SAHM lonely and on a farm

Rachael - posted on 06/02/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )




Arethere any other SAHM's live out of town (I am 15 min from nearest small town, but 45 minutes from nearest city) with no neighbours with small kids?
I miss being with adults and when I do go see people it ost with gas.
Anyone else in the same boat and get lonely most days?


Zara - posted on 06/02/2010




My situation is just like yours. I live15 mins from a very small town, and about 45 mins from another pretty small town but at least it has a Walmart! I have a 4 year old and a 1 year old and don't know too many moms my age with kids around here.

So what kind of things do you do in your spare time?

Rose - posted on 06/02/2010




Hi Rachael .... Hall is my madien name.... I also am a SAHM with a 2.5 yr and pregnant and due november... I like 15 mins for the nearest small town and 45 from the city .. i have one neighbor with small kids but we have different parenting styles so we dont do much together. My husband also travels with work so I do get lonely. I like to read a lot and try to do classes all the time with my daughter so she can play with kids. Ive looking into play groups but in the fall and winter it isnt good in oregon to big activites. Look into for adult groups I found one i like.

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Could you spare enough gas to make one trip to town a week for a play group or library programs or something. I find that it's very much worth the drive.

Sarah - posted on 06/02/2010




When you do go into town just make the most of it...Maybe you could start a moms group at your house. Alot of moms would love to take their kids to the country on a field trip, so maybe see if some moms you meet are interested. I understand how you feel and have experienced living away from others...It will get better :)


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Debbie - posted on 06/02/2010




Even though I am not in the same boat, as I don't live in an isolated situation, I can relate as I recently moved to a new city where I didn't know anyone and was very lonely. I found the best way to meet people was through general chit chat with other mums as I took my daughter to school and my son to pre-school. So joining a group sounds like a great idea. As you get to know other parents you can call, e-mail and sms each other to help feel connected.

Rachael - posted on 06/02/2010




Thaks ladies, i just cant get motivated at the moment to do anyting as I just feel so lonely.

My hubby works on the farm so not home that muh and I ave a 5 year old at kinder 2 days a week and evry second tuesday have to travel 45 minutes for seech therapy for him and then a 3 year old and 8 month old.

By the time I do what needs doing in town it is time to come home so not really an option to catch up with people then.

Think I will try to join a playgrop.

Zara I dont realy have any hobbie, just get on facebook to catchup but know bubs is a bit older might have to start thinking about that.

Pam - posted on 06/02/2010




I am in exactly the same boat and have had to cut back on my trips to town because of it being costly in fuel. I am also about 45min from town so I really do look forward to the 2 days I do go to town a week for playgroup, seeing friends and getting the groceries.

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