Screaming, yelling, tantrums... my 'almost' two year old is driving me nuts-o. High pitched, off the wall, top of lung screaming can really make a person pull their hair out. Help!


Diana - posted on 09/17/2013




I have four boys and they all tried this with me but if you simply explain that kind of behavior is not ok and punish that action ever time with the same consiquences they will figure it out also never reward bad behavior i hear a lot well i gave them chocolate so they would stop well what you have just done is said to your child when you act this way you get chocolate. hope this helps good luck

Brenda - posted on 09/16/2013




My 2 1/2 year old.. she screams so loud gives me migraines. She does this when she doesn't get her way or tired... I have spoiled her without realizing it.. how do I put my foot down and not cause her any mental problems? I want her to always feel loved and wanted.. dont want to mess that up. But we can't even go out to eat cause she's going to start yelling. . Ugh need advice please


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Brenda - posted on 09/16/2013




I've tried this with mine.. she gets louder to the point she gets sick. And far as in a store. She wants to leave so that doesn't work.. the one thing I found that works some is.. soon as I get in to a store I go get a big thing of vinegar put it in buggy.. she usually shuts up then..

Cali - posted on 01/09/2009




I have been babysetting my 2 year old cousin and he does this screaming thing.  With my son, he's 3 now, I just covered him mouth and whispered in his ear no screaming - I would not tolerate it.  With the 2 year old if I do that he freaks out even more.  So if we are at home, I put him in the extra bedroom we have where he takes his naps.  I tell him when he calms down to let me know and we can talk about it.  In public - we leave immediatly. 

Karen - posted on 01/07/2009




My toddler sons grew out of that QUICK!  I did what I saw Nanny 911 do....walk away-don't say anything-don't yell at them-just walk away.  They do follow you but than you walk away again.  Eventually they will see that this action will not get any reaction from you.  After the tantrum is over-I get down to their level and say-what would you like-or what is wrong.....and after they tell me-I say-that's all you had to say- I love you.  First son-took 1 1/2 weeks....2nd son...took about 4 days. 

I obviously can't do this in a store.  I simply say if you act this way we are leaving (in a very calm voice)....if they carry on-I put all my stuff down and walk out.  They have to learn an action like this is not acceptiable and you will not put up with it.  Again-I say nothing but once we get home and they calm down-we sit and talk eye level to them. 


You would be surprised on how much a 1 1/2 year old can pick up...even with your voice tones and facial expressions.

Anacristina - posted on 01/07/2009




Hi Destiny,

I have 3 kids and the first 2 were a breeze. My youngest however is a whole diffrent story. She did the whole screaming thing and then added in the kicking and rolling on the floor. I tried ignoring it, holding her, even tried to give her things I though would calm her down. None of that worked. What finally did work was my version of a time out. I picked a chair (really its an arm chair so if she thrashes around or something she won't get hurt) and put her in it when she got out of control. The hard part was making her stay. Every time she got up I put her back and told her that when she stopped then she could get up. Amazingly It worked and it only took a few days. Now when she starts up I ask her if she wants to sit in her chair, I usally get a no and she calms down. I don't know that this will work but I do beleive that repition is key. What ever you decide to try stick with it. It won't happen on the first try. Be patient and try the same thing for several days.

Emily - posted on 01/07/2009




My baby just turned one and LOVES to scream... that same high-pitched, top of lunch screaming. It drives me crazy.. but it's only when she's super happy.

My older girls still scream too when they're playing games.

If it's tantrum screaming, I usually tell my girls that they need to calm down before I can help them. We do time outs, quiet time on their beds, or mommy takes a break (as in, I lock myself in the bathroom). When they have calmed down a bit, we can sit and talk about what happened. For younger kids though, fear of abandonment can be huge... so for my little ones, I just sit and hold them until the screaming stops.

The best way to deal with tantrums is to prevent them. Learn the cues of a tantrum (hungry, tired, lost a toy, etc) and help the child find a positive and appropriate way to deal with their frustration.

Paulette - posted on 01/07/2009




Hi Destiny,  I have been through it once and have a 15 month old so I understand it. I was wondering is it they are testing out their lungs and voice or are they having a tantrum?


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