Sahm stuck!

Amy - posted on 04/25/2016 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My husband and I argue all the time about me going back to work. I tried to go back to work last year but I couldn't afford to work. What money I made wouldn't cover my gas, food and child care. Now I am without a vehicle and it's impossible to find a job that can will hire and train me all on a third shift. It is causing some issues because he doesn't quite understand and thinks I just want to stay home and do nothing but I don't do nothing. I have tried to explain that just because I don't have a paycheck doesn't mean I don't have a job. I have the most important job ever and I don't get o call in or get time off. I am on call 24/7! I just want him to understand!

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Sofia - posted on 04/27/2016

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I know there are real jobs to work from home. You could look for smth like a call center agent, you can transcript documents or even be a virtual assistant. Do a research and find something that would fit you. Be aware of scams

Amy - posted on 04/27/2016

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I want to work it's just difficult with the schedules. I would love to find something that I can work from home but it's hard to find a work from home job that actually legit and doesn't cost money to work. Any suggestions?

Danielle - posted on 04/26/2016

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Hi, Amy. I'm a SAHM and have often felt that I may not be contributing enough to the family because I don't bring home a paycheck. I think that is something a lot of SAHMs have felt. But the work you're doing being home with your children is the most important work there is!
I don't know your financial situation but have you and your husband discussed creating a budget based on what he's bringing home? It sounds like you and your husband may have some different ideas about your finances and communication would really help iron all of that out! Maybe you could sit down with all of your expenses and work out a budget that will show you staying home is actually more beneficial to your family than an extra income.
As far as your husband's thoughts about what you do, again I think communication is going to be so helpful. I know that I want to be defensive when it comes to this subject but that probably won't work with your husband. Maybe you can plan to have a nice, quiet, relaxed moment with him after the littles are in bed to talk about your feelings and to answer any of his concerns about what your day is like.
I do hope that you'll both be able to see eye to eye on this. It does sound like you both just want what's best for your family - you just need to get on the same page.

Sofia - posted on 04/26/2016

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Amy you could try working from home part time or at night when your baby is sleeping. And also for your husband to understand you try leaving the baby with him for a day or two and also to cook lunch, dinner and do laundry

Mary - posted on 04/25/2016

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Hi Amy,
I have to say, even the best of the best men can't really wrap their heads around being a SAHM. I understand as I am one. But I want to understand better what you are saying. You want to get a job and doesn't want you to? Or you want to get a job and are having difficulties because of the scheduling and other things and he thinks you aren't trying. I'd like to help, either way. And I'm sorry your going thru this.

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