Sharing room nightmare

Denise - posted on 01/27/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )




We have a 3 bedroom house with 3 kids. My 2 and 4 year old have been sharing a room for almost a year now. It is going awful. I am at my wits end. We have sat with them, counted them, took away things, darkened the room and even spanked.They won't go to sleep, so now they are rotten all day unless they nap which, they do all day, so the night cycle continues, if I wake them they cry forever. What to do?


Courtney - posted on 01/28/2009




Hi Denise,

I have 4 children in a three bedroom house as well! my oldest two are almost 5 and 3 they have shared a room since the 3 year was born. I find that what works best for us it to have a bed time routine. We get ready for bed, we sing, we pray sometimes we read a story, then we tuck them in. When we first put them into twin beds it was harder. We sat in the room for a few minutes lights out, no talking, gradually we moved to out side the bed room door and now they just go to bed after our night time routine. A strict bedtime is helpful too. Which I see you have. I put the girls down at the same time even for naps. I would do your best to inforce a small nap for both kids ( if you can). Then make it clear to them what you expect for bedtime. Above all be very consistent. If you start a routine stick to it. Kids really do need structure. I hope this helps


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Louise - posted on 11/16/2013




I 2 boys 2 and 7 and a partner and we are in a 1 bedroom room bungalow with the bedroom being 3 foot from the front room, they are both up until gone `11pm every night and I am at my wits end , your not alone hun

Valerie - posted on 01/28/2009




I have had the same trouble. I have a 4 and 6 year old that share a room.  the first year was terrible, until I started putting them to bed at different times.  one goes in at 7, and the older one goes in at 8, or whenever the youngest is sleeping.  If we keep the oldest busy reading books, and doing quite activities, it will not take long for the little one to sleep, he doesn't feel like he's missing out.  Try it-it worked for us, thank god.

Liana - posted on 01/28/2009




You could be me from last year we were at our wits end with our 2 boys sharing though at the time they didn't have to they wanted to we tried all the things you've said and it could take up to 3 hours sometimes it is a real nightmare.

Then one night I'd had enough and went against all the advice from experts friends and even my partner and lay down in the bed with one of them told them both to be quiet and face the wall. 

At first it still took about an hour for them to go to sleep but to me that was great a vast improvement now it takes about 15mins.  These days I don't wait for both to go to sleep so long as the youngest one is asleep I'm free to leave the older one understands he needs to be quiet and not wake his brother. 

Denise - posted on 01/28/2009




Thanks!! Bedtime is 8pm--very strict. My husband and I want us time. We have tried staggering them, but the 2 year stays up--acts asleep even by 9pm, until we try bringing the 4 year old in--then chaos. If we skip napping, the 4 year crashes, but evening time him is a bear.

Tara - posted on 01/27/2009




Hi, I have 4 kids in a house with 3 bedrooms. I have 3 girls that share one room. Their ages are 7, 5 and 4. The way I do it is by sending the 7 and 5 year old to bed at an earlier time. It is easy for me to do because they go to bed at 8 because of school. My 4 year old stays out in the living room with us until they are asleep and then she is off to bed. There are those nights of course where the two older ones fight or can't stop talking but that is so rare now. We have stuck to it. I know this sounds crazy, but kids really do need schedules and rules. Like a consistent bedtime. I used to just let them go wild until they were tired, but since school started, that has changed dramatically. So give it time and I know all will work out. I hope this will help. Glad to help again. Tara

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