Separation Anxiety?

Jena - posted on 06/07/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )




I am a stay at home mama with a 18 almost 19 month old baby girl. I have been trying to get back into shape lately but I just don't have anyone to watch my little one during the day. I have tried taking her to the nursery at the gym. When I get there, I usually stay with her for a bit to get used to the new environment and get comfortable. However, when I leave, she will start crying non-stop. The poor volunteers there couldn't handle her and suggested I take her home =.="

I've been told by half my family & friends that my baby isn't ready to be dropped off at daycares/nurseries and the other half tell me that I should keep trying to drop her off so she will get used to it.

What do you guys think? Have any of you been in this situation?


Ashley - posted on 06/09/2012




I think you should just keep trying everyday a little at a time. Your LO will soon realize they are safe and when you leave you will always come back. Good luck!

Bethany - posted on 06/08/2012




can you just go for a walk with her in the pram? round and round the block. or do you have any stairs to go up and down, a couple is enough to get the heart rate up running up and down them for a few minutes or more. squats on the spot while the toast is cooking or kettle is boiling (very effective), couple of food cans for free weights for a few reps. You could be getting your heart rate up without the gym and without childcare. running on the spot. Squats holding her would add more resistance and she'd probably like it too. They love copying you at that age (at all ages) so she'll love the interaction if you say Let's .... together! Just some ideas. My daughter's never been in child care and she's 3. I just havn't needed it.


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Stacey - posted on 06/09/2012




Sounds like she's just too young for that. I'd really try hard to embrace this stage while it lasts because it will be over before you know it. I tried to leave my son in the gym daycare when he was just 2 and it lasted about 10 minutes each time I tried and had to come get him. Now, at 3 1/2 He loves socializing with other kids and I have to make him give me kisses, lol. You can keep dropping her off and let her cry if you'd like but I personally think this is the wrong approach. Just give her time to not be as attached to you anymore..she'll get there.

Mandy - posted on 06/08/2012




My boy who is just over 3 years of age still has the odd cry when dropping him off at daycare. And he has been at daycare for a year and a half now. My niece on the other hand has gone to daycre since she was 2 and has been more than happy! (That's not to say my son is unhappy at daycare - I know cos I've hidden and watched him and he stops crying about 10 seconds after I left) I really think each child is different. It does take them awhile to get used to being dropped off somewhere without mommy but they do get used to it. If u that adamant, then keep trying, otherwise do what bethany suggested (great ideas) .

Also remember, they grow up so quickly, and before u know it, they will b heading off to "big" school and telling u that they don't need u to walk with them to the classroom and u will just be devestated! :)

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