Stay at home mom feeling traped in a foreign country

Cosy - posted on 07/23/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I have immigrated to the US two years ago I had to put my life on hold and be a stay at home mom and my hubby works to support the family, not that I don't love or enjoy raising our kids however, I feel like my hubby is not being fair to me as a mother and a wife, I want to attend college but I can't because my hubby says he can't afford to pay for daycare for my two younger kids I stay in the house 24/7 only leave when we're taking the kids for doctors appointments I don't drive my hubby keeps saying his going to teach me but never do, He takes care of every bill in the house he even buy groceries I don't have a bank account and he does not give me even a dime when I ask him to give me some money he will ask what I'm going do with it I'm a born catholic however I've never been to church ever since.I don't have any family here and nobody to talk to since I'm always cooked up in the house I cannot even buy myself a piece of gum when I ask my hubby for anything even that cost just $5 he will always reminds me that his the only one working and paying bills.I have come to a point where I need to fight for my independence and my identity and walk away and build up my life in another state I just want out bcoz I don't even like him at this point let alone love we no longer sleep in the same bedroom I can't take it anymore the problem is we have kids my youngest is 15 months he doesn't even help with kids not even giving me 2hr break.I tried talking to him about how I fill in this marriage but he doesn't even care I really need some advice.

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Marianne - posted on 06/13/2014

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I have immigrated to the US almost three years ago. Originally from Germany am living now, in Tallahassee,FL with, my husband and our almost 20 month old daughter. We just moved from Monticello,FL into the city of Tallahassee. While I'm enjoying being a SAHM for now, it's a little lonely around here. There are a lot of children around this little community but none are my daughter's age. I miss doing nails for other girls while enjoying a coffee etc. Where are you gals? Lol
I'm 32 and quite bored while my husband's at work. My daughter needs a little friend to play with.

Cosy - posted on 07/27/2013

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Thankx Michelle a close by church is about a mile from the house and i thought abt walking so many time but I always thought of my 15 months old baby that i'll have to take in this heat and humid weather however i have told him. that if things don't change after we back from family vacation then I'm leaving him and he doesn't deserve me I told him to his face right now we on a vacation in Florida Orlando Disneyland.he can afford anything but when it comes to me he will say this and that I'm young and smarter then what he thinkshis going to grow old alone.

Cosy - posted on 07/27/2013

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Thankx Michelle a close by church is about a mile from the house and i thought abt walking so many time but I always thought of my 15 months old baby that i'll have to take in this heat and humid weather however i have told him. that if things don't change after we back from family vacation then I'm leaving him and he doesn't deserve me I told him to his face right now we on a vacation in Florida Orlando Disneyland.he can afford anything but when it comes to me he will say this and that I'm young and smarter then what he thinkshis going to grow old alone.

Michelle - posted on 07/27/2013

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It sounds like he has married for for a live in maid. He's not treating you like a wife at all. There is a difference between being a SAHM compared to being a hostage and you are the later.
You can find a local church and go without his permission. That way you can find some new friends and get some support. Surely there is a church within walking distance.

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