Should I be Feeling guilty??

Ann - posted on 07/26/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Hi all SAHM'S!

I just joined the community! =)

A little about me: I am 41, married, with a 3 year old (my first and only). I am a SAHM and have been since I was 6 months pregnant with my son. I LOVE being a SAHM and would not trade all the time I have been able to stay at home with my son. Though VERY difficult, I am blessed that I have had this time with my son. Where is the problem? I have been with my son 7 days a week, 24 hours a day since he has been born without so much as even half a day to myself, not to mention I am completing a bachelor degree and paralegal diploma at night when my son goes to sleep. I am living on (literally) MAYBE 2 hours sleep a night and have been going this way since he has been born. I do not have friends that I hang out with, etc being that I just do not have time for myself so I do not have that “relief” right now even.
My husband just booked me a hotel room for the weekend for me to spend by myself…I am filled with guilty excitement. Am I wrong for feeling like this? Mind you I know that I need it but I feel horrible for even considering it.
Looking forward to getting to know all you SAHM’S!! =)

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Michele - posted on 07/29/2012

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If I give you a ride can I stay! LOL I have twin 19 month old boys and haven't been away from them for more than an hour or 2 evey once in a while when I go to th salon! I honestly wouldn't have it any other way and can understand your guilt feelings but hey momma needs a break! You have been way more than the average SAHM, working toward your degree @ night while LO sleeps so go for it and just ENJOY!

BEE - posted on 07/26/2012

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Do not feel guilty!!!!!!!!!!!! I am exactly in the same boat as you. My one and only son is 2 and has been by my side from day one. Everyone needs a break for themselves at least once a day even if it's just for 30 mins. You need this time to recharge and clear your mind. I know that when I have even a little time to myself, I feel better and feel more energized when I take care of my son. Go on your little trip, you husband even booked it for you so he knows that you need that time to yourself. Every mom feels guilty about leaving their kid for a little while, worrying that they're ok. Just reassure yourself that someone else is capable of taking care of your son. You need this time to be yourself again. My husband tells me to go do something I want for a day and I feel guilty and end up coming home early. Now, I will take advantage and am planning a day trip for myself. I know my husband doesn't feel guilty when he goes out with his friends. He needs time to himself too. Go enjoy yourself, you do more than enough for your family.

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