Should I potty train my son at 17 months?

Nicole - posted on 06/19/2012 ( 13 moms have responded )




My son is 17 months & I was wondering if it's too early to start potty training? My husband is currently deployed & I'm seven months pregnant. I wanted to get a jump start on potty training so I wouldn't have to start when I'm taking care of a newborn. Any advice would be greatly appreciated! :) Thank you!


Shelly - posted on 06/20/2012




My mom tells me I was fully potty trained at 18 months, so whatever scientific studies were done saying it's not possible, take them with a grain of salt. Many cultures around the world manage to potty train their children a lot younger than we do. The absence of the convenience of disposable diapers has a lot to do with it, I think!!! If you actually have to wash out every dirty diaper by hand I think there's a lot higher motivation to get the potty training done early.

Chinese parents apparently used to routinely have their babies trained by one year of age. Much of that revolves around the parents knowing their children very well, and being able to read their body language well enough to know when they need to go. They are basically training their kids not to go unless they're on the potty, as opposed to training them to go to the potty when they need to go, if you can appreciate the difference, as well as training themselves to get their kids to the potty when they see they're about to pee.

There's a great book I used when training my kids called "Toilet training in less than a day" by Nathan H. Azrin and Richard M. Foxx. It's an older book, full of common sense, and it really worked. There is a list of signs of readiness in it to help you know if your child is ready.

Helen - posted on 06/27/2012




Only start potty training when your child is ready my daughter was a late starter she was 3 yrs 2 months then dry in daytime and within 2 weeks dry at night too. my son is 3yrs and 3 months and only just starting to try pottying. it really is down to the individual child and its not as bad as it seems potty training with a newborn around but please dont push your child if they not ready as they get scared of doing it then i made that mistake with my eldest. hope this is helpful

Lisa - posted on 06/21/2012




If he's ready it doesn't matter how old he is. My HV had a go at mr as my daughter started potty training herself at 6months, I was told this was FAR too early, but it wasn't something I chose to do, it was my daughter that refused to go unless she was on the potty


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Shova - posted on 06/29/2013




I would not recommend, it needs to be at least 18 months old to start potty training....: i would instead recomend you to start introducing the potty, and playing games, and reading stories about potty training....also, i also dowloaded a great potty training app called potty training learning with the animals.......then after months of theory,,start the process...that will definitelly make it succesfull and easily!

Claire - posted on 06/20/2012




I potty trained my son at 22 months, when I was five months pregnant. It went well but when the baby was born, we went back to square one. This may not be the case for every child but its said that a child may regress in many aspects as they adjust to a new baby. However, as already said, go ahead if he is ready. Good luck

Heather - posted on 06/20/2012




If he is showing signes of wanting to potty train then go for it. If he is not showing signs then I would wait because he is not ready. He will let you know when he is ready to do it.

Sharlene - posted on 06/19/2012




If you think your son ready for potty training then yeah ,Is hes nappies during the day and nite quiet dry and can he hold it for a while then if you think he can try it and good luck with the potty training and the new baby.

Brittney - posted on 06/19/2012




I trained my daughter before 15 months (I started when she was 4 months old), my mom trained her son shortly after 1 year, my grandma trained her sons just before 1 year. Just keep with it and do not bring back diapers once you start.

Take him to the potty every time you have to go, get him used to sitting on a small potty (or an insert on the big potty), praise even if he didn't go, take him often (every 30-45 minutes at first), the more he goes the stronger the muscles will be and the more control he will have. They don't have to show signs of "being ready", mine never did and she goes potty all by herself and she is going to be 2 years in a 4 months. Don't use disposable pull ups, they are exactly the same as diapers. Do night and day training at the same time, and if you do end up giving up putting him in diapers again shows him that he doesn't have to go potty in the potty, he can just wait until he gets a diaper.

Louise - posted on 06/19/2012




Can I just say that it is medically proven that children can not control their bladder fully until the age of 2! Please wait until he is ready to do this because it can cause major stress for both you and your baby.

The average age for a child to be toilet trained is 2 years 4 months. I toilet trained all three of my kids in two weeks, because they were ready. I took all three to the toilet with a seat and never owned a potty. It your child is ready then toilet training is stress free and only takes two weeks to do. Every child is different. My eldest son was 2 years 7 months, my second son was two and my daughter was two years 4 months.

As Michelle has said look for the signs, if they are not there then wait. If you think he is ready then try for three days to get him to the toilet and to ask for the toilet, if you are having no luck then stop for a month and try again.

Michelle - posted on 06/19/2012




Boys are usually later at potty training than girls but it can be done. My 2nd son decided at 18 months that he didn't want nappies anymore because his older brother didn't wear them.

The main signs of them being ready is:
Letting you know they need to be changed.
An interest in wanting to sit on the potty even while clothed.
Letting you know when they are soiling themselves.
Being able to communicate.

I had 2.5 years between my 2 oldest ones and and didn't find it hard to potty train my oldest one after my 2nd son was here. Even though my (ex) husband wasn't deployed he was never home and I was working as well. When they are ready it's not hard work at all.

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