SO in hospital, i didn't find out for 5 hours

Amanda - posted on 02/20/2016 ( 1 mom has responded )




My significant other and I have been together for almost 6 years. We have a 2 year old together. Our son and I are currently on vacation roughly 1,000 miles from our home. 3 days ago S/O was found in his car, unresponsive and not breathing. He had to be hooked up to ventilators, was in and out of conciousness. It was estimated his horn was blaring for almost 30 minutes before a neighbor went to find out what was going on. They had to bust his back window out to unlock the car. During CPR they found food stuck in his throat. Nurses said if it had been a few more minutes he would be dead....This happened around around 7:00 pm. I did not even get a phone call from his sister or father until almost midnight. So to me, for 5 hours, the man I love, who I have spent 6 years of my life with, who I have a child with was laying in a hospital bed, almost dead and I didn't not so much as receive a phone call. When his sister finally realized i hadnt been called she called me and explained that she was on facebook and realized "Shit Amanda dont know what if someone posts it on facebook" so she called me. Later she said she didnt let me know because she didnt want me to worry and was going to let me know after they found out more. However, His mother who lives 2500 miles away was notified, his friends were notified and were at the hospital, his aunt and uncle were notified and at the hospital. So why we're they all notified before everything was found out and I was not? I have medical information about him that no one else knows. When I told his sister he has a history of seizures she said "what I didn't know that. They even asked me if he has a history of seziures" and she ran back to tell the nurse.....Right now I feel like an after thought. My information could have drastically changed the way the doctors were treating him. They still have no idea what happened to him, but thankfully he is home and being treated for pneumonia.....right now i want nothing to do with his family. I am angry at the whole situation...I would like to know opinions on rather i should be angry or if I am just over reacting. Thanks


Michelle - posted on 02/20/2016




I think you need to let it go. Use the energy in helping him recover rather than being angry with his family. What is the anger going to achieve? It's not going to change the past.
It is easy to forget to notify people is stressful situations. They notified you when they realized that you didn't know. If they were spiteful towards you they could have just let you find out through facebook.
Maybe they all thought someone else had contacted you so please find a way to get rid of the anger towards them. It's not going to help anyone.

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