Stay at home mommy troubles

Brittany - posted on 02/19/2016 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Does anyone else's spouse think that because you stay home with the kids that you have to do everything with little to no help?

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Michelle - posted on 02/20/2016

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Yes I'm lucky but I also had an agreement with my husband from when we first started living together.
People will treat you the way YOU allow them to treat you. I made it clear to him that I wasn't his Mother and wasn't there to do everything for him. I do cook every night but he does the dishes. He was 40 when we met though and knew how to look after himself. He didn't come straight from home to me.
You need to have a discussion with your husband, he won't just change unless he is told. Then again, he may not even take in what you are saying, my ex husband didn't.
He always threw it at me that I didn't "work" as hard as him. He soon realized what I did do when I left him. I guess that's another reason I layed down the rules with my current husband.

Amy - posted on 02/20/2016

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Yes! My husband will literally tell me that he's the one who works (as if I don't!) and he shouldn't be expected to do anything around the house or help with the kids. It's BEYOND aggravating! I'm thankful that I'm able to stay home with my kids, but I would like a break sometimes too!

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Brittany - posted on 02/22/2016

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My boyfriend knows I work hard taking care of our daughter and my 7 year old son and keeping up with the house and cooking and everything, he just doesn't want to help. My mom suggested to just stop asking him for help. I'm very grateful for the opportunity to be able to stay home with my kids so she suggested to just do everything myself and stop asking him for anything other than money since he's the sol provider right now. First, I don't agree with any of that, and second trying it for a day is just making me angry and irritated towards him. So I need a new solution.

Shantel - posted on 02/22/2016

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Yes, my husband thinks he is the provider that works so hard. SMH. Which isn't the case. We live on the 3rd floor so sometimes I ask him to take out the trash and he throws a fit like "you where here all day, why couldn't you", I reply "I don't like to keep the baby alone plus trash is heavy and that's the only thing I ask of you". Sometimes he does but NOW I don't even ask. I do everything myself.

Reece - posted on 02/21/2016

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Sadly my husband thinks the same.
He thought am just relaxing the whole day coz i could not keep the house tidy. Though i always make sure he has food to eat. Considering the fact that we have 6 yrs old kid and a 10 months old baby. Plus i am baby sitting his nephew from noon to 6pm in our home. The house is in a total mess and he gets mad all the time saying i did nothing. Grrrr

Brittany - posted on 02/20/2016

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Yea I've done that too sadly and I affect :( But hey, I'm my kids favorite and their smiles & hugs & kisses & laugh makes everyday a great one.

Brittany - posted on 02/20/2016

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How do you deal with that? That is exactly what I'm going through and my boyfriend and I are constantly fighting about it.

Michelle - posted on 02/20/2016

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Nope. My husband was really supportive of me when I was a SAHM as well as working.
He has always helped out around the house with laundry and washing dishes. He has always done his fair share of looking after the children as well.

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