Son cries the WHOLE time @ preschool

Gretchenvr - posted on 01/22/2013 ( 8 moms have responded )

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My son is 4yrs old. He goes 3hr/2dys a wk. The teacheer tells me he cries the whole time & there has been no improvement since the first time he went (2wks ago). Not sure what else i can do. He tells me he is scared. Nothing i can tell him or do short of not bringing him seems to help. I don't know what else to do. I've been a stay at home mom since he was 12mo old. Even then i couldn't leave the room w/out him crying. He had to see me. Any one has any advise?

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Amanda - posted on 01/22/2013

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Ask him what he's scared of...are the teachers kind & caring? Can you get to know some of the parents of the other kids in his class, & maybe schedule a play date outside school with their child? It takes a while for kids to get comfortable sometimes. He's only been going for two weeks. Some children are just more sensitive & anxious than others. Hang in there! :)

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Josee - posted on 01/23/2013

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it is totally normal for a 4 year old boy to cry
he is a child and expresses his emotions of sadness or fear by crying - NORMAL
19 kids and one teacher - no other adults?
wow, that is not an acceptable ratio
i had 10 kids in my class and there were 2 of us (caregivers) to care for the children

Cindy - posted on 01/23/2013

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As others have said there is nothing wrong with a boy being somewhat effeminate and prone to crying. We have known our nephew is probably gay since he was a toddler but we still love him to death and wouldn't change a thing about him.

Amanda - posted on 01/23/2013

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19 kids is way too many for Pre-K! Maybe a smaller classroom would be better. My son's class has 14 kids total. Some preschools are run by churches, & they offer cheaper tuition rates, plus their class sizes are smaller!

Josee - posted on 01/23/2013

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I am a preschool teacher and I do see this often
make sure you have a nice routine - for example, tell him "we are going to preschool now. mommy will pick you up when class is over" then give him a hug and a kiss and leave.
be consistent, he will eventually get used to it

also, the teacher - ask her what she plans to do to help him adjust to his new environment. maybe work with her to come up with some ideas on how to make your son feel more comfortable
does he have a stuffed animal he can bring? or a picture that he could look at when he gets sad?

Gretchenvr - posted on 01/23/2013

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I don't know if they are a kind&caring as myself or someone else in the family. The teacher has 19 other kids in the class. Maybe the educational environment (institutional) is too much right now? I agree he is more anxious, he's very cautious in play. Thanks for the comment

Gretchenvr - posted on 01/23/2013

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YEah he's not effemient. When he was younger he used to cry every time he would get hurt, but now he doesn't do that any more. He's a pretty tough and rough kid. He like to pretend to be Thor, lifting heavy things & throwing them. He doesn't like to be too far away from anyone. As apposed to his brother who's 3, and needs his alone time everyday. Thank for the comment :)

Cindy - posted on 01/23/2013

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By that age boys usually don't cry as much as they become a little tougher and less sissy. Is he effeminate?

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