Second Child???

Cory - posted on 11/15/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )




My daughter is almost 16 months now and We are wanting to start trying for our second in March, that being said, she will be around 27 months when the baby actually gets here. Basically my question is, should we wait a little longer or start trying earlier??? Any experience would help!

Thank you!


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Jamie - posted on 11/18/2009




my two are 27 months almost to the day apart!! and I won't lie its a little rough. I am breastfeeding one and while breastfeeding running after the other!! they seem to think that is time to be naughty cause they see your busy! Not to mention when my youngest was about 2-3 months old it was time to potty train the older one! It gets exhausting because they are hitting a couple different milestones together an keepin up with them can be tiresome. But I am a stay at home mom, so I find it a little easier to fit into schedule. But you do need you time! but hard to get. Just keep in mind it is great to have them close together cause they will adore each other and will have each other growing up! my sister and i were 7 years apart and argue constantly she is younger! and all depends on what you yourself can handle for a load! its great that you want more babies! just consider the milestones both will have. I like the age apart in a way too cause my oldest is a little more independent and isn't always needing me 24/7 but I did find it hard in the beginning to seperate having their own time with me. I find myself getting caught up in diaper changing and chores and see that my son is still waiting to color It deff has its ups and downs a lot to consider! Good Luck!

Christi - posted on 11/18/2009




my husband and i are waiting unitl our son is potty trained. we want another baby so badly, our son will be one christmas eve, but we cannot afford it finacially and we don't want two kiddos in diapers. i would sit and talk to your hubby about all the things that factor into having kids. are you in a good home? can you afford it financially? are there any milestones you want your daughter to reach before you start all over with a new baby? make a list of things and realize that some goals might be unreasonable but some could be just a few more months away and might be ideal to wait a little longer.

Kortney - posted on 11/17/2009




I have two sons 4years and 18 months. They are 3 and a half years apart and i love it! I can't tell you what to do but from my own experience I would wait just a bit longer. With our boys the older one was totally potty trained when the second one came and that was a blessing!

Margaret - posted on 11/16/2009




personally i believe each 2 thier own, i have a 7yr old boy a 6yr old girl and a 2yr old girl. wen i found out i was pregnant with my second my son was only 8wks old. they r 10 1/2months apart dont get me wrong it was really hard but i dont regret it now, there is 4yrs between my younger 2 and i have had it both ways. i think u and your partner should do wat u think is best:)

Tara - posted on 11/15/2009




My girls are 18 months apart (my oldest is 20 months, my youngest is 6 weeks). It is hard, I won't lie to you, but it would be a little different for you as your oldest would be 27 months (roughly).

What I've found that is helping with us is routine, routine, routine. We kept the same bedtime routine my older girl is used to, and make sure that she gets specific attention while she is up because our younger girl is too little to care if her sister gets attention.

Since my older daughter is able to feed herself some things, that helps as well, especially if baby needs to be fed at the same time. Involving my older girl in things (she likes bringing me a bottle, or a diaper, etc) has helped loads with any potential jealousy issues. One thing I would suggest is trying to get your daughter potty trained before your 2nd one arrives, as two in diapers is not only awkward (especially if they both need changing at the same time), it is expensive.

The only other thing I can suggest is giving yourself a break when it comes to getting "everything" done - with 2 in the house, sometimes the dishes or vacuuming can wait a couple of hours, or even a day :)

April - posted on 11/15/2009




I only have 1 child, 10 months old, so i am in no position to give experienced-based advice. but my personal opinion is that if you are asking this question, maybe you should wait a little longer. i would just follow my gut...only you know what's best for your family!! good luck!! :)

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