SAHM feeling depressed.

Natalie - posted on 05/05/2011 ( 20 moms have responded )

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My fiance works the night shift and then sleeps all day. I am a stay at home mom so I do not get much socialization with other moms and we moved to an area where I do not have any friends. I need suggestions on how to meet other moms in my area. I am feeling really down the past couple of days and really lonely.

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Shannintipton - posted on 05/05/2011

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Hi Natalie
I really sorry you are feeling so down. I think you will find this is great place for support. I personally dont like leaving the house so this is a great outlet for me. But I bet in no time there will be some great ladies responding to you with some ideas for you. Good luck {:+)

Amy - posted on 05/08/2011

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@natalie i was feeling the same way and i found out i had depression so doctors gave me happy pills and now im fine.

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Hi Natalie,
Out situation sounds VERY similar. We moved to NE when I was 8.5 months pregnant for my husbands new job as a police officer. His first shift when baby arrived was at night so it was just me with a baby, 2 dogs and a cat. I too stay at home and it is really difficult to keep everyone quiet. I joined a breastfeeding support group here, MilkWorks, but there are La Leche League groups across the country (if you BF). I also looked up stay at home mom groups in my area. We go for walk frequently too. I had situational depression problems after baby because of the move, no family and no friends. So I really understand how you feel. I hope that helps!
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One thing that helped me a lot was getting my daughter into swimming lessons. It got me out of the house for a bit once a week. It also helps me since my husband is the coordinator at the pool. Since my daughter is in a parent child class I actually get a chance to meet the other parents and children. But even just sitting on the side can be nice. There are always a lot of parents sitting around as their child finished up a class. They can be really fun to talk to.

Catherine - posted on 05/06/2011

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I completely understand how you feel, I feel the same way some days too. If you search online for Meetup.com groups, you may find some mom's groups in your area. Also, you may want to check out your local library. Ours offers several kids programs, and I've met several other SAHMs through that which I see for other playdates and such. Also, just going to the playground with the kids or something like that can be a great way to meet new people. Good luck!

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Kim - posted on 09/01/2013

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I actually found a mom group on the groups section of craigslist. I was freaked out, thinking it would be a bunch of crazies but met a lot of great SAHMs that are of like mind with me. It is a great escape, and very refreshing to talk to other moms. Parks can be good too, if you are good at the spontaneous friend making bit- which I am not!

Rachael - posted on 08/31/2013

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wow, we should be diagnosed with sahm syndrome, lol. i too was the same. i almost left my hubby cause i couldnt take it anymore. not to talk to another adult ever, i decided to volunteer teaching a class 1 hour a week. i also my hubby started taking me out more. u should really look into mom groups, they really understand u and give out great advice.

Claudette - posted on 08/26/2013

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A good thing to do is would be to try to get on his schedule, somewhat. with that being said, maybe stay up later and have the kids stay up late too so that you all would sleep later in the day.
Another thing to do to meet people is to go to the library. The library usually has children programs and that would be a great place to meet other moms with kids of similar ages.
Also, parks are good places too to meet people.
After trying these ideas and you see nothing is working, I would then go and talk to someone, about depression.
Good luck.

Natalie - posted on 05/08/2011

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Thanks Ladies this has really helped. Thanks for all the helpful advice and all the encouragement.

Jessica - posted on 05/07/2011

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I know how you feel. My husband used to work 80 hours a week and the night shift. The best advice I would say is look for groups in the community. MOPS (moms of preschooler groups) they free or very inexpensive. Find a community garden in you area that's a fun thing to do with little ones and you will see other people there, see if there are any free drop in and play centers in your area, story time at your local library, sometimes the YWCA has cheep mommy and me classes, the park can be a good place to meet people.

Rosa - posted on 05/06/2011

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Hi. I know exactly how you feel. when I had those feelings I started to look for things to do a ns how to meet other moms. I founded meetup.com and I had meet this wonderful group of ladies that we get to spend some time with.

Chairettie - posted on 05/06/2011

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I can relate - we moved when I was 7 months preg. to another state my girls are 10 months this Monday and my husband travels so he is usualy gone. I still have not been able to get out and make friends. I have met a few people from an online mommies local group about 2 months ago. It is lonely :o( Sites like this are good to be able to meet and chit chat, I just recently got into this now that my twins are more predictable. Try to do a search for a local mommies group in your area where you can meet up for play dates or maybe you can meet up for coffee.... good luck :o) Happy Mothers Day!

Karrie - posted on 05/06/2011

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Hi, Natalie, I can totally relate.
Do you garden at all? Even a few tomato plants in a pot can help you feel better--it's healing and soothing to watch things grow, and you can contribute to dinner, too. =) Lots of veggies grow easily from seeds and don't take up a lot of space. Do some digging on the internet--gardeners are usually soulful and helpful people, and it will give you a project to keep your mind occupied. Hopefully with the weather getting nicer, you will be able to get outdoors--that is always good for a depressed spirit.

Karrie - posted on 05/06/2011

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Church seems to be the easiest place to meet people in general, and esp. other SAHMs. Even if you aren't "religious," you might approach it as a learning experience with the idea that you can make some friends.
Going for walks (to meet neighbors) or the local library, esp. for story times (how old are your children?) are other possibilities. I have met a ton of nice moms with my oldest now starting preschool. I'm thinking a class of any kind would be good--even a tot tumbling time at the YMCA. SPeaking of YMCA, if there's a good program in your area, it can be an excellent source of community.
Good luck! It's hard. Many of us have been there. ;)

Natalie - posted on 05/05/2011

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Thanks ladies! I think I am just having a hard time with feeling the stress of being on one income and not being able to help my fiance. I just feel like I am not contributing to the family. I have always worked but its easier for me not to work and saves us money in the long run.

Jennifer - posted on 05/05/2011

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what about ECFE Early child family education classes are always fun! and you meet great people also the park is a great place and here we try and talk to moms and make them happy. i am a sahm and on a 1 income but i just keep myself busy with my daughter and even play a game on Facebook with friends that includes a voice chat :-) if you would like a friend im open to new ones at any time and im on a lot :-)

Jane - posted on 05/05/2011

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since you have one car, you can always offer to have other moms over w/their kids to your house. also, getting on a schedule, every day or every other day w/the baby in the stroller and going for a walk can do a world of good for your mood.

Shannintipton - posted on 05/05/2011

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Natalie,

Do you like Circle of Moms. I find time flies when I am on line. There is so many different communities to choose from. I am always here. You should check it out more if you havent already. You can chat with me anytime. I have to warn you I have a weird sense of humor, but I NEVER mean to offend. I just think funny overrides mean sometime. lol. See what I mean, I just dont always know when to stop. {:+)

Jane - posted on 05/05/2011

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call the local WIC office and see what mom groups there are. also, the library or church to see what events there are. there are lots and lots of moms who need good friends. motherhood is a univerals community.

Natalie - posted on 05/05/2011

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Thanks Shannin. We are on one income so I do not get to get out of the house much and we only have one car, I am fine most days its just that the past couple of days I have been really down and depressed. Hopefully it will be better over the next few days.

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