"So What Do You Do All Day?"

Only1Chance - posted on 12/15/2013 ( 24 moms have responded )

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Ive had a "working mom" ask so what do you do all day? Watch tv? Which is so insulting to me, why do pple think that stay at home moms lounge around all day? I do have a house to clean, kids to love & nurture...need to whip up breakfast, lunch, and dinner & who cleans all those pots & pans, plates, cups used during the day?? And thats not even a quarter of what needs to b done on a daily basis. LoL. And how can I forget taking care of the Man of the house!! :-) This is a non stop deal 24/7 NO clock outs, vacations weeks, weekends... I wouldnt trade it for ALL THE MONEY IN THE WORLD. I am satisfied with having our bills paid if theres a little extra left over fine if THERE ISN'T FINE too I wouldnt trade all those precious moments & NOT SO PRECIOUS MOMENTS that I would other wise miss!!!!

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Sarah M - posted on 12/16/2013

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Ya, I thought that when I worked. Like if I stayed home there would be so much free time....WRONG...like anything else people shouldn't judge till they have walked a mile in your shoes. I think working moms and SAHM's are both busy and have different stresses. Now that I do stay at home, I see that it is an enormous amount of work, and its thankless. I miss the self worth I got from working and the pay check that made doing it worth it. I too love staying home but it gets me really down a lot of times. I feel unappreciated, overworked, hella tired, sometimes depressed. I miss lunch with the girls, now its chicken nuggets and mac and cheese ( not everyday lol) but you get what I'm saying. You cant get mad or take it personal, just come back with something equally witty and mean like, "No, I wish that's what I did, I instead am watching my kids grow. What is it you do"?

Deepti - posted on 12/15/2013

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I appreciate that you are happy and content with your work. That is all a working mom at home needs. No body else would appreciate your contribution except you and your kids.It is fruitless that outsiders will appreciate your contribution. If your husband understands then you do not have to look beyond.
Having said that, I would recommend that always take some time out for yourself, that could be talking to your friend/ sister over phone, meeting old pals whenevr possible or to redevelop your own hobby/ interest which u used to enjoy before becoming mother. It would increase your satisfaction factor as well as your confidence level. I took up writing and that means I can stay at home, carry out my chores and indulge in my favorite activity too happily.
Have a good life!

Only1Chance - posted on 12/18/2013

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Hello Sarah, you are absolutely right we do not know other pples lives. And I completely understand what you mean by its hard some days & makes you feel down. But I don't think or see it that way any more because I now understand lifes manual : The Bible. Our role as wife and mother is God ordained!! Wow. You are SOO IMPORTANT if you and others could completely comprehend that we would have a lot less mothers feeling down & more stay at home moms. We (as well as fathers) are so crucial to our children's lives & believe it or not to society!! SOCIETY NEEDS YOU. Feeling better? MORE IMPORTANTLY GOD NEEDS YOU (us), to be keepers of the home. Don't let the pull of this world get you down the world is against family, The world(satan) tells us YOU FIRST, live life splurge on you . GOD tells us put others 1st. Ladies having children & a husband is a selfless thing you put others first even though your exhausted, not in the mood.. ect. Once again do it for God 1st, & also look up statistics for children who were raised by stay at home moms. On YouTube you can look up The Wifes Role in the home 3parts or Becoming a kingdom wife 3parts these have HELPED ME SOOO MUCH I SEE MY ROLE SOO DIFFERENTLY theres some things that are a bit to swallow but I needed desperately to hear it. May God Bless you and your family. Take Care!!

Jenny - posted on 01/31/2014

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I say each to their own. Ther are stay at home mums because they like that and can afford 2, ther are working mums because they cant afford stay at home or cant cope bein at home alot. And am sure ther are other reasons for both! Anyone who stays at home shud check out 'mother and toddler' groups, great for company for both parent and child. Stay at home mums do not get it easy but respect to workin mums who have work + deal with home after, women shudnt be thought of any dif no matter what they choose to do aslong as their kids properly looked after!

Adrienne - posted on 01/29/2014

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Im a young mom of a 2 and 4 yr old. I was working 2 jobs my fiance was working one and i was so hapy that i was the main provider for the family. Plus the one to always clean, make the meals, nuture and play with my kids. To me that was how a mom was suppose to be. But once i found out i was pregnant with baby number 3 and started to bdcome HUGE ( only 5 months in) my fiance said it would be easier on evryone if i stay home. At first i cried for days than saw his point. He started to make much more money than me and daycare for the first two was already over 1800$ so i put my big gurl panties on and stayed home . I was so surprised and extremely happy that i did. I never knew how much of my kids life i was missing. So to be a stay at home mom that is a job instead of being paid with money the love and cherished mkments with your kid(s) is the best payment any mother can recieve.

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April@lovefarlovenear.com - posted on 02/10/2014

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Some people just don't get it. We work nonstop! at least at work you are guaranteed a break! if you are constantly cleaning up after a child, taking care of dishes, cleaning the house, doing laundry and paying bills...When do you get a break? Or if you mention how early you have been up and they say they have been up earlier...um but you weren't doing anything LOL

Until you are a stay at home parent, i don't even wanna hear it haha
I love being home with my 4mo old to watch him grow and experience new things each day. props to all moms out there!

Camil - posted on 02/05/2014

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That's ridiculous! I would be insulted as well. Like you, I feel like I'm a working mom as well, even more tiring than actually working in my opinion (not complaining at all, just saying). Day and night baby and house chores, you name it, but at the same time I also get to watch my daughter grow up. Like others say, they grow fast so might as well treasure every single moment of it. But like others as well, not everyone can afford only having one parent working so when my baby turns 1, I also plan on working part time during the night. :)

Adrienne - posted on 01/31/2014

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I totaly agree with you jenny as long as your kids are properly taken care of thats all that matters!

A - posted on 01/30/2014

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well Adrienne they are both jobs. Not everyone can afford to have one parent stay at home.

A - posted on 01/29/2014

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That is awful that someone would ask that. As mothers we shouldn't do that. The only thing I will say, as a working mom- we do all of that as well and work outside the home too! That is just what moms do give everything of ourselves for the betterment of our families.

Nicki - posted on 01/18/2014

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totally agree wiv u there rivky as my hubby left me almost 2 yrs ago so iv ad 2 provide 4 myself was working bt then my contract ended so am now really struggling am so skint its unreal i love avin my own money tbh plusn iv now lost my working tax credits which was a big help when i was eligible 2 claim it how ppl say u are better off not working well i will never no how i love spending time wiv my boy bt just a struggle on how 2 entertain him all day etc hes almost 3 xx

Heather - posted on 01/12/2014

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I used to be able to stay at home, I loved it...doing everything for my boys being there every second for them. My husband at the time was in the military and though didn't make decent money made enough for us to survive with one income. I wish I could be at home all day with my children, I envy you, my boys father left us 2 1/2 years ago so I have no choice...I am now the soul provider for my family.
So anyone want to tell me that mother's need to stay home with their children for a happier family, 1chance, put yourself in my shoes then tell me to stay home. I'd love to...can't afford. Any family that can afford it, appreciate it...some people wish they were you

Brandyn - posted on 01/09/2014

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I've battled that question many times, and it never gets any easier. It seems like the askers don't understand that with a small child (or several for some!) running around, housework easily takes double the time. The second you sweep the floor, your baby will spill a bowl of Cheerios. The minute you begin doing dishes, your toddler bumps her head on the table and needs attention, then once she's settled down she'll decide she's hungry. It's never ending! I think the key is to remember why you are doing this in the first place. I'm a stay at home mom so I can spend time with my daughter, not to keep a magazine worthy home, so I cut myself a little slack when everything isn't perfect and focus on this special time with my little one.

Momoffour - posted on 01/09/2014

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Only1chance Thank you what you said was encouaging Ihad my 4th baby girl on dec.2 I quiet my job in novemeber to stay home with my baby girl and sometimes I get lonely.

Tasha - posted on 12/19/2013

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It's so crazy. I've never had anyone in real life ask me or say any of this crap I hear online. I'm not saying it doesn't happen, but I dont experience it thank goodness. I'm a sahm who does plenty, but I also admit I get easy days, and the chance to have a bit more freedom in some ways. More so than my dh who obviously works all day outside the home.

Kathryn - posted on 12/19/2013

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I hear ya! As a SAHM of two I know exactly what you are saying here. My oldest is in school all day and my youngest is home with me and is 3. I am also attending online school. I do not get to watch TV. At night maybe, but very short period of time before I fall out from being tired. Have faith you are doing what no one else can. Raise your own child. Babysitters or daycare are not getting the pleasure of doing it, you are. Just try and remember that on the hard days. That is what I do. GOD Bless you sweetie.

Only1Chance - posted on 12/18/2013

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You are correct it is good to have another adult to relate to, especially someone who is in the same season of life as you, or someone who will be giving you words of wisdom. Just as children NEED other children to play with we need an adult (woman of course) other than our husband.

Deepti - posted on 12/16/2013

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You need a change. It would re energize you and to attain positive feelings for yourself. If you are missing your job then you may also start working from home for few hours. It would really help you to gain sanity and keep your mind occupied constructively!! I have experienced the same:))

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