Sister wants my kids to sleep on floor in their own home!!!!

Sharon - posted on 04/22/2015 ( 14 moms have responded )

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I have a 4 bedroom home and I have two kids. Each of my children have their own room. My sister, her husband and son our coming into town along with my mom and dad. Of course my parents will get the guest bedroom. My sister would like my kids to sleep on the floor so her family could take my kids beds. I told her to bring an air mattress with her and we could set it up in the game room. She said absolutely not!! She says her and her husband have back issues and they need a mattress to sleep on. Now when my family goes to her house my kids are always on her floor and my husband and have slept onvtheir floor before. I gave her the option of sleeping with my daughter(9 year old) in her bed and my brother in law on an air mattress and once again she said no!! When we all go to the family lake house my kids are always on the floor and there are scorpions out there while her son ( my nephew ) gets the bed. She got mad and told my mom how "I have changed so much"!!! I don't understand how my sister thinks she can come to my house and tell me what to do in my own house!!! She asked me if I knew of some nice hotels and I gave her some names close to my own house. There are other family members staying in hotel rooms as well. Their coming in town for a cousins graduation. Need advice. Am I the only one who thinks this is rude??

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Michelle - posted on 04/23/2015

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She's being very unreasonable. It's your house so why should your children have to leave their beds?
You let her know they could bring an air mattress, if she doesn't like that idea then she's more than welcome to stay in a hotel.

Michelle - posted on 05/06/2015

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That's it, it's her choice.
You have done the right thing by your family Sharon so don't listen when the rest of them grumble.
Some people think the world revolves around them and it doesn't matter what you do, they will find something to complain about.

Michelle - posted on 05/03/2015

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I don't think any option other than what she wants will do.
You just can't please some people.

Michelle - posted on 04/25/2015

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Why aren't they options? Why is the only option the one that she wants?
I would never expect to kick anyone out of their bed if I was staying at their house. My husband has a bad back but when we went to visit his family we were on an air mattress on the floor. He survived.
Stick to what you have said so far.

Sarah - posted on 04/23/2015

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No. It's totally rude. You have given her options. She's a big girl. If it's a really big deal she can go to a hotel. Stick to your guns girl!

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Lynda - posted on 09/18/2016

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Hi Sharon
I don't know if you will see this post, as this thread seems a bit old. My sister moved far away from family/friends 20 years ago. When her kids were younger and I would visit, my sister would put one of the girls in with the other's bedroom (bunk beds in that room) and I would get a bed/bedroom. They have 4 bedrooms. The 4th bedroom has a huge desk in it as an office and there isn't much room after that. Then the kids grew older and my sister gave them their own rooms and they each decorated what they wanted. For the last few years, my sister has put a blow up mattress on the floor in the office. They turn the desk sideways to do this. There isn't any room to move in there at all. My suitcase is on the desk and my brother in law sometimes moves it. I am 60 years old now and I'm finding it difficult to get up from the air mattress and it's not comfortable. I think as we age we want more comforts of home. I have been feeling a bit hurt that my sister moved far away and not a thought or consideration of friends/family coming to visit. There is no need for this huge desk taking a whole bedroom. They could have put a smaller desk in there and had a pull out couch or day bed. They don't even really use this office space anymore, since the laptop came along. I always notice my brother in law doing some homework in the dining room now. They don't work from home.
This is getting somewhat long, I realize. I think your sister is being a bit pushy in ordering you what to do in your own home, but your kids are still young. What would be wrong with them sleeping on an air mattress and your sister and husband having a room and bed. Their son, your nephew, can also sleep on air mattress. He shouldn't be getting special treatment. at all. Sometimes you have to think of the other side. I am also a bit uncomfortable because I wake up during the night and go downstairs to main floor just to move around a bit. Then, I don't want to go back upstairs and disturb anybody. My sister has said that she has heard me sometimes. Then I lay on the couch on main floor, but my brother in law gets up early and sees me there and that is where people sit to read and watch TV. Think of the other side. It isn't easy to go to someone else's house and feel totally comfortable. It's really your decision. This year I have decided to rent an Airbnb which is just down the street from my sister when I go down at Christmas. It has a bed and own bathroom. I'm also renting a car to get around. I'm not sure how I will tell my sister the reason, but i'll think of something. In summary, my sister has enough room, but she has chosen a big desk over the comfort of her sister visiting. I have to accept that we are very different people. I go out of my way to make friends/family feel comfortable. I am hurt that she doesn't seem to give it a second thought. Just throw an air mattress on the floor. Anyway, I guess I've given a different opinion here, but that's my story. Good luck.

Sharon - posted on 05/06/2015

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She is staying in a hotel on Friday (night of graduation party) and leaving on Saturday morning. I know she is not happy because normally she would stay until Sunday so the cousins can spend time together. It's her choice and I can't make everyone happy.

Randi - posted on 05/06/2015

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Hate that you had to deal with that attitude from her. Don't feel bad.
So how did it all turn out?

Sharon - posted on 05/05/2015

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She has chosen to stay at a hotel. She is driving in on Friday (Friday night is the graduation party) and leaving first thing Saturday morning. I guess she doesn't want to spend the weekend in town so the cousins can get spend some time together. Oh well her choice!!!!

Sharon - posted on 05/02/2015

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I offered her my sons bed and the my nephew and son can sleep on the air mattress in the game room. Her response was that she didn't think her son (my nephew) would comfortable sharing an air mattress with my son. So she still wasn't satified!!!

Sharon - posted on 04/24/2015

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Now she has mom and dad upset about it!!! My mom said sleeping on the floor or getting a hotel aren't really options. I don't understand how someone feels that they can come into someone else's home and dictate what the sleeping arrangements are!!!!

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