sounds silly but i need help with a toy issue!

Tiffany - posted on 10/05/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )

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i don't know as they got older they just stopped picking up there toys, now i have to tell them like 600 times before they pick up one , soon to be 5 and 6 year old should know this by now the teachers tell me how helpful they are at school how do i get them to pick up the first time i ask, they listen pretty good other wise this is a tough one for then i guess i don't know, any help would be great!! thanks

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Sharon - posted on 10/07/2009

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Yes Tiff, my 6yr. old started doing the same thing. Then hubby said that he only could play with 2 toys, since he doesn't want to clean up. If he wants to play with something else, he has to put those back first. We did that for about 3mos. Now he can play with 5 toys. It's working for us. Try it. Good Luck!!!!!

Sandra - posted on 10/07/2009

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i have a day home and the rules for toys is "you take them out, you put them back." it takes a little getting used to the idea but bottom line for us is that if you want to be able to play with your toys, you'd had better put them away the day before. so if they refuse to clean up, tell them they dont get to play the next day. then clean up yourself (while they watch so that they dont forget you had to do it) and the next day be the toy police. follow them for the first hour telling them "no you cant play with that bc you didnt clean up your toys yesterday." eventually they will get more than a little bored and then you make a deal with them, such as "alright now i will let you have the toys but only if you promise to clean up tonight" then follow through each day until they catch on. and if you have the problem of only one child is picking up while the other wastes time, then i tell that child that they need to help out or they will have to do it all by themselves (while the others sit on the couch and watch them do it). ive only had to enforce that one once and no one wanted to be stuck doing it alone after that. hope that helps!

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April Lee - posted on 10/06/2009

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Yeah the garbage bag idea really didn't work for my 4yr old either she actually started picking up her toys and throwing them in the garbage instead of her gazillion toyboxes lol. Ive started a sticker chart so she can get a kitty and offer to help her pick them up and while picking the toys up with her I explain that when shes done w/ a toy to put it away cuz then she has alot more room to play. When were all done i show her how much more room she has then she did w/ all her toys out it seems to be helping a lil. Hope this helps

Tiffany - posted on 10/06/2009

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yes we have tried that melissa but then they go outside and get them of corse they got in trouble but that didn't work out very well, my husband gets mad when he sees me picking them up too,i don't know maybe i'll just throw them away to teach them that they need to do it

Melissa - posted on 10/05/2009

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My daughters are 4 and 8. I had the same problem. I would have to ask repeatedly for them to pick up their toys and after about the 10th time I would find myself picking them up myself. So one day after asking about 3 times to no avail, I walked into the kitchen and grabbed a garbage bag. I then proceeded to pick up their toys and place them in the garbage bag. "What are you doing mommy?" they asked and I told them that if they couldn't pick up after themselves then I would pick up the stuff an throw it out. I then put the bag out the back door for Daddy to put in the trash. They were horrified! My husband put the bag out in the garage and I eventually brought the stuff back in a little at a time. But now I tell them once to pick up their toys and if they don't listen I get a garbage bag out. As soon as they see the bag in my hand they race around as fast as they can to pick up their toys!

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