Seperation Anxiety

Heather - posted on 03/04/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )




My son just turned 1 years old and has just started crying when I leave him or walk away from him. He is fine when I put him down for his nap and at bedtime. He doesn't cry when I leave then. If anyone has any suggestions for me I would really appreciate it.
Thank You.


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Heather - posted on 03/04/2009




Stay strong, Mama! This will happen often throughout the next several years. Relax, cuddle a little bit to reassure him of your love & that you haven't left! It may last a few weeks or a few months, but he will be fine if you let him cry it out once in awhile for a little bit!

Heather - posted on 03/04/2009




It's a phase, most children will begin this phase about 8-10 months and last till 14-15 months and then stage will hit again around 2 -2 1/2 ish but less dramatic more of a shy thing. It's totally normal and should not be discouraged. To cope though you can try preparing your child for the events by telling him what your doing, where your going, who he will be with when your away and most importantly when you will return. It sounds like a lot but they do and will understand use plan an direct language. Also, comfort items will help like a special lovey or even a picture of you for him to hold onto and will help a lot if the caregiver you are leaving him with talks positively about you and often and reminds when your coming back. Developing a ritual such as standing at the window and waving good-bye as you walk away will help too.

Gosh this long, I have worked with children a long time and of course have my own. I also have a BS in Family Life. Hope you can adapt some of these suggestions and make them work for you and your little guy!

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