Scared of what's next?

Alycia - posted on 06/03/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )




Are any of your mom's scared of what you will do after your kids are in school? Will you still be SAHM's? Or will you have to be getting jobs? Kids grow so fast, and I enjoy every minute with them, but I have to remember soon I will be having to get a job and work like every other mother. I became a SAHM right out of High School, the only job I have had is fast food, and I worry what I will do.

Curious to know if other mom's fear the same thing?


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Kelina - posted on 06/03/2010




No. I know that when my kids are in school, if i want to I will go back to school, but probably I will stay home and be here when they get home from school and be involved in their lives as much as possible. If i can find anything in this tiny little town I might volunteer, or we may continue to choose to foster younger children so i'm always a SAHM! I try not to worry about the future too much.

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I wouldn't worry too much yet. Enjoy the here and now. But it's okay to make plans. Just don't worry and let it consume you! You have the option of going back to school or if that doesn't appeal to you, you could work retail or in an office setting or daycare. There are a number of things you can do!

I've considered three things:

1. Continue to stay at home and be super involved with my daughter's and any future kids' schools.

2. Home school

3. Go back to school and get a reading specialist certification and teach struggling readers (I already have a teaching certification, so it's just a few more classes at the university)

I'll most likely do number 1 for a while and if I'm too bored, I'll do number 3. If money becomes an issue before then, I'll go back to teaching in a regular classroom.

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My one and only is starting kindy this August, so I'm facing this now. This past winter was my last winter with my little one!! I do not intend to get a job this fall. I will be volunteering at his school, and I will continue our volunteer schedule at the nursing home (we have adopted grandparents and organize holiday parties), but I am also looking forward to some much needed "me time."
I am not one of these sahm's who expects her husband to do just as much as I do on top of his paying job. While I do expect him to spend quality time everyday playing with our son, I don't ask him to do chores or take care of our son because he provides the things we need though working. It's been a busy 5 years, and now it's my turn to have some time to relax.

Alicia - posted on 06/03/2010




My son just turned 2 and I've been worrying about this since before he was born!! I feel like SAHM is my life, my all, my perfect job and I am really scared of feeling lost when my kids are in school (and don't even get me started about when they are all grown up!). I was teaching college before this so I know that is a perfectly good job to go back to--i like it, i can set hours that work with school, etc. But I am not sure that is what I am going to want to do. If money isn't an issue, I wonder about not actually going back to work but becoming like a church, at school, wherever. Just using my life to better others, to be really involved in my kids schools and programs, etc. I just don't know. I have brought myself some peace with this really premature worrying but just saying that when the time comes, I will take some time to really think about how I want to use my new "free" time. It is scary though...this is such a part of who we are. It makes me want to have like 10 kids so I am never out of a job!

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