Spacing Children

Celeste - posted on 01/15/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My baby girl will be a year old in March and Hubby and I are talking about child number two. Anyone have advice on spacing children?



We want them to be close but im worried that two children in diapers may be a financial drain (not to mention cars and college)



Anyone have children this close together? Hows that working for you and do you suggest waiting another year or so?



Just want some knowledgeable advice from moms who have been there.

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Nikki - posted on 01/16/2010

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I got pregnant with my second when my daughter was 15 months, she was 2yrs and 1month when my son came along and i think it was the perfect age gap. She was old enough to be able to understand to some extent what was going on and she could keep herself amused while i attended to my son. I would recommend a 2yr gap at least, but it also depends on your daughter and her personality and how you feel she will handle it!.

Michelle - posted on 01/15/2010

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My two kids are 16 months apart and it's been fine (they are 2 and 10 months). There was some jealousy and there still is. They like each other a lot. They play together and a lot of times I'll just hear laughter from the back seat when I'm driving (they make faces at each other and stuff). The diapers haven't been that bad (but we buy at Costco so we get them in bulk for cheaper) and it's fun. One of the advantages of having them close together is that you can re use most of your baby stuff easily (it's still considered safe etc). Kids have bad days whether you have one or twelve so there are always some bumps in the road. As long as you budget well, stay organized, and plan ahead as much as you can it's basically fine. I actually have enjoyed it. My brother, sister, and I each have about a year between us and we all grew up fine. I think it was easier for us to play with each other as a whole.

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My daughter was 8 months old when I found out I was pregnant with my son, so they are 16 months apart, I found that I didn't bond properly with my son at the start because I basically didn't have enough time like I did with my daughter. My daughter was in nappies but was ready to start toilet traing. Now I would have to say they get on really well and play together all the time, they are very close, My daughter is in grade 2 this year and my son is starting school for the first time, money wise it can be hard but we budget and put money aside early for school books and shoes. I am thinking about having a third child now both are at school, but my husband believes it will cost way to much to raise three and put them through school and college. At least by just having two close together they will always be there for each other. Hope I was of some help. Regards Shelley

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