Should I have another baby?

Tara - posted on 01/20/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I am a 20 years old, almost 21, and I have 2 children, a 16 month old son and a 5 month old daughter. I got pregnant with my daughter when my son was 4 months old. Now I'm thinking maybe I should have another baby. I definitely have my hands full with just these two, but I am a stay at home mom, and I'm taking online classes for college. I'm afraid that I will end up having uterine problems like the women on both sides of my family and not being able to have more children later on. Most of the women in my family start having these problems around the age of 24 or 25. I've thought about not having anymore, but at the same time I've always wanted a big family. I'm just afraid I'm going to miss the opportunity to have more children. I figured I would see what other moms thought before I start bring it up to my family.

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Tara - posted on 01/20/2010

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I think I feel a little stressed because I am so worried about not being able to have another child later on in life. I've been the primary person in my childrens lives. I've always been the one doing everything for my children since the day they were born. My husband works fulltime and isn't really trying to do anything after work. So I continue to handle the two children basically on my own. It can be hectic as any mother knows. I'm just unsure. I am happy, but I feel like I want another child. I've always wanted a big family! I want 6 children, but I know that is out of the question. I would love to have atleast 1 more.

Jodi - posted on 01/20/2010

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I feel ya here. Half of the women on my mother's side of the family, my mother included, have had hysterectomies due to tumors and cysts. Because of this fear that it'll happen to me to, My husband and I have decided to have as many babies as we feel we can handle as soon as possible. I would say, IF you can handle having three kids that close together I dont' see why not, especially considering the medical history. If you already have your hands full, Perhaps you should give it just a little bit of time. Here's how I see it, would you rather be an unhappy mommy with three unhappy kids or a happy mom with only 2? The decision is yours, but if you can financially afford it and withstand the pressures of raising three kids...go for it!

Christy - posted on 01/20/2010

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My mother -in-law had four children by the time she was 25 and I ask her how she was able to handle it. She just smiles and says "I have no idea. But I was young and didn't know better and that worked in my favor." Talk to your husband. If this something you both want, go for it.

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