sending my first son to school asap n im realy worried...ne one have advice?..

Nanci - posted on 02/01/2010 ( 10 moms have responded )

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im realy worried i mite be watchin at the door the whole time..how did yall cope with the "first day of school jitters"..i kno im guna cry cuz he might not even say goodbye..hell see toys and kids n i kno its a good thing but i cant let go..tell me what to do please....lol

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Jessica - posted on 02/02/2010

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My son is 6. I cried when I left him at preschool, prekindergarten, and when he got on the bus for kindergarten. I also cried on his last day of school for each! It's ok to cry but he needs to go out in the world! He will still need you and want to see you after school. Trust me - there will be days that he's home and you'll wish he was at school for a little while!

Valerie - posted on 02/01/2010

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My kiddos aren't in school yet, but coming from the perspective of a teacher the best thing is to make the goodbyes short. Be sure to tour the school with him before actually enrolling him. If he's enrolling at the start of the school year they usually have a meet the teacher night. This is a great time to get to know the teacher and see the classroom and the school in a more laid-back time. But come the morning of, come in, see his desk and then wish him luck. A quick hug and head out the door. I can tell you from experience that he and you may cry, but that the kiddos calm down much quicker if the parents don't hover. :) Hope this helps and good luck!

Alisha - posted on 02/01/2010

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you need to let him go and have fun in school .this is your time to get mommy rime while he is gone so enjoy it..he will be okay..it will make ur bond stonger to ,see him get older and be able to talk about school and diffrent things.

Rachel - posted on 02/01/2010

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oh you poor thing!!! I just put my 4 yr old in preschool for her first time a couple months ago and I was also scared to death, and I cried at the door because she didnt want me to leave her! I had a hard time and even thought about spying on them and her. Im still not over the jitters...and Im still not use to it! But my best advice is to chill out, and be proud of how far he's come instead of feeling like your loosing your baby...and dont go home! for the first few times go out somewhere and enjoy yourself. I still have the jitters as well, not as bad as the first few days...but now I see the benefit of having those few hours to myself, and how badly ive needed them for a couple of years. good luck!

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Kelly - posted on 02/02/2010

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One more thought, and not to be a downer, but I always try to remind myself of how blessed I am to see that child go out the door, healthy and happy, into the world, when so many moms have lost children, or have children too sick to enjoy a normal life, or even thinking of all the ladies who want to be moms but aren't for whatever reason. Every milestone, every day, is a gift! Have a wonderful day!

Nanci - posted on 02/02/2010

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thank u all- ms. kelly, ms. jessica, and ms. ashie..i feel better talkn to you moms who hav gone through it b4 me to give such great advice to help me pass this bump in my road of motherhood..yes its going to be realy hard for me but i think with support from all these moms motherhood will be a breeze...thank you again

Kelly - posted on 02/02/2010

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Oh, trust me, you'll get through it, but you will cry! I cried at every first day of kindergarten (three so far), every last day of kindergarten, every last day of 8th grade (two so far, our kids here go to kindergarten - 8th grade at the same school, then go to high school), and every first day of high school. It is so hard when a part of them that used to belong to you alone, now belongs OUT THERE in the world, and you are not a part of it anymore. But you come to realize that they always come back, and it is so amazing and wonderful to watch them grow up and turn into individuals, with opinions and personalities all their own. I don't know how else to describe it, but seeing them develop is beautiful and incredible. Enjoy it, and don't be afraid of letting go. My oldest who is now 18, told me not that long ago, that he will always need me. He talks about getting married and having kids, and his dad and I are right there in that picture with him. That is a good feeling.

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my five year old is in school.i was afraid too.the longest i have ever been away from her was when i was in hospital having my second child 12 months ago.It was worst for me than her but its so wonderful to see her being so independent and confident away from me.you have to let go..easier said than done lol.



Well let me say you have nothing to worry about.she has come on so much since being in school and loves it.I also get time with the baby which is fantastic and she loves the extra attention.so please try not to worry its normal to but its great for you all in the long run.my little girl never cried for me so take it as a blessing if the don't not all kids do that its worst if the do but even those kids get used to it and there parents so best of luck.enjoy the time you get while hes in school.:)

Nanci - posted on 02/02/2010

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thank you so much ms. racheal, ms. valerie, ms alisha, and ms. jennifer...thats very encourageing-all of you...im excited to spend one on one time with my youngest..there is a mcdonalds across the street..rudy n i can sit there while witing for brother...so since preschool is only half a day do u think it makes it easier on on that way...its guna take me til hes thru with collage to stop having jitters while these boys are in school..the one im worried about is my youngest rudy tho..hes such a mommys boy..but im sure ur advice will help both of us as well..like it will with his older brother joe...still nervous but again..thank u so much..yall realy helpd.. :)

Jennifer - posted on 02/02/2010

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I know how you feel. I never really had a hard time when I sent my son to preschool, because it was only two days a week and only for two hrs., so he wasn't gone very long, and I drove him there and back. This year he started kindergarten and it was such torture. We moved to a new school district and the old one we were at was all day, but only 2 days one week and 3 days the next week. The one he goes to now is all day 5 days a week! That first day wasn't quiet as bad, because the parents went with the kids for half of the day, and he was only there for a couple hrs.by himself. I cryed a lot though when he came home, because he looked so little on that big bus! The second day was the worst. It felt like he was gone for weeks! It was so hard. Then, when the second week started, it got a little easier, because I realized that he and his sister weren't fighting all day (they were only 15mo. apart). Now, I miss him, but sometimes am glad for the break it gives me, because it seems like I get so much done while he is gone. Now, I am getting ready to sign my daughter up for kindergarten next year, so I am going to have to go through all this again, and I think it will be even harder, because I will be left with only one kid at home.

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