Stay at home mom is a first for me . . .

April - posted on 03/03/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )




Hello, my name is April. I have just joined and I'm asking for any advice you can give. I have 2 children ages 9 and 6 and I have never been a stay at home mom. That's all about to change. In a few short months (June), I will be quitting my job of almost 9 years and moving to be with my husband basically across the world (he works for the military). I've also chosen to home school while we are out of the country; it will only be temporary until next summer/fall.

Any tips on any area on this subject will be greatly appreciated.

Thanks so much!!!


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Kristin - posted on 03/04/2010





I absolutely understand where you are coming from with moving to a new place (country in your case) and finding meeting people challenging. The other moms are spot on with getting out of the house and finding things in your area to do and see. Think libraries, museums, play grounds, explore the markets, get your kids involved in soccer if they are interested, that should get you started on a parent network. I understand the desire to homeschool, at times I feel the need here in the states, but don't totally rule out the schools there. There could be some really amazing experiences and friends to be made. You can always supplement with homeschooling to keep them on track with the systems here in the states. Just a thought, but you should do what you feel is best and safest for you and your family. As for actual homeschooling, check with your library for materials on the topic and they should be able to direct you to the appropriate organization to get you started.

Good luck, it sounds very exciting.

For a grown up network, get settled first and then maybe host a get to know you dinner for your husbands collegues and wives. Plus, since you are so close to the beach, extend the inivte to come hang at the beach wth you and the kids. Maybe just you when your husband isnt working? Don't forget about your support system at home, they will want to know all about what you are doing. Skype is pretty great for that but, probably won't work so well for the kids.

April - posted on 03/04/2010




Thank you both for responding. I will include the kids in packing as much as possible, plus we will be visiting my mother (Illinoise) before we leave.

Anna, I'll be moving to Kuwait. He's not active duty any more, now he's and independant contractor. It's a nice place to vist, i visit him every two months. The meeting new people, I think, will be a problem for me. I'm never been someone that was good at meeting hew people. Some of the other guys have their wives there too, so maybe we'll be able to develop those friendships. On the plus side, we will be only a couple blocks from the beach.

Anna - posted on 03/04/2010




Hi April, can i ask you first where you will be moving to? my husband is also military and we are in korea. he has been here almost 3 yrs and myself almost 2. we had our daughter over here and she is almost 11 months. my advice to you would be to really get to know the area you where you will be living. Dont stay cooped up in the house or you and your kids will go crazy lol. get involved in as much as you can. really try to meet new people. it will make your time go by faster and will be a lot more enjoyable! Good luck to you, and i hope you enjoy living abroad!

Lisamarie - posted on 03/04/2010




I think the best thing you could probably do is get your chilren involved in everything! Not the same as you, but myself and my husband have 2 children, 3years and 7 months, we just moved to a new house and it was a nightmare with our daughter, (3 year old) the only thing we could do was let her help us pack, even if things just get thrown into boxes, it made her feel like she was helping and was really excited about moving.

When daddy's at work we make things or paint or bake. You could take them for lots of walks when you have moved to find new places to explore! Good luck! :)

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