Starting over single and scared...

Aimee - posted on 10/14/2015 ( 1 mom has responded )

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I am a 40 year old that was married at 21, had two kids with husband, now divorced and my 17 & 16 year old live with him but I currently have a 17 month old and a 5month that i'm raising at my parents house. I just feel alone, scared about how I'm going to support them on my own (currently on state assistance) and having trouble staying positive. Made some mistakes previously in life and feel so blessed to have the opportunity to do it all again but having a lot of guilt from the past and fear about the future. I guess I just need some advice or new ideas. Feel free to ask me any questions about my past, I just want to do this right this time without this fear I'm feeling...

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Ana - posted on 10/16/2015

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Well, I'm 35, with 2 kids and preg with a 3rd. I just think Guilt is a horrible thing that holds you back. You can't change the past, facing it and admitting to it gets you turned away from it and headed into the future, never to look back with Guilt. When you know better you do better.

Now, Guilt also takes needed time and energy away from your current life. Wanting to get on a new track in life, i'd say just do it. What does that mean? Well, if there is anything that you ever wanted to do in life, just look at the steps to doing it and BEGIN. Even if it was being a rocket scientists! Take one class at a time, one step at a time. Life is about learning and moving. KEEP MOVING..

I've been through divorce, it's like death (feeling), but it's not death thank God.

With 2 small kids, things probably won't happen at light speed for you because of your time, but that does not stop you from studying. Go to the library at night when your parents watch your kids, check out books, look at study materials for your new life, goals, direction. If you want change, then you have to give it to yourself. There is a path to every goal, just figure out what your goals are, then work on the paths. Sometimes the goals are'nt even career related, sometimes its emotional, medical, spiritual. What ever they are,GO for IT!

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