Sleep disturbances and comforting

Jennifer - posted on 09/25/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

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My daughter is almost 15 months old and has 12 teeth already. The four front and bottom and four molars. She has started to break in two of the four canines and I can feel the other two just below the surface. Recently she has begun waking up screaming as if she is having acid poured on her. She goes completely rigid and refuses to let me comfort her. Actually, she is very anti-cuddling unless it's on her terms anyway. Can it be because of the teeth? She tends to break into tantrums whenever she is laid on her back on any remotely hard surface. I have an autoimmune disease that attacks my spine and connective tissue and I know that colors my fears, but have any of you gone through this as well? She gets so rigid and screams so painfully and loud that my eardrums shake. I'm really afraid for her. I talked to her pediatrician and as soon as he heard her throw a tantrum there and heard my mother say "You can't hold her when" he said "She has mild to moderate autism." She has NO symptoms of autism other than the fact that you can't hold her during a tantrum! I'm really hoping someone can help me. She doesn't sleep through the night, she wakes up crying or just cries in her sleep. And she moves more than anyone I've ever seen while sleeping! Is it possible for children this age to have sleep disorders? I'm at the end of my rope here. She and I share a basement, she on one side in her room and me on the other in mine. I haven't slept an entire night through in 9 months now. If I can't get her to sleep through the night without these crying fits or just crying in general soon I'm gonna fall apart. Not to mention because of my health I need sleep too! Please, someone...anyone help!

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Jennifer - posted on 10/09/2009

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Thanks everyone for the support. I wanted to update on Kailie. :) She's doing a little better now thankfully! All four of her canine teeth have come in and she's getting a lot more sleep now. And she's getting a two hour nap in the day, which is just about the best blessing there is for me! She's a lot less irritable as well! I'm so glad to be able to say that she only cries out a couple times a night in her sleep, but it's nothing to get her back to sleep. A very big but welcome change! Now if I can just get her new doctor to get her records! They actually hire someone to come in and retype the records sent from the old doctor. No wonder it's taken TWO WEEKS! Insanity! Hopefully she'll get to see her new doctor soon. :) Thanks again for everyones support! I'm glad I came here.

Anita - posted on 09/26/2009

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one other advice when u take ur child to see a doctor is try to see if u can find a female doctor that have kids of their own becos this would help alot more and they (i believe) are more willing to spend time "looking /assessing" with ur child...

As for the teething situation what i also use to do with my lil man is get a couple of all natural cotton facewash ..wet it and gently wring the water out and roll it up and put in a snap lock bag and place it in the freezer...when it is slightly frozen give it to your child to chew on..the chill really helps them and they also get a bit of fluid as well..the fluid is important for your child becos they can get rather dehydrated esp if they dont wnt to drink...also freeze watermelon..fantastic stuff...

Jennifer - posted on 09/26/2009

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Thank you all for your comments. My daughter has brought in 12 teeth already and she's only 14 months and three weeks! Two canines have just erupted as well. I know I've had horrible tooth pain that made me want to die, so I can't imagine what it's like for little ones without language. I just wish I could comfort her! I will recommend teething tablets though. Orajel is great and all but it burns me when it numbs, so now I know why she hates it so much. She's still waking up screaming but now I've gotten a good look at her gums. The screaming is the only time I really can without her biting me these days! They're so red and inflammed I started giving her ice chips and it's really helped with the irritibility. I agree with you Brittany that autism is becoming the ADD of the 2000s. He doesn't even look at her and he jumps to that conclusion. Same way this guy would say "Her diaper rash is fine" just by opening one tab on her diaper and looking at her belly. Generally that's not where it is! I've chosen a new doctor because I refuse to let her see this man. And I filed a grievance with my insurance company against him as well. They were horrified when I told them of the visit! Maybe they can convince this guy he's being incredible irrisponsible!

Brittany - posted on 09/26/2009

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My son would have blood curling screams at night when he was teething because all of his came in within six months. His was also that he was getting erections and his diapers were too tight. Now since that cannot possibly be her issue I would say seek out a second opinion from a doctor. And mention your condition and see how you can go about testing her. As for the autism, as a teacher, I feel that autism is the ADD of the 2000s. Doctors are now jumping to autism like they used to/still jump at ADD. It doesn't mean she might not have it but if not being comforted is the only symptom, I would say no because my son has never liked to be held when he's in the middle of a tantrum and going stiff for babies is like going limp and dead weight. It's natural. It freaked me at at first and I called my mother in tears because my son was the first baby I had ever been around and little ones are wondrous little creatures!

Get another opinion and maybe try this chiro thing out. Good luck sweetie! I know personally how hard it can be when you're alone and trying to be super mom!

Anita - posted on 09/25/2009

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If there is anything out of the ordinary and if u are really worried that its more than teething then seek advice from ur doctor....Chances are if she has a temp up to 38.2 deg celcius it could be teething related...has her poo been really bad smelling or her wee smell a lil acidic?...some babies poos smell really bad and it could be a little runny...



I take my 2 year old to a chiro every two weeks to a month just to get him gentley adjusted to make sure that he's ok considering that he does alot fo jumping and running around...do u see a chiro or take ur lil one to one?...gental chiropratic manipulation can help with alot of issues dealing with your little one esp if it has to do with the spin and nervous system...ask ur doctor or ur trusted friends and relatives for a recommendation to a chiro that specializes with pregnant woman, babies and toddlers...they really do wonders for u and ur child and it could help them with sleep restlessness too....

Brandy - posted on 09/25/2009

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I would keep looking into it and try a different doctor if that one isn't giving you any real results. I saw on the tv show The Doctors that babies can get rigid and have spasms if they have tetanus but I think that is a really quick moving sickness so she would probably be in the hospital by now or worse if that was the case. There are alot of mothers who frown upon this but I also know alot of doctors who think it's a great thing and I would suggest sleeping with her for a while. She will likely sleep better making sure you get enough rest to keep yourself sane and give her the patience she needs from you. When my daughter isn't sleeping very well and I bring her to our bed, she doesn't wake up at all until usually 9:00. And once you have them sleeping through the night, it really isn't that hard to get them back into their own bed. But seriously find a doctor whose opinion you trust and if you think he is wrong and want him to try harder, don't be shy to let him know. After all, it's his job.

Jennifer - posted on 09/25/2009

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Thank you so much. It's tough being a single mom. From what my mother said all I did was sleep. Of course it turned out I was sick. Maybe her lack of sleep will turn out to make her normal. I can hope right? lol Thank you so much for the encouragement. I really need it right now.

Nicole - posted on 09/25/2009

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My son is 4 1/2 months old and he is teething, he started this crying in his sleep and waking up crying the past 2 weeks. My husband is an over the road truck driver so I am pretty much by myself. And he seems to be only comfortable on his back or sitting straight up in his swing. Other wise he is fussy and very crabby. So I think its normal...I hope this helps that your not alone but I really dont have any solutions yet but I am trying.

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