Stay at home mom to a 2 1/2 year old...6 months pregnant very depressed

Rachel - posted on 02/06/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I never thought I'd be writing in one of these but I'm so lost right now and have no where else to turn. I'm 26 and I just moved 23 hours from all my friends and family and quit my job of 8 years to move from Virginia Beach to Tulsa for my husbands job promotion. I always dreamed of being a stay at home mom but now that I am I feel selfish because I'm so depressed. I find myself constantly breaking down and having to hide from my son so he doesn't see me cry. I have absolutely no one to talk to all day...no friends...no family...I recently started going to church but their ages there are 50+. My husband doesn't understand at all. He says he works all day too but he doesn't get that he actually gets a lunch break and gets to talk to people. I've been searching for a job but once people see that I'm 6 months pregnant I never get a call back. People told me to do pampered chef or Mary Kay or whatever but I can't pay for my son to go to daycare in hopes that I might possibly get a sale especially when once again I don't know anyone. I feel so trapped and I just don't know what to do. I feel selfish for even complaining about it. My husband was in the military before we had our first child and I know there's moms who have to deal with this with out a husband at all for months and months....

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Raychel - posted on 02/07/2014

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You aren't alone I have moved twice just to be with my husband once across country(from tx to pa) and this time just across state (texas). Its hard there were times I begged my husband to send us back home so I could see my family and work again. I would try first finding a church with people that are in your age range it helps and becoming involved up there also join a mommy group (MOPS maybe? or try meetup.com) I have met some great ladies. If the ladies at your church have a ladies night out or you find a group that does that I would let your husband know you need time by yourself. We have also been able to make friends at the local park. I hope I helped some....

Emma - posted on 02/06/2014

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Rachel - what you are feeling is sooooo normal especially when you have had a successful working career. When my boys were young and i felt the same way, i filled my time by joining activity classes. Your 21/2 year old can do kinder gym, music, dance etc...where you can meet mums with kids the same age and in the same situation. From there new friendships will create new social opportunities for you to have "adult talk" and breaks. It will get harder for a while with baby no# 2 so get online and get involved asap. Your local recreation centre our council should also be able to inform you as to what toddler programs run in your area. Load up skype so you can have face to face conversations with family & friends back home during kids sleeptimes. Speak to your GP if depression is preventing your from leaving the house & get some safe medication to help you get back on track. Good Luck & much love, Emma

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