Sex while pregnant

Jade - posted on 10/05/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Has anyone else had an issue with their husbands/bf/partners not finding them attractive while they are pregnant? I dress normal and do my makeup evryday still, but my hubby just cant stand looking at my tummy and it kills any mood he gets into right away. Any ideas to keep him interested?

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Melissa - posted on 10/05/2009

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Most of the time it is has nothing to do with whether or not he finds you attractive. Usually it has more to do with fear. Most men have an anxiety about intercourse while thier partners are pregnant. Some may be fear of hurting the baby and or hurting you. If that is not the case and your growing belly is what makes him uncomfortable then try instigating it at night with the lights out when he cant see that part of you. Try getting on your hands and needs and let him take you from behind so your belly is not in the way. The only other advice I have is to have a heart to heart with your partner and find out what the real reasons are for his lack of affection.

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I was pregnant and my husband still wanted sex. He said, that he didn't find me unattractive or anything. Matter of fact, if you do have sex while pregnant, I know that it makes the labor easier (it did for me). Make sure you use a very good cocoa buttered lotion to help you w/ the stretch marks...I was very, very big in the stomach and not a stretch mark was left...even after I gained lots of weight (that I'm now working on loosing) after my hystercotomy.

Just keep reassuring that nothing will happen w/ the pregnancy if he's not comfortable w/ having sex w/ you while pregnant. Most men think that it'll hurt you or do something to hurt the baby. Sit him down and have a major talk w/ his feelings and yours.

Best wishes to you both. God bless.

Heather - posted on 10/05/2009

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My husband is the same way. My husband honestly admits he just doesnt find it sexy. My husband knows it doesnt hurt the baby he just finds it ackward. We have one living child and are pregnant again for the fourth time. From my first to this one I just know that this is how it is...after I have the baby he is totally different and hates waiting 6 weeks. It doesnt mean they love you any less.

Saskia - posted on 10/05/2009

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show him books then give him something to read I used to have a great book for fathers to be which explain everything in a mans point of view it was brilliant even I had a look through. or tell your midwife maybe she'll be able to pop round out of hours when he is home in the end they are there to help

Jade - posted on 10/05/2009

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Quoting Saskia:

gosh does he know what he is missing out on? my husband and I had the best sex when i was pregnant lol
if its just fear take him to a midwifes (or doctors whatever comes first) appointment and let her explain everything to him.


Unfortuntely he isnt allowed to miss work for the apts so he has never been

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Penny - posted on 10/07/2009

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this is a common problem that couples face like a lot of men wont get on top of the lady when she is pregnant

also they have a fear of hurting the baby ask him hopefully he will b honest and open up to you

xxxx hope all goes well

Carrie - posted on 10/06/2009

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My doctor told me and encouraged sex while pregnant even up until your in labor or rather the water breaks. There is a chemical in semen that stimulates Labor. As some one else said it makes labor easier! I had two very easy labors! Good luck! You can use this info in your defense!

Saskia - posted on 10/05/2009

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gosh does he know what he is missing out on? my husband and I had the best sex when i was pregnant lol
if its just fear take him to a midwifes (or doctors whatever comes first) appointment and let her explain everything to him.

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