Stay at home moms with husbands who are restaurant managers

Suzanne - posted on 12/30/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My husband is the GM of a restaurant and any woman in my position knows that a typical work week can range from 50 hours to 90 hours. I am starting to realize that my husband is obsessed with work. Our relationship is falling apart because he does not show me any attention unless he wants "something". When I ask for a little appreciation, he says that providing for our family should be enough appreciation and that if I would get a job it wouldn't be so hard on him. I have been looking for a job for 8 months with no luck. I found a job once but he wouldn't let me take it because it didn't pay enough according to him. He says that I should become a restaurant manager again and I would make a good salary that he would be happy with. I have been there done that and it didn't work. Our daughter is in school and we have no way of getting child care for her after school. Also when we had family help us out, they complained about being the one raising our child for us. Our daughter also started acting out in school and getting in trouble. Since I have been at home her attitude has dramatically improved so I know that being there for her is what she needs. When my husband was asked what meant more to him money or spending time with his family, he stated money because that is what makes the world go round. I am just wondering if there are other women out there having the same issues with their husbands. I feel like his whole life is his work. Can anyone give me a few pointers to get past this? It really concerns me because Restaurant Management has one of the highest divorce rates in the country.

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Gretchen - posted on 10/10/2013

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It sounds like your husband has his priorities set way wrong. Of course money is important, but the fact that he said money means more to him than his family should be a big wake up call. As your husband, he should take the time to tell you he appreciates all that you do. Being a mom is a tough job, and a lot of people don't get that. If you both became restaurant managers, you would probably never get time either together OR with your child. I know that it is not always successful, but I think you should at least try to sit your husband down and talk to him about what's going on and how you feel. Marriage is about teamwork! Good luck!

KC - posted on 10/09/2013

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I just saw this post now. Sorry, it's late and I don't have any answer for you but know how you feel as I am in the same boat. If you still need a place to share, we can do it here.

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