Showering with mom....

Lauren - posted on 04/01/2010 ( 20 moms have responded )




My son is 20 months old. He takes showers with me and see's me change clothes etc. Is is ok for him to see me naked? When does it become inappropriate?


Kate - posted on 11/29/2011




Dont worry my son is 16 and he still takes bath with me...Its jus about being comfertable when you r nude around...

Brianna - posted on 04/01/2010




I haven't reached this point yet, from what my parents and in-laws have said it was when we asked about different body parts. Meaning that when he notices that you don't have the same body parts as him and points it out and asks that is probably when he shouldn't be showering with you anymore. My parents said that happened at different points with each of us so it depends on you and your child. I'm sure others have a different ideas about this but this is how I will decided when my son shouldn't shower with me anymore. Do what feel right for you, your the mom, you will know when it doesn't feel right anymore.

Kenna - posted on 04/04/2010




After reading the other replies I was a little surprised because I am way more comfortable than many of the other repliers about nudity. My kids are 7, 12 and 17 and the all still come into the bathroom to chat when I am in the shower or tub, It has never been a big deal. We do not go out of our way to be naked, but at some point in the day we all are. When my kids were small and asked questions I just answered them honestly. I think you should quit showering with him when you feel unconfortable with it, and remember that a lack of clothing and body parts are completely natural. If you make it something secret or gross it might affect how your kids will view their own bodies later. And, the reality is you can try to keep boobs a secret but my guess is clothes or not they already know you have them and Dad doesn't :)

Michelle - posted on 04/01/2010




I have basically always showered with my four boys. The only ones I don't now are my 6 year olds. When my boys ask questions I just answered them straight and when they were/are trying to look or poke around I tell them 'no' mommy's private areas. They lost interest fairly quickly. Every once in awhile they'll ask different questions, like about my pregnancy's, how come we are different, etc. I always try to be matter as fact about it all. Plus, it gave me a good reason to teach them about who can and can't touch their private areas, what private areas are, and what to do if something happens. My two year old at this point just thinks it's all funny. Just do what you are comfortable with and what's comfortable with your child.

Theresa - posted on 04/01/2010




I never showered with my son, but I always left the door open so he could come in as he pleased. When he was about 3 he pointed at my pubic hair when I got out of the shower and told me I had forgotten to wash off some poopy. I decided since he was noticing things that it was a good time to have a talk about privacy. I just explained to him that there are parts of the body that people shouldn't show just anyone. And that when we are naked we want privacy. He accepted it just fine and I started closing the dorr from then on. I also tried to give him some privacy too. I think it varies with each child, but when they start becoming aware is when you can talk about privacy and start teaching modesty.

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Tameka - posted on 04/02/2011




My children see me naked all the time! They're 4yrs and 15 months. I never get a moment of peace because they always want my company.

What I have noticed is that they see this as the norm and don't feel uncomfortable about my body or theirs. I'm really happy about this because the world is obessed with body image in a negative way. If I can teach my girls to be happy with what God gave them and for them to see that I am not ashamed either. Yes, there is a time for privacy. Between parents and children I think it should be an exception to the rule (unless there is abuse issues etc).

Ashleigh Jade - posted on 04/02/2011




I shower with my children aged 4,2 and 14months. (girl,boy,boy).
It saves me time and energy and water.
I believe it becomes inappropriate when you or your child feel uncomfortable with it, or they turn a certain age.

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Both my husband and I still occasionally take baths with our 2 year old. It is the MOST fun part of the day. We are total comfortable with our naked bodies, so he will be too. If we behave in a way that makes naked bodies seem awkward or not-right, our son will pick that up and behave the same way. Body image and function issues are foisted onto children by their parents or environment or other friends. The more we can do to minimize negative body image from a young age, the better.

Tricia - posted on 04/04/2010




My little dude is 3 and he sees me naked, and he sees my husband naked, but only when he walks in on him in the shower or getting dressed. My hubby is a little more cautious about being around him naked; I, on the other hand, have a large amount of hippie soul in me, so I don't think it's a big deal. Better he is comfortable with himself and the human body than embarrassed and confused about it. I don't think it's a big deal at all, I always saw my mom naked (in the shower, bath, changing, etc.) Wow, this reply is making it seem like we're nudists. We are not, but we are also not ashamed of our bodies. Do what feels right for you and yours.

Iysha - posted on 04/04/2010




My aunt walks around naked with her 10 year old son around. Lol. Her son doesn't even get phased when he sees parts of the body belonging to the opposite sex. A little girl showed him her chest and he told his mom. And when she asked what he thought about that he said, "they look like yours but smaller." He wasn't embarrassed or anything. It was just like whatever to him. Its like it's just natural.

I think it is just something that varies from family to family. You do what feels comfortable to you.

Lynn - posted on 04/01/2010




My son is 3 and a half. I dont shower with him simply because I dont want to freeze my butt off while i am wrapping a towel around him. But i do change in front of him. He knows what my chest is, but doesnt look twice at it while i am dressing and undressing. I will prob start being more private when he turns four. Although when i was sick the other day and in bed all day, my husband took the day off of work to keep an eye on him, and they were both watching tv and my husband was kinda slumped over on the couch with no shirt on and my son asked him "Dad! When did you get boobs???"

Janelle - posted on 04/01/2010




I used to shower with my kids and stopped when they were about 2..when they started asking questions thats when i know their time is up!

Merry - posted on 04/01/2010




many many toddlers breastfeed up to 5 years old and so for them boobs are just a way to eat and nothing sexual. so id say its up to you but many boys see naked mom boods when they nurse and ive heard of many 3yr olds and older watching the birth of siblings so that usually involves partial mommy nudity!

Christy - posted on 04/01/2010




Probably around 2. I don't let my 33 month old son see me naked anymore. When he started asking me what my boobs were, lower area, etc I put a stop to it. Just didn't want him to remember me nude later on, LOL!!!!

Raven - posted on 04/01/2010




My 2.5yr old still takes showers with daddy. We don't make a big deal about it. I am sure that we will one day be uncomfortable with it, but I don't see it happening soon. I don't let the little boys I babysit see me undressed or going potty, but that is because they are not my kids.

Brandis - posted on 04/01/2010




ive showered with my son once and it scared him so i havent done it since...but ive noticed when ive locked the door to change or shower he gets into i leave the bathroom door open when i shower and when i change and get does my husband...he's 2 1/2 and knows were different...myself and my husband both dress and undress and shower around our son...we are very comfortable being this way around him but not in a weird way

Rebecca - posted on 04/01/2010




Yes, it's okay. It all just depends on how open you are with your children. i've seen both of my parents naked and my mom still walks around in a bra and undies from time to time. I have no problem and see no problem with this except when I used to bring friends over I would have to have them wait outside while i walked in and made sure mom was decent. I would sit him down and talk to him about it when he's older if it causes problems in school. but I never had problems in school I never told anyone that I see my mommy naked, I thought that that's just the way it was until I was in High School and one of my friends was like "dude that's not normal. i've never seen my mom naked and wouldn't even want to. that's gross" Anyways, we are no longer friends. :] Do whatever you're comfortable with, girl.

User - posted on 04/01/2010




Well I stopped when my son started asking a million questions about my boobs and private area. I told him what they were and then realize he is getting to old for me to be doing this with him!

Susan - posted on 04/01/2010




My daughter is 18 months old and since our house only has a shower and no tub and she's way outgrown her baby bath tub we take showers with her since she's too young to do it on her own. I say it's inappropriate when you or him become uncomfortable with it. I personally don't see a problem at this young age.

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