Sanity for stay at home mom

Lisa - posted on 07/18/2011 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Don't get me wrong I looooooooovvvvvvvveeeeeeee being a mom!! I love every minute of being with my children.But at the same time I don't go out much, don't have many friends nowadays, and really don't do anything...I go to church sometimes but I still don't make friends :( What do you do to keep your sanity???

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Hannah - posted on 07/22/2011

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I know how you feel! I had my son at 18, he's now 2. I have almost no friends with kids, and its hard to keep up the friendships with friends who just dont get my new life as a mum. We go to playgroup and all the other women are very nice, but I havnt really made friends, its very hard. I personally think society has taken a wrong turn, we shouldnt aim to be a nuclear family with no community support, people should be friends with neigbours and those people that live down the street! Go back to when kids could play in the street and everyone said hello to eachother.

Savana - posted on 07/21/2011

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Heather- Very encouraging post! It is easy to loss yourself when you become a mom. I have a 3 year old son and twin 4 year old ss. I just came into the picture with the twins a year ago. I'm still learning to balence it all on top of getting used to a new city.
Lisa I agree with Elizabeth. Their is a little craziness in being a stay at home mom. But if you use it in the right way, instead of letting it get you down you can come up with some really fun things to do. One of my favorite things to do is go for a walk and get some ice cream. It puts a smile on everyone's faces. As for the friends thing it is hard. i still haven't made any friends in my new city but then again I let go of some opportunities like story time at the library and exercise classes.
Smile sanity comes and goes. :)

Toni - posted on 07/20/2011

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Go to church more, make time for yourself. Take your kids to a park and see what happens. You both may leave with new friends. I live out in the middle of nowhere, and there aren't playgroups around here, so these are the things that have worked for me. ♥ Good Luck dear!!

Amanda - posted on 07/20/2011

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We go to playgroup, the kids get socialised and I get to sit back and chat with other mums over a cuppa.
I also go to the gym. I get me time and the kids are taken off my hands by the creche

Heather - posted on 07/19/2011

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take the kids for walks, or go to the nearby parks, I have very few friends in the new location i live and it is hard, the kids are overwhelming and it's hard, you just want some "me" time. i've picked up where i left off before i had kids doing all the things i loved and my kids are starting to like the new me and the "new" things I'm doing again. (by the way I'm a full out artist, musically and artistically) my boys love it, i do drawings in the driveway with chalk to show others what i love to do and it's getting people to come to my door and ask "who did that wonderful drawing?", it's all about how you show yourself to the outer world with your kids around you. when we first moved here i was in a slump for the first 3 years, i felt like i had no reason besides the kids to bother going anywhere, but eventually just find the "real" you , be that in front of your kids, walk around the block every evening after supper, you get to meet some really cool people for neighbours, keep it up and you'll make friends again, it just takes longer. GL

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I feel that you have to be insane to be a sahm :). Hehe. I like going to the library and always meet other momsi keep my kids in activities and lessons, so we both socialize. But there are times that I feel like I cant carry on an adult convo without it being about kids lol. Just laugh and accept craziness :)

Melissa - posted on 07/18/2011

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Oh Lisa, I feel the same way. My days are always the same. I find it hard to make friends or keep the few I have, it's lonely and depressing. I know I didn't really help you , but just wanted to let you know that you are not alone.

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