Stay-at-home mommy, but everyone else thinks Im just hanging out!

Kelly - posted on 01/20/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I am a stay at home mother with 2 children my son is still only in school half days my daughter is 8 and is in school but gets out at 2 and is a walker, however my parents and I am sure other people feel that I have no reason to stay home anymore since the kids are older. I have worked I have worked long hard hours not only for a corperation but for my family and I feel like the changes that I have made to beable to stay home to take care of my family where the best ones however my family makes me feel like I am just home hanging out I dont know how to feel or to respond to them anymore. Any suggestions?

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Erica - posted on 01/21/2010

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I know exactly how you feel. My daughter is 6 months old and is quite the handful and still isn't sleeping through the night, so I feel like I work 24/7. But the other day my husband said he "figured it out" and I only work 6 hours a day. He almost got smacked...

Robin - posted on 01/21/2010

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Yeah make of list of all the things that you do in a day and then put a price tag on them . If you do laundry then call a laundry service and see how much it would cost to do the amount of laundry you do, same with the cooking and cleaning and the afterschool child care and then show them how much you are worth to the house hold b/c as a mom you know to your kids you are priceless!! That should please everyone and shut up those who think you are just hanging out.

Kelly - posted on 01/21/2010

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Thank you all, and you are all right If I am not here everyday for them then who would be? A daycare or some person I found in the paper I do not think so I love what I do with and for them every day, the time I get with them is the best in the world. No we may not have everything the other kids have but they have me the other kid have prents that shuffle there kids from daycare to grandparent to school and never see a school play or get to go to a parent event during the day and I do, And I know that I have plenty to do in my home everyday does it all get done all of the time no but life is not perfect.

Maritza - posted on 01/20/2010

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You know what I have learned is that the people who think that have way much time to think so while they think about how you spend your day you have all ready done 1000 things in that time so be proud to be so special and remember I believe that a lot of working moms will do anything to be in our shoes I was one of them and even after a hard day and a lot of cleaning I will not exchange it for the world........

Don't worry what anyone think ............. it their problem not yours just be polite and say thank you for thinking how my day at home is atleast someone day dreams for my part *LOL* ;-) remember the wink afterwards *LOL*

Celina - posted on 01/20/2010

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If you were at work then who would be there when the kids are sick? or to get them to and from school, to make sure they have their lunches, homework, jackets etc. Who do they come to when something has upset them? And most importantly when the kids have a special day at school whether it be a play, or sports event or whatever, YOU are there. Take a look at the faces of the children who's paren't aren't there. They always look disappointed. Tell anyone who questions your choice to get knotted. Just because we don't get paid to do what we do doesn't mean that its not important. Besides, in our parents day, it was normal for a parent to be home, why has this become such a bad thing?, it was fine for them to do so, and it is fine for us to do so too. There is still plenty to do when they are at school. Washing, dishes, making the beds, vacuuming, taking kids to and from school, cooking, other cleaning. Again, tell them to get knotted, mind there own business, it's YOUR choice at the end of the day.

Jennifer - posted on 01/20/2010

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Just explain that there is a lot more to staying at home than just taking care of the kids during the day. We keep our houses clean. We make sure our family has a healthy meal everynight. We make sure homework gets done when the kids do come home. We take care of the family when they are sick (and when we are sick too). And, the best part is when the kids don't have school (summer break, vacations, snow days) we never have to worry about who will take care of them. One more thing, since you don't have a job that you have to go to every day, then when all the extracurricular activities come along, you can be at every one and support your children. We as SAHM never get a vacation, a weekend off, or a time to clock out for the day. When the kids have been up half the night, we can't call in sick, because we didn't get enough sleep. We have the hardest most rewarding job of all, and even if you do take a little time during the day while the kids are in school to relax or do something just for you, then that is great, you deserve it, because when everyone is home you are back to doing double duty (or more)!

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