'm at the point where i get so enraged when i hear him say something about my son that i cannot calmly address it then and there........... so i have to walk away and collect my self and calm down or i will lose my temper and I'm afraid it will cause a problem. .

Shannon - posted on 05/31/2016

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Why would it be so terrible if you did? Would it be considered awful of you to say "If you don't like it, walk away"?

Taylor - posted on 05/31/2016

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yes 100 %. But it is definitely easier for him to let it go. i am at my breaking point and I'm terrified that I'm going to blow up the next time he says something negative about my baby.

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