Separation Anxiety? Not the kids, me?

Chrissy - posted on 08/29/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )




I have 2 boys. A 4 year old and 7 month old. I am with them all the time except when the older one goes to school, out shopping with his dad, or when their grandmother watches them.....Sometimes I think I need a babysitter so I can do some major project like paint the bathroom, or shampoo the couch. However, I always wuss out and just do it with them in tow.

My husband thinks I'm a weirdo that I never want anyone to watch them considering all I do is stay home with them and clean all day. He asks his mother to watch the boys so we can catch a movie or go out to eat. And he asks her without asking me so then we are dropping them off and I'm kind of mad that he didn't give me "Any Notice to prepare" What the hell is wrong with me? Why can't I just let someone else watch them without feeling guilty that I'm not "doing my job?" Oh and did I mention that my Mother-IN-Law is the only to ever have watched them over night....and when my mom DOES babysit it is with me home, it's mostly to have an extra hand to what else CLEAN....OK I'll say it again WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG with me?


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Jocelyn - posted on 09/16/2009




Well it has been almost almost 2 weeks not my daughter has been in full day kindergarten and I am good with her going. I miss her so bad and feel like my younger daughter and I just wait for the time to pick her up, but she loves school and it is such a great school. I am good now with her leaving me LOL I did cry the first couple of days after I left her at school once I got to the car, but now I feel just lost without her, but very happy for her.

Our goal as moms is to raise indepentent children, but still be there when they need us.

Jane - posted on 08/30/2009




i think it is completely un-natural to be away from your kids, especially w/a new one. if you aren't comfortable leaving them, then don't. the time will come soon enough when you are ready to get away a bit.

Casey - posted on 08/30/2009




i've never had a nite away from my daughter ... i used to be really bad but now i enjoy time away from her, either at home by myself, or daddy looks after her while i go shopping with a girlfriend. But i had to do it in stages, and i think its about trusting the people you leave them with to call you if the kids need you or want you. if you have that guarentee, then it makes it easier

Deidre - posted on 08/30/2009




Nothing is WRONG with you,girl. You should be proud of yourself that u have their best intrest at heart "YOU". Don't ever forget that! Please don't allow anyone to lessen your role as "The Best Mother You Can BE"... Think about it ... It's better to be like you than to just leave them with just any and everybody!!!!

Jocelyn - posted on 08/29/2009




I am going crazy thinking my little girl is going to start school in 1 1/2 weeks. I have been with her for 5 years now. I am having a huge problem with her going to school. Everyone thinks I am crazy. I will still have one home, but I want both home. and I too only let my parents watch the girls and my parents are the only ones who have ever taken them over night or drive them. We ar just with them 24/7 and it is our job and that mother guilt just comes out. But I really would not have it any other way. I am glad I am not looking for a reason to get out. It only means I am very happy with my life and do not need more.

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