Stay home mum need advice to rise up kid

I Am - posted on 07/25/2017 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I have a 4 months old baby with my husband. He has a 10 years old son with his ex but he is problem kid. He tease baby while he know I am not beside them ( he even played his private part ) but my husband never say a word. He left him and his ex cause his ex got laid with men outside so we have him every weekend because his ex is busy with dating. My husband felt guilty to his son so he never say any but spoil him without a bottom line. The kid not know how to tie shoes, do some simple housework but just eat and video games. My husband has no comment about that. But I don't want my baby live in that way. I stay home to take up housework and take care of baby because my husband go for work and second degree. I want to back to outside world. I want to make money and give my baby a better life instead of a apartment, paycheck and paycheck. My husband spend all his saving on his son and his ex for her housing payments before and lost job for a while cause his study. I feel scare and crazy every weekend because I never dare to let my baby leave me because he play him like a toy to fix his bored. I want to leave this crazy house. I want to know how I can have full custody as I don't have a job ? I want to study nursing so I can earn a better life for baby, what should I do to take up baby while I go to study ? My family not in this state for helping.

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Miranda - posted on 07/28/2017

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Good for you to want a better life for your daughter. I recommend reading the Positive Discipline books for your daughter and honestly, you can learn a lot to help you in other relationships. If your using it for your child, he might jump a board because he would know what to do...I like what Anastaisya said, and you can also call 611 and ask for agencies that might be able to help you in your situtation to be able to provide day care so you can go to school etc. Good luck and I wish you the best.

Anastaisya - posted on 07/25/2017

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Hello,
First of all im sorry to hear about your situation! I think you should first speak to your husband and maybe at least try to fix it as any baby needs both mother and father in their life. What I heard about full custody is you cant have it unless you are working and can provide a house and all the rest for your child.
I would still suggest you to try to fix it with your husband, when I say fix it is to find a solution how he can take care of you and both kids yours and his son, because to me its not good if he will leave his child from the first marriage too. You can also try to advise your husband on how to discipline his son in order for his son to grow up a better person.You just have to do it all smart

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