Sister Unable To Conceive Children

Ann - posted on 10/08/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )




My sister is 30 years old. She has been trying this last year and a half to get pregnant. She called me today rather upset as she found out her best friend is pregnant. Her other best friend just had a little boy last year, and her other friend from childhood has two sets of twins and a little girl. They seem to be rubbing it in her face that they are able to conceive children and jump to the conclusion that she either doesn't want kids or just hasn't been trying. I've never heard her this upset, and it made me cry because I could feel her anguish and unhappiness over the phone, and her frustration because her and her husband want kids so badly, and have been trying so hard, and there's been no luck.

I want to be a surrogate for my sister. She of all people in my life deserves to know what motherhood feels like, and to know what it's like to have your own child to call your own. I want her to share in that happiness that I do (i have two kids of my own) and to have a family with her husband. Yet at the same time I don't want to take away the experience of being pregnant, of getting your giant belly, and feeling the little flutters and kicks of your baby moving and to go through delivery no matter how painful it may be. Then again I'm also worried that my husband would say no to me doing this. I was just wondering if there is anyone out there who has either been a surrogate and can tell me their experience, or has had someone be a surrogate for them, and what it was like for both people. Its a blessing to have children, and everyone should have the chance to be a mother and a father.


Michelle - posted on 10/09/2013




Has she tried IVF? I would make sure she has exhausted all the ways for her to have her own child before agreeing to be a surrogate.
I'm also sure her friend aren't "rubbing it in her face" that they can conceive and she hasn't. They are happy they are pregnant and if she hasn't told them that they are having problems conceiving then how else should they react? Your sister may not have to hear so much about it if she told them the problems she was having.

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