SAHMs - Our Natural Vocation - But Discouraged!

SAHM1495 - posted on 04/24/2013 ( 6 moms have responded )

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It troubles me why on earth there aren't m/any voices heard and adhered, that shout about a mothers natural place and a Natural/God given right to actually raise and nurture our children in our own homes. Since when did the hu/man decide to actually go against nature to decide that actually - a mother should be eagerly encouraged to 'get back to work'.
I feel there is a point missing - especially as we have such a downturn in the kind of people we are producing in this country. Society, appears to have had a collapse in the past couple of decades, and I'm seeking other 'decent' upright honest, law abiding, mothers with great morals, for they are a force to be reckoned with indeed!

I feel that with the boom of Industry, came the need to scrape everyone together to feed the greed. I'm a mother. I don't like this; because of everything it entails. I'd sooner be left with the knowledge I've accumulated, ploughing my fields to feed my family, help the community, along with my fellows where I live. Yes, back to local organic agriculture so that my children can be raised and fed by my own hands, as it should be, according to nature.

It is no wonder I feel so bad about handing my children over to 'childcare' which, I realised, was absurd; to think that I was paying someone to 'look after' my children, whilst I work for eight or more hours a day - missing them and worrying about them - I was PAYING for this to happen? WT... The childcare costs were too much for my wage and I resigned from my 'professional' job. Now I am more satisfied as a mother, my children are more satisfied with their 'real' mother as opposed to their 'surrogate' mothers, and we are less stressed? Ever heard of a stressed mommy animal? Blame Industry, with all its trimmings and material goods, I don't care too much for it now. I want something REAL, a great relation to my children and to help them be GREAT people. It doesn't mean they will be stupid, it's unlikely because of my upstanding.

I am aware of what is happening to society, to our people, their behaviour. But are the government aware? Is this what they really want - a nation of money driven, materialistic, selfish, violent addicts who are oblivious to what 'stupid' means, are illiterate and appear not to know that many words they are speaking actually end with a T or a G?

I believe that the SAHM is The Anchor for all good people. The time and consideration a SAHM devotes to preparing and being with their children is crucial to breeding a great nation. I see an 'army' of SAHM with voices to be heard, all together in the streets across the nation, shouting for reform of the country by encouraging SAHMs to BE at home, spending more quality time with their children.

Childcare should be there for those who wish to go to work. Not for mums who don't want to and reluctantly, obligingly feel they are forced to put them there and go back to work.Some feel they have no choice.

this is my issue, we MUST have a CHOICE and should not be made to feel like it is wrong, or discouraged from doing so and need support. The proof also comes guised as benefits, for those who go back to work, and a dwindling amount for those SAHMs who wish to continue being a SAHM.

This government supports you to push your children away for the majority of your day
This government does not support you if you wish to stay at home and manage your children and household

The results of which have provided us with a very questionable sort of people; a demise of decent people.
Drastic changes are needed and it starts at home with SAHMs. I do not exclude mothers who wish to work for the majority of time that their children are at school for.

Remember a poster of a 1950's woman, hair in headscarf, apron on, sleeves rolled up, boots of for gardening, etc ?- well that's me.

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That is awful! None of my friends in the UK have mentioned anything about being forced to work. How are you being forced to work?

In the states, we do have a capitalist economy, which in and of itself tends to support the working over the non working, but in a family dynamic, as long as one parent works, we are supported. In our family, and in most of the families I know, the mother works. (Two of the families I know with working mothers have sahm fathers).

I do not homeschool my son, he goes to school for 6 hours each day. During that time, I, like many other sahm's, do volunteer work within our community.

In my opinion, a successful community has people to fill 3 major types of jobs: Volunteers, low-wage/part-time jobs, and professional jobs. Each type of job requires a different type of person. Volunteer positions require people who have spare time and do not need an income (sahm's, retirees). Low wage jobs require people who do not need a high income (single people, students, retirees). Professional jobs require people who are trained, dedicated, and passionate about their field. These jobs pay more because they require more from the worker--these are the jobs required to support a family. Sometimes, a community will fail if it does not have enough professional positions available because you end up with parents, who should be in professional positions that can support their family, working in low wage positions, which require both parents to work. Others fail if there is no source of workers for low wage positions--there must be a school, or program to make sure senior citizens are able to work part time. If there is no one to run the cash register, the stores will close and the community will die, but we can't afford to pay the cashier $65k. When that happens, it makes it difficult for families to have one parent in the home.

Yolanda - posted on 04/28/2013

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I believe the government supports working mothers and not stay at home moms because if we raise our own kids we are creating independent thinkers who do not follow the crowd as easily. Think about it ... when the influence comes from the parent and not daycare then public school, they start out with different ideals much of the time. That said I realize there are many mothers who would love to be with their kids, and for them it's not an option.
I do believe that it is getting much more difficult to have rights and values in this country. But as long as I can I intend to raise my own children and also teach them to reverence and believe in all things sacred,esp. the God and Creator of the universe.

SAHM1495 - posted on 04/26/2013

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Ah, but I am in the UK, and we are being forced into work, for the sake of the economy, and they have the blatancy to state it. You look at our teens and twenty something's and thirty something's.....not a good impression of the UK. The Swedish Family model is no longer a good idea, as there are errors that have led to a bad impact on the psychology of their youth, as a result of lack of nurturing basically.

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I intend to comment more on this later, but I don't have time to gather my thoughts at the moment as we are going out of town for the weekend, and I need to get us ready.


To start though, I will say that I very rarely experience any negativity toward sahm's or our role. My community is very supportive of sahm's. In fact, I can only think of 4 moms I know who work outside their homes, everyone else is a sahm.

I have never felt that the government "stood in my way" so to speak, in terms of being a sahm mom.

I'll say more later :) Hopefully others will chime in as well, I would like to discuss societal impacts.

SAHM1495 - posted on 04/26/2013

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I was also wondering where the other comments were, there would have been nine now - where did they go? :(

Geria - posted on 04/25/2013

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I couldn't have said it better sister! Add on to the SAHM role Christian Homeschooler and life can be even more challenging!

Thanks for your wisdom!

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