Sleeping Baby

Brittany - posted on 08/04/2009 ( 13 moms have responded )




My month old baby is having a lot of trouble with sleeping. I can only get him to stay asleep if I am holding him. Every time he is put down he wakes up in seconds. I have tried letting him cry but after a half hour of screaming I give in, we got a heart beat bear, he falls asleep with it but when he is put down he still cries (even if it is still on) we have also tried putting the mattress of his cradle into bed with me and then moving the mattress. Nothing that we have tried has worked Any advice on how to get my baby to sleep alone? I need him to sleep but I need to keep him safe and still get sleep myself, What should I do?


Shauna - posted on 08/05/2009




My son was like that when he was 2-3weeks old, right when you put him down he would freak! I tried letting him cry it out, bc his pedi told me to let him cry for 15minutes go back in there for about 5 and comfort him and then leave the room.. but i couldn't stand hearing him cry, so ofcourse i picked him back up and rocked him to sleep. He also had the heartbeat bear, he would go to sleep with that, but i would suggest what some of the other ladies did, swaddling him really tight. Do you have something that can vibrate his bed? I would also turn on bouncer to vibrate and lean it against his bed so that you can feel the vibrations and then once he fell asleep i would turn it off. It worked wonders. He ended up sleeping through the night at 1 month and hes been doing it ever since, and hes now 12 1/2 months old.

Michelle - posted on 08/05/2009




I think many babies go through this. Try swaddling the baby. Sometimes that can work. Also, I know how hard it is but I do also believe in the letting them cry it out. You really have to go in a room where you don't hear the baby. It is sooooooooooooooo hard. Another thing that you may try is having someone else put the baby down to sleep instead of you. Good luck

Cami - posted on 08/05/2009




All of the advice below is great, my daughter was like that, so i swaddled her and then rolled two of her receiving blankets and put them on each side of her in her crib. I put the really close to her so she kind of felt lke she was being held. And yes he does need your comfort but you can not spoil him to much, because he will want to be held all the time. And realisticly you can get anything done for yourself, like showering and sleeping!! lol. Good Luck.

Pamela - posted on 08/05/2009




He's only a month old , he needs the comfort of his mother , whats wrong with letting him sleep in your arms for a little while ? he's still adjusting to the world and i wouldnt let him cry it out for an hour hes only a month old he will learn soon enough , hes still eating every 3 to 4 hrs too so hes not going to be sleeping the night quite yet

Brandi - posted on 08/05/2009




Have you tried a slight incline to his bed? Or even his baby carseat or baby swing? My son would only sleep w/out being held when his head was elevated. I found out way after the fact that those were signs of baby reflux and if I had know that I could have had him on one of the Rx's that can help that kind of thing.


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Laura - posted on 08/07/2009




I would lay down with Leah on my bed with her sideways facing into me and her head on my arm with a pacifier. After she fell asleep, I would smoothly take my arm out from underneath her and slink out of bed. I'd wait about 5-10 minutes then pick her up in her sideways position then move her to the bassinet which was right beside the bed. She's 4 months now and only occasionally do I need to use that method. Most often now I can just lie her down in her baby bed, which is still in our room, with a pacifier, rub her back a few minutes and she's out. She will only fall asleep in her swing during the day.

And as far as letting your baby cry, I know most the books and advise you get support that and but my motto is "baby's communicate not manipulate- there is no such thing as a spoiled baby." If you've tried the process of elimination and she still cries, then maybe she's just needs a good old fashion cry to get all the overkill of the day out of her system. We all need that sometimes. Just put her in a seat, sit near by and take a breather until she's done. This is safer too because babies often stop breathing a second or gag or get completely stuff up when they have a crying fit. Your instinct is your greatest asset as a mother, listen to it. This is one case where doing what feels good is the right answer. :P

Jennifer - posted on 08/05/2009




Did you say he is only a month old? I would suggest NOT letting him cry for an hour. He is too young to know how learn how to self soothe. Sometimes a pacifier helps, white noise machine and waiting until he is in a deep sleep (at least 20 min in your arms) before putting him down. Make sure the room is very dark. A routine also helps, but he is really too young to have any kind of organized sleep schedule. I hate to tell you this, but for a few more months it'll be tough. Do you have a sling to carry him in? Someone mentioned the Moby wrap, and that helped us. Swaddling very tight also helps (the Miracle Blanket).

Also, I highly recommend this book- Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child. It may help you prepare for when he is old enough to learn to sleep by himself. But that usually doesn't happen until five months or so.

Hang in there!

I promise, it gets sooo much better.

Here is a post I wrote about the subject:

Deziray - posted on 08/05/2009




Do you use a pacifier at all? My son is the same way unless I swaddle him and he has his pacifier

Heather - posted on 08/05/2009




Since I was a Stay at Home Mom, and home alone allot with my son who didnt sleep unless I was holding him, I looked into carriers...I made myself one like the moby wrap. Someone told me get 6 yards of simi streatchy fabric and look on you tube how to tie them on...6 yards seems like alot but dont cut it untill you have tried all the different ways to tie on, and dont forget your baby is growing! Had I not learned to tie my son onto my back I never would hve been able to make myself food that I couln't just throw in the microwave, or do dishes and stuff you need to do as a SAHM.

User - posted on 08/05/2009




Try also sleeping with a blanket of his for a night or two, then wrapping him in that blanket to sleep - your scent on the blanket might help him settle down. I would keep two blankets going - one wrapped around him, the other in bed with you for the night.

Good luck!

Alicia - posted on 08/05/2009




It is very very common for a baby to sleep soundly in your arms but wake the second you put him down! So frustrating. My son would really only sleep on his own if he was swaddled, and swaddled up tight. It worked wonders. He was swaddled till seven months!!! We also found he slept better in his crib rather than the bassinette or pack n play. I think it was because the mattress was much more comfortable. Also, putting him down in a dark room, as if it is bedtime for every nap helped get him down for naps.

Amber - posted on 08/04/2009




Get into a routine. That is the best way to start getting your baby to sleep. Give a bath, talk to him and tell him it's almost time for bed, sing to him, read a book, feed him his bottle and then put him down and say, it's bedtime now. I would not wait until he's asleep, because he will get used to being in your arms and falling asleep that way. Be sure to follow a routine like this EVERY time..for nap time you can do a routine with feeding and then a book or song, then put him down to sleep at the same time every night/day.

Hope that helps! I've done this will all 3 of my kids, and they all sleep sound without waking up through the night or wanting to sleep in my bed! Be consistent, and patient!!

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